I want to do something special for my wifey. Could some of you Mamas provide a little insight and suggestions on what would make my lovely wife smile. She works so hard as home engineer, I would like to make her feel appreciated and special.
Hey Mamas!!! Help this Papa out...
I hope this does not come off the wrong way, but when I play with our little one and she has time it seems like she spends it doing chores. She is a busy body with always some task that needs completing. Sometimes she takes the time to do her hair. I am looking for more concrete suggestions. I know I can increase the amount of times I do a random foot massage, but I want something creative. Thanks for the reply. Keep the thoughts pouring in.
I really appreciate your continued feedback. So one issue we have is that we currently live 45 miles from civilization. Our home is isolated down a 3 mile dirt road in the middle of the forest right on a beautiful river. She takes walks and plays outside with our little one all day, so taking a walk in the woods is not out of the ordinary. Forcing her into town is more of a chore than a pleasure.
I like the romantic night idea. My fear is that when we put our little one down she only has an hour or so to herself before she crashes for the night or he wakes up and she is working to sooth his soul. That hour is very precious to her as it is one of the few times she has to herself. Perhaps I try something romantic in the AM on a weekend.
Some people always like to be doing something. My granny is like that; she's much rather be making a pie, or restoring some museum piece than watching TV. If that's the case with your wife, you might try steering her towards a hobby rather than chores. What did she like to do before you had kids? Would she really appreciate a gift certificate to an arts & crafts store? Tickets to a comic book convention? New photography equipment? Gym membership? Some of my friends like to go to a painting & wine class. It's a one time thing (not weekly or anything), where they help you paint a picture and you drink. It's supposed to be fun.
There are also some in between options, like a spa day (or even just an appointment to get her hair and nails done), movie tickets, new video game, new book or magazine subscription (with quiet time for reading) or girls' night out.
If you can get a sitter, date night is always a good option. I love spending time with my husband, even if it's just dinner and drinks.
Another option is for you and your son to leave the house. You could take him for a bike ride or a hike. I know personally that I feel refreshed if I have the house to myself for a bit. Even if I am doing chores somehow being baby free in a usually "baby zone" is refreshing and motivating for me to journal or make a phone call or just zone.