Edelweiss, I totally get that fear. I try really hard not to call that stuff to me by worrying about it. The mind is a powerful thing. I always envision my babies healthy and strong and full term. I agree getting bigger is the lesser evil. I can't bend over anymore. My poor 2 year old is wondering whats wrong with mommy. * sigh * And I am just now getting heartburn. It sucks.
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I really struggle with not worrying about anything that I hear about in someone else's pregnancy. I am hoping for some reassurance from my doctor Wed. and really the babies have looked good so far. My daughter is almost 4 and says I will get as big as a planet and I'm already bigger than a Komodo dragon.
Thanks Heather, I will look into those sites. I had the same problem early on with my first PG, with my daughter. I was in some due date club on baby center and around 8-9 weeks it seemed like all of them were miscarrying. Now I've since had 3 MC but it made me so worried to go to the bathroom for a few weeks because I thought I'd be bleeding. My husband said people don't post to say everything is going great so I was getting an imbalanced view of how most PG turn out. I went to a twin group last week and one of the moms did go full term, 7+ lb babies who came home with her and had no problems nursing. That's what I'm praying for, but then I get discouraged when I hear other stories.
And this is the Naturally Parenting Twins (sorry, got the name wrong!): http://naturallyparentingtwins.net/wp/
I am certain having your own losses makes it that much harder! Hugs!
Edelweiss- I was/am also nervous about going to the bathroom and seeing blood, although that feeling is finally passing. Our miscarriage was so late last time that this pregnancy feels almost unreal. I think that is one reason we haven't talked too seriously about names and haven't done much prepping around the house...
On another note, your daughter's descriptions are adorable! Now that I am beginning to resemble a planet (and have less range of motion), I guess it is time to start my to do list.
This is my first, so I have nothing to compare "this time around" to, but I must say I feel enormous. I didn't even feel like I was showing until 26 weeks or so, and now I regret my previous impatience to get a "real belly." I've been measuring 2 weeks ahead the whole time and an actual conception date has always been a foggy concept due to miscarrying immediately before this pregnancy, so . . . basically, I hoping I will actually be at term 2 weeks early, please! Pretty please? I used to do yoga every morning and now I don't even like the acrobatics of getting out of bed. And to think I've got (at least!) 10 weeks left. More than anything, I just want to be able to really reach down, bending from my hips, and touch my toes. I'm certainly learning to appreciate the simple things in life! And the poor baby - I've closed doors (to cars and refrigerators in particular) on my belly now too many times to count. The past couple weeks I've been of the DEFINITE opinion that pregnancy is simply too long.
How people have multiples I can only imagine! My heart goes out to anyone carrying twins (or more - unthinkable!). Sincerely. I cannot over-stress how great my sympathy is for you.
I, too, am in awe of moms carrying multiples. And seriously, I have a sick fascination with the 19 kids and counting lady on TV. I mean, really, she didn't try to kill her husband after being pregnant that many times? I *want* more kids, but I really wish the Stork was still in business.
I am 31 weeks and that's still AT LEAST 9 more weeks (my DS pregnancy went to 42 weeks!). Seriously? Come on! Although, elephants have it worse. Way worse.
Xobel - I hear you on the bigness and difficulties. I used to run 50 miles/week and was in constant marathon or ultra marathon training. Now it is hard to get out of bed. But I'm expecting twins and I don't want sympathy. I'm glad to have them and yeah it's way harder than a singleton pregnancy in every way, but I'll reserve my sympathies for people who lose a baby or child at any age or who cannot conceive in the first place.
Edelweiss - Amen to that. I've definitely had those thoughts in the back of my mind - gratitude that I can even make a baby, namely. When I think about the people who lose children, though, I'm just as struck by fear as sympathy. The face of my high school friend's mother at his wake years ago has certainly been burned into my brain like few other images. I myself lost two pregnancies before this one, so I'm quite happy to be carrying on well with Baby Girl.
But I'm still shocked by how paralyzing the process has been. It takes me hours just to psychologically prepare myself for going to the gym! Everything takes such an enormous effort. I swear I don't hate everything about pregnancy! I just strongly dislike many of the physical side-effects . . . namely chronic back pain and four months (and counting) of insomnia. I used to be so active . . . and useful! The garden, the kitchen, and my art supplies all probably think I've died! But on the plus side, whenever people warn me about the "exhaustion and sleep-deprivation" of early parenthood, I can happily take none of it to heart. I don't know what kind of pregnancies other people have, but I just can't imagine sleeping LESS than four or five hours (broken up by peeing, of course) per night with a baby. And falling back asleep after a late-night feeding or diaper change should be a breeze given that I will be able to sleep in nearly any position I choose. This side sleeping business is for the birds, I tell you.
Xobel - it's difficult, for sure. I lost 3 babies before these little guys and my first pregnancy I had antenatal depression among other things. I think the depression during that pregnancy was, in many ways, harder than all the physical stuff I feel now. I am moody and crabby, for sure, but not depressed and it was so hard and I was so worried about PPD, which I'm so thankful to say I didn't suffer. I found sleep deprivation with a newborn to be much easier to handle the pregnancy exhaustion, because for me, pregnancy is like a bone-deep mono tired whereas with a newborn you're exhausted but it's sleep you need and sleep can help, even if you get just a little. I feel exhausted deeply no matter how much sleep I get. Yeah, I rotate left and right side throughout the night. My hips get so sore! Fun times.
It drives me crazy when people (almost always guys) tell you, "Get your sleep now." I slept much better with a newborn than when pregnant! Sure you're up a lot, but when you're sleeping it's restful sleeping, rather than tossing and turning from one uncomfortable position to another until finally you decide you might as well get up and pee yet again.
Both times I distinctly remember the wonderful feeling that first night (both babies born just before midnight) of sleeping in any position I wanted since they all were comfortable.
I had been doing OK, but now my go to position hurts my lower back and the belly just keeps growing. Iggy is pretty well behaved and likes to do little wiggles usually rather than gymnastics on my cervix.
Bee can into my bed at 2 am and insisted I take her diaper off, so we both got to go potty. Thank goodness she was dry the rest of the night.
Really I can't think of much at the end of pregnancy that is not better after baby. Eating, sleeping, sitting still...