scary biscuits, sorry your DH is being such a pain
My DH has been much better this time around than last, but still he complains to me about being tired and various other things too and it is hard to have any sympathy. He has tried to keep his complaints to a minimum, so I do my best to sympathize/empathize. The worst was he was starting to complain about missing me (I was sleeping in the living room with the twins, first because of BP and not climbing stairs except for my shower, then just because it was convenient to be near the sink and whatnot with all the pumping/bottles/etc.) so I finally moved back upstairs last week, now he is complaining about not getting enough sleep
twilightjoy, first, it is ok to put your baby down for sure! I usually put mine down in their bouncy seats or in the pack-n-play, once they are older, I'll use the floor too usually on a blanket with toys around. I usually don't put babies on their tummies unless I am right there as they don't enjoy it
I wouldn't bother with a swing or turning on the bouncy seat vibration or things like that if they are happy, don't want it to become a crutch if you can avoid it! As far as the right balance, if your baby is happy to be put down, I wouldn't worry about balance. If you want to pick your baby up, do, if you want to take a break, do some chores, etc. and set your baby down, do
As far as supplements, my ped recommended vitamin D, but we are still supplementing some with formula so I'm not worried about it right now. I prefer to supplement myself, so I'll probably go that route. I already take extra vitamin D, but would need to up it more once I eliminate formula completely.
I hope the Zoloft works well for you! My 3.5 DD is having some trouble too, though she is trying hard, she definitely gets jealous or starts acting out for attention when DH & I are both busy with a baby.
CoBaby, I hope the visit from your parents goes well and congrats on surviving with 3 kids by yourself for that long! I've done the 3 by myself a few times, but only for short periods with DH just 10 minutes away or upstairs sleeping if I needed him. I hear you on body awareness, DD is having a hard time with that too and DH and I both feel like we are constantly nagging/yelling/reminding her to be careful and slow down. A few things that helped were having a space where the babies stay most of the time when she is around so there is no running/jumping/etc. in that space. She really wants to help and love on the babies, but she just isn't careful enough to do a lot of what she wants to do, it's tough, can't wait for them to be a bit less fragile!
Gabi, sorry for the latching problems! Alice for me is always trying to sneak a shallow latch or readjust to one and it sucks! I just keep delatching and relatching and sometimes I am able to adjust her on the breast as others have said. DD1 did the same, but it got better with her as she grew and her mouth got bigger and it is already better with both Alice & Oliver at 6 weeks than at the start when I was mostly pumping and feeding them via bottles as their mouths were too small and they would fall asleep too quickly at the breast. I still have to sandwich my breast a bit to get Alice to take it properly, Oliver is pretty good at getting a deep latch now without much help. Cross cradle definitely works better for me for getting a good latch too!
Lynann, glad BFing is going better, for me too! Glad having 3 kids by yourself for that long of a stretch is going well
PBM, I'm so sorry about your babe not liking the carseat, DD1 was like that until ~13 months and it sucked
I feel very lucky the twins like their carseats!
Had my 6 week appointment on Tuesday and everything is looking good, c-section scar is healing well and we are all doing pretty well. Picked up a prescription for the mini-pill for now, but I want to talk to DH about him getting the big-V, we'll see. I haven't gotten my birth story up yet, but one of my ovaries was removed during my c-section as it had a huge cyst, turned out to be a dermoid cyst and not malignant, but it would likely have kept growing and caused issues and the need for surgery later down the road, so I'm glad I was able to avoid having two surgeries! We saw it on an early U/S, but weren't sure until they were in there what would need to be done. My OB said there is a procedure out-patient that they can do on me that is pretty easy since I only have one tube/ovary to worry about, but she said I shouldn't mention it to my DH necessarily as she figures I've been through enough and it is his turn. I'm not sure what I want to do yet, I may end up doing the procedure myself once I am able to research it, though I had originally planned to convince DH to get a V. I know we are definitely done having kids! Anyone else thinking about BC?