DH and I have been talking about starting a regular once or twice a month date night for the sake of our marriage (we have rarely been alone since DS was born 4.3 years ago).
We used to live near family but have since moved away from everyone we know and are struggling to find someone to babysit DS. We are definitely over protective and I HATE the idea of leaving him with someone other than family, but DH and I really need to find a way to get some time together.
This is, of course, complicated by the fact the DS has special needs. 1. he is a LOT more work to take care of than most kids. He has boundless physical energy and can be very overwhelming. 2. his expressive language is almost non-existent so he can't tell us if something is wrong.
I am just so worried about leaving him with someone. We have tried a few people recommended by coworkers, and my plan was to have them come a few times while I was home so I could see them with DS. But without offering really regular hours, we've found that most young women we've had come over ended up flaking out on us eventually.
So I guess I wonder how other AP parents of special needs kids manage to find baby sitters? Any words of wisdom would be very welcome!