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post #21 of 76
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Yep, that is normal. I will probably be done bleeding after about two weeks too. Mine is already very light in color and flow at 11 days.
post #22 of 76
That was me last time TJ. This time I'm on week 4 and still have light to moderate bleeding. My friend bled for the full 6 weeks with her first. There is a big range of normal. I'm getting pretty tired of wearing full back undies and pads though. Anyone know if I could use my Diva Cup at this point?
post #23 of 76
I wouldn't put anything inside your vagina for a while. I'd worry about infection, ya know? If you're still bleeding then there is still an unhealed wound. I hated wearing pads, too. Yuck. Felt like I had a freaking pillow between my legs and I'd unintentionally purchased the largest granny panties to wear. :/ They went above my belly button. Haha!
post #24 of 76

Thanks PBM.  I guess I'll have to wait two or so more weeks...Interesting that it's a wound.  I assumed it was just like shedding, like with a period.  I didn't have any tearing, so you mean in the uterus?  The undies I got are not quite that bad...but I usually wear stretchy gstrings so the fullback thing is not comfortable to me!  

post #25 of 76
I bled for 8 weeks with my first.. Seemed like forever! This time it's already lightening up quite a bit and I'm only 6 days PP. I'm glad, however I'm dealing with a lot of irritation "down there" from wearing pads all the time but not having a heavy flow. I'm guessing. I've been having Epsom salt baths and dropping calendula into the bath water as well, doesn't seem to be helping, but maybe if I manage to do it everyday. Anyone else suffering this? Any ideas for me? I can't not wear pads. And I don't have cloth pads or anywhere where I could get some quickly. I didn't have this problem last time! So I was not prepared.
post #26 of 76
Hey all, I'm 4.5 weeks PP so I'm feeling pretty much normal. Still having occasional spotting, but I've had that for awhile. I really didn't bleed anything more than light after the first few days. My c-section incision hurts when I touch it or if I stretch/bend in a funky way, but otherwise pain is gone for me completely. All my IV spots are still healing up from my 10 day stay in the hospital and I've already dropped half the weight I gained. I've got plenty of new stretch marks on my belly and thighs, but they'll fade away to near-invisible soon enough. My belly is still jelly, but has shrunk down quite a bit now, still can't fit in my regular pants but I didn't expect to be able to yet smile.gif

Emotionally I'm doing much better this time around because I'm getting much more sleep than with DD1 and I feel like I mostly know what I'm doing. It really puts into perspective just how high needs she was (and still is for a toddler) as my two easy going infants are giving me more sleep eyesroll.gif Breastfeeding is going great now, only supplementing a couple ounces of formula a day and I figure that will be nothing soon and I'm not having to pump more than once a day if that anymore, at the start I was pumping after every feed (or attempted feed) so that is nice too. Did actually BF them both together once on my twin pillow, but it didn't go well as without much head control there just aren't enough hands to hold everything, but I think it will work fine once they get some head control.

It is frustrating with two at times for sure when they are both crying or right now where they appear to both be growth spurting so they want to eat more than every 3 hours so I feel like I never get a moment, even though I do. I am watching so much TV right now and reading stuff on my Ipad, it's too hard to read books while BFing in the early weeks/months for me. It is great having Netflix and the apple TV and so on this time around, makes it so I have access to a lot more stuff and am not just mostly watching terrible daytime television smile.gif
post #27 of 76
"..Interesting that it's a wound. I assumed it was just like shedding, like with a period."
nstewart How my midwife explained it when she showed us the placenta was that since it was attached to the uterus, then where it detached was a wound that had to heal. If that makes sense? smile.gif

I am healing really well, to my delight! I was anticipating a much tougher post partum recovery, simply based on how things went last time. But instead I had a very different (so much better:) labour and so I was not exhausted after, I barely tore and am not nearly as sore, and my hormones have been much more even. Which especially surprised me because I was a total emotional roller coaster during the pregnancy. And even the first bowel movement after was easy, hah:)

Unfortunately, everything is not 100% great. My husband is driving me up the wall. He is feeling sorry for himself and I don't have a lot of sympathy. Like he has been complaining about being tired despite having no reason to. He has had naps ( yes plural) everyday, including while I was in early labour and after. He is sleeping on the futon so his sleep is not interrupted at night and my family has been helping, so he hasn't had any more to do really at all. And this morning he has been so cranky. He came in this morning with our son complaining to me about how he didn't sleep well (try nursing a baby all night) and then made our son cry and was moaning about how he doesn't feel like he has a "right to complain". Not to me! I don't want to hear it. Not to mention the fact that I had to talk to him again about making "jokes" about giving away/ selling our son. I know dh finds our son difficult as he is quite spirited, but that is not all right. Ds has has been acting out a little more in the past few days, but he has been dealing with adjusting to a new sibling and we were expecting this. It hasn't been that bad either, other than dropping my phone into a bucket of water:), but dh can't handle it. And then he started comparing our "wild" son with our "good" girl:( I mean way to set their sibling relationship off to a good start, jeez. Ugh, I wasn't pregnant with twins and did not sign up for dealing with two babies. Oh well, we'll muddle through somehow:)
post #28 of 76
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Originally Posted by Mama4life14 View Post

