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First Trimester Blues?

post #1 of 12
Thread Starter 

I thought of starting a new thread instead of depressing everyone in the main chat thread...

 

Anyone else feeling gloomy or sad for no particular reason? I've been having anxiety attacks during the night, waking up in the middle of the night feeling incredibly anxious and upset but I'm not sure about what. I've also been getting up in the morning feeling sad, like something bad happened when nothing actually did. Usually I'm such a morning person...

 

In general I just feel so lousy and every day I'm dragging my feet to get through work&home responsibilities, with more fail than success days greensad.gif It's made worse by the fact that I've been losing my patience with DD a LOT more often lately and snapping at her then feeling horrible/guilty about it. Then feeling even more horrible when SHE comes to make peace & comfort me in her 2-year-old way. Nothing makes me feel more guilty than when she comes gives me a hug and says "are you angry? are you now ok?"...

 

It's probably the cocktail of hormones + fatigue + too much to do. I want to disappear to a remote island and come back when the first trimester is over..

post #2 of 12
*Hugs* I very much know how you're feeling. Most of my physical ickiness is going away (I had an awful cold on top of the usual pregnancy stuff), so now I'm more noticing the emotional symptoms.

I was having nightmares every night for a while, and some of them were pretty disturbing. I haven't had one since my appointment though, so maybe that was anxiety about whether we'd see a heartbeat. Have you seen or heard your baby's heartbeat yet? Maybe, hopefully, that might ease your anxiety a little?

I've also been feeling kinda... emotionally constipated? I feel a lot of time like I need to cry, but can't. I almost want to find something really sad to read just so I can cry and feel better.
post #3 of 12
That's a really good way to put it. I'm on medication for OCD and while it's fabulous it's keeping me 'even' it does nothing for me when I'm feeling SOMETHING so strongly and I can't get it to come out and feel the release of a good cry. Pregnancy is an emotional time, and everyone needs a good cry once in a while. Unfortunately going off my medication is not an option, so I guess some emotional constipation is the lesser of two evils.

I've been finding my depression easing a lot on days when I've been outside doing things. We're digging up the backyard for a garden and taking long walks with the dogs. Keeping busy in the sunshine and making lots of plans has helped a lot.

Maybe you could set a goal of walking a certain distance every week and going a little bit every day? Getting out and enjoying nature with your children can be really healing, and can give you a much needed break. I know Annabelle will happily play in the grass and dirt and the smaller park equipment for hours.
post #4 of 12
Yep, some days start and end with me crying and often all I want to do is lay in bed. It sucks.

I also find being outside makes me feel better. Keeping busy helps but somedays the fatigue is too much and I just feel useless.

<3
post #5 of 12

I cried almost every day when I was pregnant with my third.  I did not want to be pregnant and was not ready for another baby.  I was in labor and telling DH I didn't want a baby.  Once she was here I was fine.  No postpartum depression at all.  If I felt like that again I would ask my midwife about medication.  Really.  Luckily I am doing better accepting this pregnancy and am generally in much better spirits than last time.

post #6 of 12

Yep. I get antenatal depression. Not cool.

post #7 of 12
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Originally Posted by Taryn237 View Post

I cried almost every day when I was pregnant with my third.  I did not want to be pregnant and was not ready for another baby.  I was in labor and telling DH I didn't want a baby.  Once she was here I was fine.  No postpartum depression at all.  If I felt like that again I would ask my midwife about medication.  Really.  Luckily I am doing better accepting this pregnancy and am generally in much better spirits than last time.

*HUGS* I felt a lot of depression and anxiety about having our sixth baby. It was crazy, because she's the only one that I really, actively TTC. I wanted a baby SO badly, and then as soon as I got pregnant, I became convinced that we'd made a huge mistake. I started thinking that our fifth was "supposed" to be a youngest child, and I was messing up her life. I was so upset, and cried myself to sleep at night about it. I don't think I've ever really talked about it before. At the time I didn't tell anyone but DH! Anyway, like you, once she was here I was just so happy to have my sweet little baby! Now she's an adorable 6yo, and everyone loves her to pieces. She and her big sister (number five) are best friends! smile.gif

I'm feeling a little bit of anxiety with this one, as our youngest is almost five and I've long thought we were done having kids. I can't believe we decided to do this again!! But mostly because I'd forgotten just how hard pregnancy really is on me, and I'm feeling guilty about the other kids having to deal with Pregnant Mom again. greensad.gif I'm just reminding myself that it's less than a year, and everything will work out with a sweet new baby at the end.
post #8 of 12
I had an I don't want to pregnant yet breakdown this weekend. I'm tired of feeling sick and having a messy house and the kids are being crazy and dh want being overly helpful so I lost it and just cried... I'm really hoping our vacation in June (6 nights w/o the kids for our tenth anni) brightens my spirits. But I was really hoping to actually get a vacation with dh when I'm not actually pregnant. The only time we get away is when my baby is 2 but by then I'm pregnant again.
post #9 of 12

grouphug.gif

 

Praying that first trimester blues fade quickly for everyone!

post #10 of 12
Thread Starter 

I want to say it's comforting to know I'm not the only one going through these blues but on the other hand, I'm sorry so many of you are!

 

Sorry I started this and then disappeared for a few days.. Michelle, "emotionally constipated" is the perfect way to describe it. Like it's all bottled in and I want to cry it out. The problem is I don't know what "it" is exactly! With DD, I went to work, came home and slept/ate. There were no other responsibilities other than get through the work day. I'd cook a big batch of something and eat that for a few days. I have so much respect for you mamas with more than one kid!

post #11 of 12
Yep, I've got 'em. I'm disappointed that I'm already feeling so many aches and pains. I never love being pregnant, but it's worse this time. A bit because it was unexpected, but more for the further drains on my energy and emotions. I have soooo much to do. I don't know how I'm ever going to catch up. I go to bed early, wake up late, and then strongly desire to lay around until lunchtime. Boo. This summer we're pretty programmed between gym, garden, and our homeschool group. Hoping that will help me... Or at least help the kids get some nice times since I'm such a downer/grumpy Preggo mamma.
post #12 of 12

Oh my gosh, it is SUCH a relief to long on here and read this, I thought I was the only one. Last time I was so sick that I spent the first trimester hating life in general, but it made sense. This time, I am not as sick at all, but by golly I am crabby All The Time, and go between feeling intensely overwhelmed and unable to get ahead on any thing (over due work projects, emails, laundry, house cleaning, clipping my toenails) and being intensely bored, lethargic, and overfed! haha. I also feel bad because as much as I love and welcome my new baby, I really hate being pregnant. I just feel so subject to my body and as weird as it sounds, I hate the objectification of being a pregnant lady... it's so personal, but so public as soon as anybody knows . I don't know, I don't mean to be a downer, but it gives me the icks. Also, my first didn't sleep for more than 40 minute catnaps for the first 6 months at least, and she still wakes me up 4-5 times a night, so the thought of a new baby and the coming sleeplessness makes me want to cry. There. Thats my whole whine. I'm so sorry you all are going through the blues, too. Maybe it will fade with the first trimester! 

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