Note: I severely edited this post- Mainly because the situation has drastically changed since my post yesterday- I confronted my ex about what was going on last night only to discover that stepmom had left him! I was not anticipating her to get the courage to do it right now, but apparently she did! (for those who did not previously read this post, my children (6, 7) had been coming to me upset because their dad had been fighting with/ verbally and emotionally abusing their stepmom of 3.5 years in front of them. I had left him because of domestic abuse, so I was struggling with how to handle it, and how to help my boys through their potential breakup).
Now I need help with question # 2... How to comfort and help my children deal with this time. They were very attached to stepmom, she was very involved in their lives and care, and due to the nature of the breakup I don't think that she will be on friendly terms with their dad. She may just disappear for now, or for the long-term. i also need some advice on how to handle their dad and custody if things get difficult. Thank you!
Edited by mamakitsune - 5/17/13 at 4:09pm