The most critical thing I can do is to convince the court that I don't need her supervision in order to see my daughter. That flies in the face of a lot of conventional wisdom though, so I may need to just continue to suck it up for another couple of months and do things on her terms. I hope that the court process starts to speed up from here on out, but as with most things in this debacle that is also completely out of my hands. I'll keep you guys posted!
Supervised visits are not at all the default. Really, the burden would be on her to prove that you *do* need supervised visits, not vice versa. Perhaps the first couple of visits would be with her or another family member, but I seriously doubt you would be ordered long term supervised visits unless you have a serious history of drug abuse or the like (which it doesn't sound like). You may be ordered short frequent visits as opposed to overnights, but I think that will depend a lot on your area and the judge/mediator you get, plus what is possible given the distance and the fact that you both work and/or go to school?