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Signs of Impending Labor - chat thread - Page 22
Welcome welcome little ones! And congrats to you Mammas. May you have lots of support and get to stay in bed/on couch for as long as you need.
I just had a realization - I went through this entire pregnancy and labor without one single internal/vaginal examination. My midwife usually does 1 internal exam around 36 weeks - but I tested GBS positive. Her approach with her GBS + moms is to do as little internal checks as possible, so there is less risk of pushing the bacteria into the cervix. What this meant for me was no internal checking. This lead to not feeling disappointed that I was not effaced or dilated as much as I would have wanted. It was all an unknown. Then baby came so quickly that there were no checks during labor, I just went with pushing when my body started to feel "pushy". Pretty neat!
Much love to you and your families. xoxoxo
I didn't have any other checks, and i absolutely prefer it that way. With my first I was so focused on external reassurance for information about my labor, even though I went (mostly) natural and only had intermittant monitoring. I was actually asking them to check me frequently, and I think that it interfered with my ability to listen to my body. In fact, I never felt the urge to push with my first and ended up pushing her out while in a reclined position and with nurses counting at me. It was such a different experience this time!
I've really gotta get my birth story typed out soon.
The ones by my mom were fine, they were the day I went into labor to reassure myself I was actually in labor and not another false start. But I really wish I hadn't started checking myself because I agree with Kitteh that it made me really focused and stressed and discouraged about how things were progressing instead of just listening to my body and letting things progress naturally.
I never checked myself during labor as I know I have fast births so wasnt worried about how i was dilating but for at least a week or two before was obsessively checking myself in hopes I would find a change. finally after getting seriously upset one day when I thought I 'should' be having the baby that I made myself stop. If there were to be a next time I would make a conscious choice to NOT check myself and just let my body do its thing on its own.
Since we had a UC this was the first time I'd ever done checks on myself. Husband walked in on me one time w/ my leg hiked up on the bathroom counter w/ an incredulous, "What are you doing?" I had been reading an article by James Cameron in Nat Geo about his dive to the Mariana Trench in his sub in between contractions & told him I was taking a core sample, he thought it was pretty funny. I quit as labor progressed as I never could tell what was my cervix & didn't want to introduce infection. I'm pretty sure nothing happened until the last 2 hours anyway.