Okay. So two years ago we lived in town, and I found that many days of homeschooling (and life) got thrown all out of whack running around doing errands, running from this to that. So we buckeled down and really focused on doing less. A year ago we moved out to our dream farm. We live out here, so it was easy to say we only go to town once a week, and if we don't do it that day, we just don't do it.
So once a week, the girls go to a homeschool enrichment from 9:30-2:30. They do clubs and classes and have a well rounded fantastic day. AND as a mom of 4 with number 5 on the way- this day has become HUGE for me. I still have two with me, but that is such a difference. While they are in enrichment I get all my town errands done.
We stopped doing gymnastics and extra sports as our farm grew. The kids are so in love with farming, with the cows and goats and garden and pigs and chickens and rabbits. They have their own business plans and are hook line and sinker into farming. They are like me now and do not really like going to town anymore. When our errands are done Wednesday we are all ready to RUN home to our little nook out here and get out of there. We do not miss the hustle and bustle of having to be somewhere every day. And we get soo soo much work done, soo sooo much work. The more work we do, the more work we are motivated to do. It is amazing how much we get done with our children. I did not even realize how much little people were capable of.
SO! The plan a couple years ago was to do less. To focus on family and do less. To enjoy our family, to be enriched by each other. To build our lives around each other. Okay, done. Wonderful.
We also do 4H, and we are in a few other homeschooling groups. We know a lot of homeschooling families. So, it is not for a lack of things to do. It is a choice to do them sparingly I guess.
Last weekend we were at one of these events we choose to do- it was great, wonderful fun for the kids. DH and I looked at each other and really had to question our choice to go simple and less. If once a week or twice was really enough for the kids. They have friends over here too, and go over to friends houses- just not every day.
I wanted to run back into one of my Joel Salatin books and reread his reassuring words about raising kiddos on the land this way. But instead I found myself looking over our budget thinking that if I sold some of the milk goats the kids could do gymnastics again. They have not asked, and if I did ask them, they would say no way to selling their milk goats to do something silly like gymnastics. I found myself calling their friends' mothers and setting up playdates for the week... and I found that we now have plans to be running somewhere every day this week again.
and I do not like that feeling- but I can not seem to find the balance
to give my children the homestead life is my dream, and we have it- but it comes with such commitment, there is no way in heck that you can run a homestead and manage a soccer schedule for the number of kids I have (three kids on three teams with three teams have three practices a week- all that are 45 minutes away)
I started another homeschool club for us to host, a hiking club. We really do have a lot of little 'once a month' things. I can commit to those, it is just the several times a week, every week sort of things that do not mesh well, and my cow does not compromise on getting fed. Like the kids say about chores "they just need to be done" .
I am babbling. the kids are so happy and are not complaining at all- I just worry that we are not enough. They have good friends that they look forward to seeing on a regular basis. They have some good adults in their lives that mentor and enrich them. Thanks for listening, I know I am talking in circles.