Aside from all this emotional stuff, my main complaint is terrible afterpains. No one told me they get worse with each kid!
How is everyone else who has birthed?
PM, Hope you are feeling like hormones are leveling out a bit!
PBM, So glad you got your clogged duct worked out. Sorry about the thrush. That sounds rough!
By some bizarre chance I seem to actually be feeling more balanced hormonally now than when I was pregnant. We'll see how long it lasts but I'm thankful for it for now.
Recovering from the c-section is going pretty well. I'm feeling pretty good overall. My bowels were really slow to resume this time which was weird for me. Thank goodness the water retention passed quickly and I now have ankles again!
We are treasuring these days with Decker and trying to stay connected to and love on the girls too. There have been some bumps along the way but I feel like we are doing ok. Decker is showing some signs of reflux already which I am bummed about. Both the girls had it and I was really hoping to avoid it this time. Oh well. He's just such a little love, I hate to see them in pain. He's super sleepy so I have to bug him to get him to nurse well but he's getting it. I'm trying to figure out getting engorgement under control. I don't want to pump too much because I don't want to stimulate more milk. Last time I was tandem nursing so having a toddler took care of that!
Thank you for this thread, PM! I totally understand the nighttime dread. It is just something about facing the unknown night to come and knowing that you have no control over it. I had that feeling so many times with my previous babes who were fussy at night!
CoBaby, I am sorry Decker is showing signs of reflux. My boys both had reflux, so I totally understand! When my milk came in this time, i was just waiting for the reflux/screaming to start. By some blessing, we seem to have a non-reflux baby this time. Just when I was starting to get used to the uncomfortable engorgement, it went away...so hopefully you are there soon.
nstewart - I had gender disappointment when DS2 was born. But now, as my 2 boys play together, giggling and laughing - sometimes fighting -, I really cannot imagine them not having each other for brothers.
AFM - I have had a less than ideal post-partum course. I was sick a week before Arwen was born (fever, sore throat, cough, sinus congestion, muscle soreness), and just when it started to go away, she was born. 2 days after she was born, it came back, and I am still sick. I have been so frustrated by feeling miserable and trying not to cough on her when I want to be nuzzling, snuggling my sweet girl. Luckily, DH had 2 weeks off, so at night he could take her to sleep in the living room with him so I could get some rest to try to fight off this illness. She is a noisy sleeper, and I am a light sleeper...not a good combo. And has anyone else dealt with night-sweats? I wake up drenched every night. Some nights, I know it was from fever, but I guess it is also a post-partum hormonal thing.
But Arwen is just the mellowist thing (compared to my 2 screaming/colicky boys at least!). She behaved like a pre-term baby in the beginning, and I had to wake her to feed (again, very different than my boys who nursed constantly!). She was also tongue-tied, lost more than 10% by the 2nd day, and was slow to gain weight, not pooping, etc. I had bleeding nipples (THAT was interesting...I pumped once when I was engorged and it looked like beet juice). We got her tongue-tie fixed at 1 week, and weight gain has picked up some since then. The blessing of being so sick was that I could basically do nothing but lay in bed for 2 weeks, with a baby draped across my chest during the day, so I have actually taken more time to soak in all her newborn sweetness than I did with my boys. I just never believed that babies actually existed that would eat, burp, then go back to sleep for 2 WHOLE HOURS without hours of screaming. We just feel so blessed to have one of these mysterious babies I have always heard about!
DH went back to work yesterday, and I survived my first outing with Arwen and my boys to take her to an ENT to check on her tongue and ears. She still has not passed a hearing screen...apparently her canals are narrow. I will feel much less anxious about her hearing when we retest in a few weeks and she hopefully passes.
Today I get to find out what it is like to get DS1 to/from afternoon pre-k with a newborn. I guess 2nd, 3rd, etc babies don't get to nap however long they want if it interferes with the other kids' schedule, right?
Hey Mamas! I can't say how happy I am to not be pregnant anymore! Yippee!! Day 5 here and so happy to be past labor/birth/after pains and my milk coming in was easy this time, ahhhhhh.... Now we just need to find our way with sleep, which I am sure will be a journey.
RE: breast pads, I've only every used reusables, but never really had a ton of leakage. This time I have much less than I did last. Last time I did leak a lot at night and didn't sleep with a top at all, I just laid on top of a puddle pad with some flat cds on top so I could change them out. This time (so far, of course) I only seem to leak when nursing on the other side or if I am full and Lennox either cries or roots/sucks his fingers, so I wear pads in the day, but I have hardly had to change them and at night just keep a burp cloth close by. I pretty much live in nursing tanks and the cloth pads stay well in those.