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post #21 of 24
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Yes, better.
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Originally Posted by Linda on the move View Post
 

Your son has completely given up, so you have to do something completely different.

I agree with this completely.  The grounding isn't working.  I know his behavior is frustrating, but it really sounds like he is going through something, and you need to address whatever that is.

 

It does sound a lot like depression to me, or maybe even possible OCD issues.  Sometimes simple tasks can become very difficult if it triggers OCD rituals in one's head, and I know I used to exhibit avoidance behaviors like that and preferred to just be seen as ditzy or lazy.

 

It sounds like he needs counseling, and perhaps a therapist that works with the whole family could be helpful as well.

 

Good luck!  It is so hard when we don't know how to reach our children.

post #23 of 24

I'm glad to hear things are better, but jeez everything you described was cruel. You have a homeschooled child that you grounded, including from computer, for five months- what kind of social interaction was that child getting? Public/private school'd children who are grounded still see their friends at school, eat with them at lunch, talk to classmates- it sounds like your son was basically under house arrest for five months, no wonder he got depressed and hopeless.

 

Not only that, but the fact that your husband wants to get rid of him for fairly normal teen behavior (not acceptable, and not good- his actions were a huge red flag of needing help, because teens do need help from their parents- it's why we don't kick them out the second they hit 13!) is a GIANT red flag and a huge betrayal. I hope that your step-son never found out his own father was even thinking about kicking him out. What will happen when the kids you two have together hit puberty?

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Originally Posted by Kittymom View Post

I agree with this completely.  The grounding isn't working.  I know his behavior is frustrating, but it really sounds like he is going through something, and you need to address whatever that is.

It does sound a lot like depression to me, or maybe even possible OCD issues.  Sometimes simple tasks can become very difficult if it triggers OCD rituals in one's head, and I know I used to exhibit avoidance behaviors like that and preferred to just be seen as ditzy or lazy.

It sounds like he needs counseling, and perhaps a therapist that works with the whole family could be helpful as well.

Good luck!  It is so hard when we don't know how to reach our children.
It sounds a lot more like his parents need counseling.
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