My 17.5 year old DS told me today he thinks he is bi-sexual. He finds guys as attractive as girls. He's not sure if he's gay.
He hung out with a friend last night. Then this morning I noticed hickeys on his neck. So I teased him and asked him who gave them to him. He's had a steady girlfriend for the last 7 months but they broke up on Thursday evening. So I was tossing out names of girls I know and then jokingly said the fellow's name that he was with last night. He ran downstairs and put a hoodie on to hide the hickeys. Then he came back up and told me I had better sit down. So I did and he told me it was the fellow he hung out with last night who gave him the hickeys. Then he said, "Mom I think I'm bi." So I said oh wow thank you for trusting me with this. I love you. He was relieved. He made me swear not to tell anyone else. I said of course not. We talked about some different issues around this. I told him he didn't owe me anything but honesty and being himself and if this was part of it then fine. I told him I didn't think he should "advertise" this around because we live in a very small rural town. I want him to finish high school without the stress and drama of an alternate sexuality. He agreed. He's not entirely sure of his orientation and I want him to have the privacy to figure this out.
So now what do I do? Have any of you had anything similar? I'm kind of reeling in shock and need to talk but I don't want to violate his privacy either. TIA for insight.