My dd just turned 1 two weeks ago and up until the last 3 weeks she has never been sick. During the week of her birthday she had a fever and it lasted for 6 days. I did not give her any medication during that time. I used homeopathic remedies to keep her fever at a normal range and breastfed her almost exclusively because she would not eat food. When her fever disappeared all was well and she seemed to have no side effects.
Fast forward to 3 weeks later and my dd gets a fever (after interacting with someone that had the flu/stomach bug the day before) in the evening and has red cheeks which I assume is a result of teething. Then the next day she is a little off but didn't appear to have a fever until around 11am. I didn't end up taking her temp. until we arrived at my MIL around 5pm as we had been out doing errands. Her temp was 103. She was nursed and rubbed down with a cool cloth and given lots of drinks and also a bath. Fast forward to 6:30 and her temp. only goes down to 102.7. At this point my MIL is freaking out and saying,
"Something must be wrong with her! It isn't normal for her to have fevers so much! You need to give her medication. This isn't good for her! She could get brain damage and have seizures. I don't understand why you don't want her fever to go down!"
My MIL thought that I didn't want her fever to go down (which wasn't the case. I didn't want medication to make her fever go down if I could help it) and this escalated into a blow up in which my husband I left and my MIL refused to talk to us and "watch her granddaughter suffer in front of her".
Once home I massaged my dd with peppermint oil (in a carrier oil) and after waiting a bit I then took her temp. and it went down to 101.3. After that I nursed her and put her down for the night.
Sorry this is so long. I just need some advice. Am I doing the right thing? Is my attitude about fevers correct? The knowledge I have gathered about fevers is that it is the body's normal response to infection of some sort and that your child's immune system will be stronger because of it. Is my MIL right? Am I practically abusing my daughter by letter her have a fever? I am willing to give her medication if it stayed and temp. that was too high, but my gut instinct told me that she was not feeling well but that we were not in a danger zone. I have just tried to keep her fever within a normal range and keep her comfortable.
Any advice would be most welcome! I just want to do the right thing!