I'm in need of suggestions on gently encouraging my oldest nursling to wean. he will be 4yo in a few weeks, and was all set to wean then, even seemed to be looking forward to taking that step. tonight before bed we were talking after he nursed and he has decided he is no longer ready to wean. when I asked him how long he thought he'd keep nursing, he said till he was 5. I am so torn about this. on the one hand, I have loved our nursing relationship and it is such a comfort to him. on the other hand, his latch gets lazy at times and drives me nuts. not to mention, both his younger siblings are nursing and I feel pulled in a million directions. I don't want this to be something that is taken from him, but would like it to be a mutual decision. i'm okay with him continuing for a while, but not sure about going another year.
weaning an older child
I think revisiting it later on sounds like a good plan. The most overwhelming part is bedtime. dh works out of state during the week now, which leaves me doing bedtime alone with 4 kids 7yrs and under, 3 of which nurse before bed. I need to find a way to streamline the routine so it goes a bit smoother I guess. right now we have dinner, then the 3 youngest kiddos take a bath together to make it easier on me. almost 4yo ds gets in his pjs himself while I dress 2.5yo ds and almost 10mo dd. then ds2 nurses and gets put to bed, then ds1, and finally the baby. older dd helps where she can, but she's only 7.5, so she's limited in what she can do.
part of it is also that I know no one irl that has nursed so long, or that has tandem nursed never mind triandem nursed. I feel like such the odd one out even though I know i'm doing the best thing for ds1 by meeting his needs.