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Advice for mom of highly gifted toddler

post #1 of 12
Thread Starter 

Hello, my name is Esmeralda.

I would like some advice, if possible, from the fine members of this forum on things I can do for my son.
I'm not sure if it's possible to get a two and a half year old assessed, or if I could, where I would take him for that.
A quick overview:

He is not yet three and can read, and write, and count in a number of different languages.

He knows the English, greek, spanish, and russian alphabets and is learning the japanese "alphabet". He's also fascinated by farsi and arabic but has not learned them... yet.

I have proof that I'm not making this up. I've been videorecording him on a regular basis.

Reading a book:












I believe he's using some kind of memory tools, because he seems to have an extraordinary capacity for recall.

I am not equipped to deal with this. I can be a loving mother, but I cannot teach him another language, because I simply don't know any other languages. I try to learn all I can for him, but he outstrips me faster than I can even explain.


I'd like to be able to provide him with some other resources and I'm just not sure where to turn. Once he's old enough for school I can maybe get him into a gifted program, but for now, I'm not sure what to do. I'd love to have him- as I said before- assessed- but I don't know how to go about this. Does anyone here have experience with a child who requires tutoring or help *before* they're school age? The caveat here is that I'm fairly low income, so I can't send him to a swanky montessori school or anything.






post #2 of 12
Every child needs love, so you are doing a terrific job!

I did pretty much what you are doing, just tried to keep up. I didn't have any money for tutors, preschools, etc. Be open to learning opportunities around you. Maybe there's a neighbor who is from another country and can "teach" that language and culture. Most libraries have an interlibrary loan program, so you may be able to request things there. We had a library volunteer who was from the Czech Republic. Unfortunately, my son was mostly science oriented. Oh, well.

I wish you well. It sounds like you are a loving mother. And that's important!
post #3 of 12
Thread Starter 
Thanks so much. I guess I'm just feeling a little overwhelmed/ insufficient. I want him to be challenged, because that's when he's happiest, but I cannot challenge him at what he excels most at, and that frustrates me a little.
Lucky for me, grandpa speaks a couple languages and likes to teach him stuff here and there.
Science oriented would be easier for me, I'd be all over that! Hahah!
post #4 of 12

I did watch the videos and how exciting that is, two/three were tough ages for me with my little one because like you have said I could not keep up with her desire for more challenges!


No advice except to say that the other poster was right, be open to opportunities and maybe some videos, cd's of languages that he can listen to. 

What a darling guy he is, you must be so proud :)

post #5 of 12



just wondering if you would be interested in a support group for Highly Gifted + children's parents http://www.facebook.com/groups/HighlyGifted/ We have some other parents of young ones on there. 

If interested you just need to check you other folder on Facebook after you have clicked "join".


There are other groups also available on http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/on-line_support.htm


It is hard, its sometimes good to know there are others out there who have been through it or are going through it with you.



Take Care,





post #6 of 12
Wow, that is really remarkable. What an incredible little guy! Yes, you are doing a great job. Fasten your seat belt -- it is highly likely that no school will be able to even remotely accommodate your son. Is homeschooling a possibility?
post #7 of 12

If you're in the US, you could contact the Davidson Institute.



Also, have you heard of hyperlexia?

post #8 of 12
Something else to consider is that children who are highly gifted in one area sometimes struggle with, or miss out on other things. Maybe you could concentrate on exposing him to other activities, ideas, skills etc. especially if his grandfather is able to help with the languages and you are interested in sciences.
post #9 of 12
I let people on boards scare me into paying for a very expensive eval when my DS4.5 was 19 mos. He was reading
At mid first grade level, knew all the states and capitals, planets, dinosaurs, could write and spell and many more amazing things. He did not have hyperlexia, he is profoundly gifted! He had IQ testing at 3yrs and again last month, Both tests showed him to be PG and his above level achievement testing came back at 99.9% in all areas.
My son prefers to play with other gifted children but gets along very well with other children older and younger.
Adults find him to be charming and his teachers adore him. So far he shows no deficits in any area.
My advice to you is to seek advice on the Davidson Gifted Forum.
post #10 of 12

I meant to address testing when I originally replied.  Testing is not particularly reliable in the preschool years, and is generally deemed reliable from age 8 on.  Unless there's an explicit reason to attempt testing prior to school age beyond just determining giftedness, I would not recommend spending the funds.  You already know he's extraordinary :).  I think Davidson could be a great resource.  I also appreciate Hoagies and SENG.


I thought this was an interesting read:


post #11 of 12

What an awesome kid!


(yes, skip the testing, you know he's gifted)


It's really difficult to keep up, so as the others said love is the important thing from mom. I know I still struggle with feeling inadequate to the task...but so it is! I really like the other folks' suggestions of dvds/cds, and finding other areas to pursue and challenge him in. My little girl is also very language driven, and so I often have to make a point for her to explore things like numbers and building. Also, if you live near a university you may want to check in with their exchange program. I have met many international students and professors that are looking for language partners. The only cost is time :) 

post #12 of 12
One more thing. I think a parent's job is to be the safe haven, so much sure you don't get caught up in competing with other parents and pushing your child to stay ahead of the rest. Not saying you have. Just giving you the heads up to that trap that parents sometimes stumble into.
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