So, my mother in law is planning to come help for 2-4 weeks after the baby is born and we're trying to figure out when to have her come. We live in California and she'll be coming from Toronto, so it's a pretty significant trip and we'd like to buy the ticket before it gets too expensive. My BIL and his wife and 1 1/2 year old daughter also plan to come on the tail end of her trip (also from TO), both to help out and visit/meet the baby.
What are your recommendations from those of you who have had babies before and know what sort of help is really required, especially for a FTM? When do you think is best for her to come? I definitely don't want to schedule it too early and risk having her show up before the baby is born, because as much as I like her and am looking forward to her helping around the house, it will be incredibly stressful for me to have her here before the birth. Given that I don't have a way of knowing when the baby will actually arrive also makes the planning a bit tricky. As a FTM I hear that it's common to go post dates, but I arrived early for my mom, and I just have a feeling this baby will arrive a bit early too, although what do I know. I also want to have enough time to have settled in a bit before too many visitors arrive.
I should also add that my mom lives only about an hour and a half from us, and is definitely planning to come help out, probably in 2-3 day stints; so we do have some immediate help and it's not urgent to have my MIL right away; although my husband has no more vacation days left at work so will be unable to take any time off (other than the occasional work from home day) when the baby is born. My mom will, however, be juggling between helping me, and my brother, as his wife is due with their first about 6 weeks before me, so I won't have unlimited access to her.
Would love your thoughts ladies!