Here lately, ever time we take our daughter out to eat, it almost always is a crying screaming disaster. My almost 2 year old screams and cries the entier time. I try telling her to be quiet, I try giving her something to play with; coloring books, reg books. puzzle, watch tv on my phone. Nothing works. When she is ready to go, she lets everyone know. It is so embarassing. I don't even want to take her anymore. Advice????
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Dinner Disaster....post #1 of 95/18/13 at 7:48pmThread Starterpost #2 of 95/18/13 at 7:55pm
I think that going to a restaurant can be too stimulating for many toddlers - lots of strange people, noise, interesting foods. It seems fun for a while, but then the child breaks down. Two of my children used to be like that, especially if we were going out to eat with friends or family. Honestly, we just stopped going out to eat for a few years, or went a lot less, because it was too stressful and exhausting.post #3 of 95/18/13 at 7:58pmThread Starterpost #4 of 95/18/13 at 8:14pmMy DD goes through phases. When we're in a difficult one, we avoid the stuff that sets her off. When she's more calm then she tolerates the same things better. Honestly I feel like eating out with a screaming toddler is a waste of money so we get take out or better yet pack a picnic and go to the park. She will eat for a while then she can play while DH and I finish up. I think there's plenty of time to eat out as a family; it's not a high priority for me at 2 years old. In fact preferably she goes to visit grandma for a couple of hours while mommy and daddy have a lovely, calm meal and reconnectpost #5 of 95/18/13 at 8:17pm
I think in the last few weeks I've seen multiple threads about this exact subject, how funny how we're all going through this now! I think the general consensus from the other threads is that, really, it ISN'T worth it! The only thing that works for my 15 month old is to realize in advance the longest time that she will be able to sit still, which for her is about 15 minutes under ideal circumstances Then plan to walk her around the entire remaining time of the outting.post #6 of 95/18/13 at 11:07pmYep, yep, yep. We don't go out for fun at the moment. We eat out for family obligation - usually birthdays. Sometimes it's better than others but I go with the expectation that I will be "on duty" not sitting enjoying a meal and a conversation. I have found that this is the best way for me not to feel resentful.
We have found that not sitting down until the food is on the table works best for us.post #7 of 95/19/13 at 4:32amWe stopped going out to eat for a while. It isn't their fault they're overstimulated, though I did miss going out too. We did take-out and it was really much more enjoyable during that phase than going out was.
IMO, you have to weigh three things:
1. Your desire to eat out and how enjoyable it is in these circumstances.
2. Your child's ability to handle it.
3. How it affects everyone else in the restaurant.
For me, when I weighed those three issues, it made me decide to do take-out instead of going out for a while.
And toddlers throw fits in situations where they're overstimulated and out of their ability to behave well. They can't really help it at that age.post #8 of 95/19/13 at 6:19am
We rarely take our almost 2 year old to any restaurant that isn't a fast one. Not McD's but we have several local restaurants that cook fresh food right on the spot, 5 minutes of waiting if that. Anything else usually ends up with one parent waiting outside with the toddler. If my kids can't sit still and be quiet in a restaurant (which is really a task for an older child to accomplish), then we don't belong there, it's common curtesy to me.post #9 of 95/19/13 at 6:29am
I think it's very normal to have a phase (or phases) where you just can't go out to eat with your toddler. Sometimes it only lasts a short while. Our son (almost 3) has always been relatively easy and well-behaved in restaurants. We go out quite often. However he's had some phases and we just didn't go out for a few weeks and then it was over. Not a big deal.
In one way, yes it is selfish of you because you are not considering that it must really annoy the other people trying to have a nice meal out. Even other parents might get annoyed if it is a huge screaming tantrum. One way to avoid that would be to go very early, like at 6:00. In a way, if someone is out that early they can only expect it to be "family time" and it's sort of their problem. KWIM? When we go out to eat it's usually early and if any scene were to erupt I'd feel less guilty about ruining other people's meal because hey, it's fracking 6pm and what do you expect?
But really, more than anything, it is ruining your meal. Why bother then? It's just a waste of money in that case. Save your nerves and do takeaway. Try again in a few weeks or a month or two, and it may have passed These things always pass.....
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