I'm dealing with a lot of irritation "down there" from wearing pads all the time but not having a heavy flow. I'm guessing. I've been having Epsom salt baths and dropping calendula into the bath water as well, doesn't seem to be helping, but maybe if I manage to do it everyday. Anyone else suffering this? Any ideas for me? I can't not wear pads. And I don't have cloth pads or anywhere where I could get some quickly. I didn't have this problem last time! So I was not prepared.

I have been feeling kind of itchy and uncomfortable down there, and I didn't put 2 and 2 together until I read this. I haven't used "normal" pads in about 5 years... just my diva cup and a cloth pad as backup. I bet it's the Always pads irritating me. Going to shower and switch to my cloth pad stash.

Can you maybe fold up a dark washcloth and use that as a pad?
post #29 of 76
I get irritated wearing pads as well and switched to the diva cup last year. But I have been using organic disposable pads and it hasn't been a problem at all. Maybe you could look into getting something a little more natural with no bleach?
post #30 of 76
Thanks TJ and SB. I never thought of using a washcloth. That is actually a really great idea. The pads that I have been using are Kotex brand and they say "natural" on them. I'll have to look a little closer on the package. My flow has lightened up quite a bit now. Hope it stays that way. Thanks for the input ladies smile.gif
post #31 of 76
Something I'm struggling with is knowing the "correct" balance of holding the baby, wearing the baby, and putting the baby down. Now that DH is back at work, it's just her and I at home all day. I feel guilty about not holding her or wearing her all the time, but I need some "me" time as well. If I have to put her down, what's the best way to do it? Assuming she's either sleeping or awake/happy with all the options, should I put her in the swing, on a blanket on her back, on a blanket on her tummy, etc? What's best for baby?
post #32 of 76
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Originally Posted by scary biscuits View Post

How my midwife explained it when she showed us the placenta was that since it was attached to the uterus, then where it detached was a wound that had to heal. If that makes sense? smile.gif

This, exactly. The bleeding is coming from where the placenta was attached. Until it is healed, it would be a good entry point for germs and susceptible to infection.
post #33 of 76
Thread Starter 
Tj - I think if your baby will be put down happily, you should just follow your instincts. My daughter would not be out of arms without screaming until she was almost six months! I'm still getting used to having a son who sometimes wants me to put him down and doesn't seem to enjoy co sleeping! We had to use a swing with my daughter, but I'm not going to with Todd unless I have to because it became a real crutch for her that we had to wean her off of.

Day 14 here. Went tithe doctor and she prescribed Zoloft and therapy. I started the Zoloft today and feel good so far. It will take awhile to see results I think.

Todd had a terrible fussy evening last night! I think it was gas or poop related. He didn't poop for about twelve hours and then had a huge one. Luckily my grandmother came over and took him while I slept some. He always calms down for her - she has that magic touch with babies.

My daughter (who is two) is really struggling. Or should I say I'm really struggling with her natural reactions to a new sibling? Throwing major fits with hours of howling, now being able to get herself settled down, wanting to stay away from home like over at her grandmas. It's really tough! I feel for her and yet I can't constantly put the baby down while he's nursing to comfort her.

My husband has a weekend pass home from his rehab facility this weekend. It will be the first time we have seen him since April 20. I'm trying to prepare for it, but know it will be overwhelming and difficult. Still not sure where we stand and not really wanting to invest emotionally in it at this particular time ...
post #34 of 76

I've been lurking but just can't seem to formulate responses very well.  I'd never really looked into WHY we bleed, that's interesting!  I do notice a difference for me using organic pads this time.  Last time I had so much irritation, it was like a diaper rash.  Awful!  So if you are having irritation I would recommend that.

 

PM, I hope that the Zoloft helps soon.  It sounds like there is A LOT going on in your life.  Praying that things go ok during this weekend's visit!

 

TJ. I agree, if your baby let's you put her down there isn't "correct" place.  Just do what works for you and your baby.  You will likely find your rhythm over time and it will change as baby changes.

 

We hit two weeks yesterday.  I feel like things are ok.  I'm sort of over this time of recovery and healing but I know it will pass.  My mind says, "Let's go out and do things!  Get stuff done!  Have some fun on these sunshiney days.  Start exercising!"  My body says, "Rest.  Rest.  Leave the house enough to keep your sanity but keep things low key."  I go for my 2 week follow-up appointment tomorrow so we'll see how things look.

