DS just turned four last month. He is now finishing his first year of a 5-day, half-day program at a wonderful montessori school. It's the real deal, AMI accredited with an extremely dedicated staff.
We visited last weekend - the kids hosted a family day to show parents what they have been working on. Academically I am not concerned about DS - his teachers have confirmed that he's been making good, steady progress in his work. And he is.
But I noticed last weekend (& also when I visited alone) that he can't work without being distracted. I know my presence itself is distracting but it wasn't me he was distracted by - it was the other kids. He just doesn't seem able to ever tune them out.
The other weird thing - as much as he is obsessed with what other children are up to, he won't look them in the eye or address any of them by name when they say hello to him. I know eye contact is something the teachers work on & DS never looks anyone in the eye, not even in the mornings when I drop him off (it's how he is at home too).
I also notice his behavior at home has steadily gotten worse over the course of the year. He used to help in the kitchen but almost never does now. He really does not listen well at all & it's getting harder & harder to get him to cooperate with just about anything.
Is this normal or a sign of a bad fit? I thought he'd have made better progress by now but maybe my expectations are too high.
Edited to add that DS has also been transitioning out of his nap over the last two months & has been a super poor sleeper as a result. And he's also had a rough couple of months health-wise. Got two vaccines but then caught strep. Twice. Ugh! So I don't know if I'm being ultra sensitive to all this as a result of worrying about other things with his health. Also, three was a challenging year for him... Maybe I was just hoping something magical would happen at four (as all my friends with similar three year olds had told me).
Edited by t2009 - 5/21/13 at 7:30am