 

I've had a couple little emotional meltdowns but feel mostly ok.  I'm super anxious about my parents visit next weekend but I'm trying to just pray about it.  I keep replaying bad scenarios in my head where they attack my parenting/me and i know that's not helping.  It's a really short visit so hopefully it will be fine.

 

I survived two days completely on my own with three kids!  A few tough parts but that is typical.  Some sweet parts too.  I did loose it and snapped at DD1 last night but today we start new.  She has NO body awareness and I really struggle with patience in that sometimes.  She is right in poor Decker's face (and since I'm holding him often, mine too) ALL DAY.  So we are trying to work on that but it's tricky.  I don't want to be on her case constantly but the behavior is constant.  Oh sensory processing issues are fun! :/

post #35 of 76

1 week pp for me, and breastfeeding is hard. We had problems with DS swallowing at first and I had to feed him with a syringe a few times, but it seems like he's over that now, thank heavens. Now the problem is the toe-curling, swear-like-a-sailor, this-is-worse-than-labor pain when he latches on. I have the typical symptoms of a shallow latch--new-lipstick-shaped nipples that are white at the tip when he comes off the breast, but even though I know what the problem is I'm having a hard time fixing it. I've read/watched all the articles and videos I can find on getting a better latch, but it's still very painful. It's hard not having someone that can help me in person--I'm in Romania, and there really aren't any breastfeeding help resources here. I guess all I can do is keep trying different positions/latching techniques, and see what eventually ends up working for us. But for now, OUCH!

post #36 of 76
Have you checked to see if he's tongue tied?
post #37 of 76

3 weeks postpartum for us and DD is up 2lbs from her lowest weight. The first 10 days-2 weeks was tough for nursing though, as I really struggled to get her to open her mouth enough for a good latch. My nipples were constantly sore for 2 weeks. Then once she hit 2 weeks she finally got how to latch properly. The only down side is now that she has a good latch she is also spitting up a lot at every feed, probably due to my oversupply and forceful letdown (had it with the boys too.)

 

I've now been home alone with all 3 children for 2 weeks now. It has gone a lot better than I thought it would. It probably helps that Megan sleeps for a couple of hours in the morning, and the boys have a nap for a couple of hours in the afternoon. Both boys adore their new baby sister and constantly want to kiss and hold her which is so sweet, but also gets a bit much when they constantly ask to kiss her when she is nursing.

post #38 of 76
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Have you checked to see if he's tongue tied?

this was my thought too. How is weight gain? My babe was tongue-tied, slow to gain weight. We had it clipped when she was 1 week (she only needed a tiny snip), but at 4 weeks, I am still having that first 10-20 seconds of toe-curling pain if I am not really patient about waiting for a really wide open mouth (she still doesn't get her tongue forward enough). I sometimes have luck using my finger to pull her chin down after she is latched as well. I am sorry you don't have BF support.

post #39 of 76
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Originally Posted by SteeleTig View Post

Have you checked to see if he's tongue tied?


I've looked in his mouth when he cries and it doesn't look like it to me. I'm not sure about weight gain--they weighed him at birth, but not when we left the hospital and when I asked the pediatrician when I should bring him in again (assuming that he'd need well-baby checkups or something every once in a while) she said whenever I felt like there was a problem, or if I had questions. So maybe they don't care too much about weight gain here? He's got good diaper output (3-4 dirty, 8+ wet per day) and I can hear him swallow really well when he eats, so I'm pretty sure he's getting enough to eat. That's a good idea to pull his chin down after he's latched--does that actually work? I thought that once you had a bad latch you couldn't fix it, you just had to detach and try again.

post #40 of 76
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I've looked in his mouth when he cries and it doesn't look like it to me. I'm not sure about weight gain--they weighed him at birth, but not when we left the hospital and when I asked the pediatrician when I should bring him in again (assuming that he'd need well-baby checkups or something every once in a while) she said whenever I felt like there was a problem, or if I had questions. So maybe they don't care too much about weight gain here? He's got good diaper output (3-4 dirty, 8+ wet per day) and I can hear him swallow really well when he eats, so I'm pretty sure he's getting enough to eat. That's a good idea to pull his chin down after he's latched--does that actually work? I thought that once you had a bad latch you couldn't fix it, you just had to detach and try again.

Wow, what a different health care system! US docs are so concerned about weight gain (probably too much so) :) His output seems good.

Yes, it does work to pull their chin down after they are latched, but it is much better for your nipples and babe's learning if you are just really patient and wait for a really wide open mouth, being sure to make a nipple 'sandwich' (use one hand to compress your nipple/areola), and then bringing baby to your breast really fast to get as much of the areola in as possible. I always recommend cross cradle position to get babes latched on because it gives the most control over head and breast. Then, after babe is on, switch to a regular cradle hold. Sorry if this is way too much info! As and L&D nurse, I work with a lot of new moms/babes on establishing breastfeeding!

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