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When to pierce ears?

post #1 of 26
Thread Starter 

What is a good age to pierce a girl's ears? My DD is currently 7 weeks old, and I'm not running to do it tomorrow, but would like to know what is appropriate health-wise, and what precautions, and things to do b/f and after.

 

Thank you.

post #2 of 26
To be honest, I would wait until she is old enough to decide for herself that she wants to have it done and to understand the pain involved. My sister had hers pierced as a baby, and my mother has never forgiven herself because she said it was totally horrifying. I'm not trying to be judgmental at all but I would strongly urge you not to inflict unnecessary pain on her for the sake of aesthetics. I'm sure you can find some cute clip on earrings for her!
post #3 of 26
Well I just tried to look up clip-ons for babies but it looks like they are a choking hazard, which makes sense. I still think it's best to wait. :-)
post #4 of 26
My DH really wanted to have dd's ears pierced and my MIL actually sent some cute little newborn-sized earrings and was rather disappointed when we didn't use them. But the way i see it, there is plenty of work for us as parents during the first few months, the last thing i want to do is add new piercing care to that list, especially if she happened to have a reaction or develop an infection (my ears are really sensitive to earrings, so i figure dd's might too.)

Anyhow, DH and i talked about it and decided that if she later decides that she wants them it will be a good opportunity to teach her personal responsibility and self-care for the healing period.
post #5 of 26
I got DDs ears pierced at 5 months. She cried pretty bad at the time, and everyone in the mall looked at me like I deserve the worst mom of the year award. She did fine with them till she turned 3 or 4, then they got really sensitive all of a sudden. She hasn't
wore earrings in a few years. If I had to do it over I'd let her decide.
post #6 of 26
I'd wait. My mom had mine pierced as a baby and I always had issues with them. They didn't stay in the right spot as my ears grew and I had to get them repierced anyways when I wanted to use earrings. They got irritated a lot when I was a kid and I didnt want anything to do with earrings until my 20's because I had a bad association with them. There are lots of other pretty jewelry a young girl can wear that don't involve piercings.
post #7 of 26

I'd wait. My mom waited and I asked for them when I was 4. She squirmed more at the piercing place than I did! My parents had to make sure I took care of them, but you would have to do that with a baby as well. I've never had a problem with them. That's what we're planning to do with all our kids.

 

Not all kids want them, though. I have a friend whose mom kept trying to convince her to pierce her ears but she just had no interest in it- she's in college and still doesn't.

post #8 of 26

I know in many cultures it is pretty normal to pierce a baby's ears (to make them look more feminine??). I think my cousins had theirs done as infants (European born). My husband is from Central America and it is pretty standard there as well. He said he wasn't really into it, if I wanted to wait and let our daughter decide...so we did...and believe me, a lot of people thought she was a boy because she had no hair until she was almost 3! Weird because she has the thickest head of hair now!  He kept asking if she liked earrings and she said she wanted it done around age 4. I took her to the mall and she freaked out, so we waited. A few months later she said it again, so we did it. She cried pretty bad. I could tell one hurt more than the other because it got really red. I got some ice to put on it, and she was fine in a few minutes. Honestly, I think she was a bit young. They aren't balls, they are little flowers, and they do get caught on things occasionally. One time while rough-housing with cousins, one ripped out, but the ear didn't bleed or tear. She was so freaked out that she didn't want to put it back in and it was a major drama. No one is allowed to touch her earrings and she says she will never take them out. We have never taken them out to clean them in the two years she has had them!! Yuck! So far, no irritation or infection, so I guess it's OK to never take them out??? I got mine when I was 7 and they got infected and closed up. I may have tried to get them pierced one other time shortly after that...don't remember. A friend of mine had a piercing gun and did them for me when I was a teen, and I think that was the last time I had them done. I keep the same studs in every day and rarely take them out to clean them. I'm just not a big jewelry person. 

post #9 of 26

I'd wait. I got mine done at 16, and did it the way I wanted to: all on one side. The point is, it was my choice to make. 

post #10 of 26
Thread Starter 

Thanks everyone.
 

post #11 of 26
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Originally Posted by jmarroq View Post

No one is allowed to touch her earrings and she says she will never take them out. We have never taken them out to clean them in the two years she has had them!! Yuck! So far, no irritation or infection, so I guess it's OK to never take them out???

I'm horrible at taking mine out to change/clean them, I've easily left them in for years at a time, and have never had a problem. There's some residue (no idea what it is) that builds up on them over time, but it's a tiny amount that you have to look for to notice. If she ever does change them, make sure that you clean the earrings before you put them away. Definitely keep an eye on them to make sure there's no signs of problems, but that should be okay.

post #12 of 26
I used to work at Claire's when I was 16 and pierced ears. It was always the worst piercing babies and toddlers. A lot of the time they end up taking the earring out then you gotta pierce is again. Also ears grow at different rates and even IF it looks even when it's done, as they grow it will become uneven. If wait for the child to be old enough to clean their ears themselves. If you want earrings for pictures just use magnetic ones. Then take them off afterwards.
post #13 of 26

Respectfully, a child should have their ears pierced when they can consent to modifying their body and take care of any physical challenges associated with it. Anything else is an assault on their person.

post #14 of 26

Not until they're old enough to want them and ask.
 

post #15 of 26

I'd wait until they're old enough to articulate pain and can safely use more pain relief methods. If you get a baby's ears pierced, you won't know if she's crying because her ears hurt or for one of the other bazillion reasons babies cry.

post #16 of 26

I got my daughter's pierced when she was 5 - because she asked. Big mistake. She wasn't old enough to take care of them herself, and the weeks she was with her Dad, they didn't get taken care of. One was taken out, had to be repierced. I finally left it alone until she was older (12ish?) and she could take responsibility for it herself. 

post #17 of 26

You could ask your pediatrician. Some docs are willing to do it and it's better than getting it done with a piercing gun (which can damage the tissue). Or you could call a professional piercer (who doesn't use a gun).

 

My nine year old daughter is planning to get hers' done for her tenth birthday; we have a friend who used to work as a piercer who is going to do it.

post #18 of 26
I also will wait until she is old enough to want pierced ears and ask for them.
post #19 of 26
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Originally Posted by skycheattraffic View Post

I'd wait. My mom had mine pierced as a baby and I always had issues with them. They didn't stay in the right spot as my ears grew and I had to get them repierced anyways when I wanted to use earrings. They got irritated a lot when I was a kid and I didnt want anything to do with earrings until my 20's because I had a bad association with them. There are lots of other pretty jewelry a young girl can wear that don't involve piercings.

 

I had mine pierced as a baby, and I never considered it a problem, in fact, I loved being one of the first girls in school with *real* earrings. However, I also noticed that as I grew older, the holes migrated to the point were they were uneven and waaay too close to my head. Most people probably don't notice, but it still bugs me because when I wear certain styles, it scratches my skin behind my ears. In my culture (El Salvadoran latino) it is very common to do to babies, and all my cousins pierced their daughter's ears. 

 

I think I will wait until she is older though, like maybe 7 or 8. 

 

Either way, NEVER use a piercing gun. They are impossible to sanitize properly, and as someone pointed out earlier, often wielded by inexperienced retail clerks. Go to a doctor who uses a needle, or to a professional piercer with a good reputation. 

post #20 of 26

I think I was 7 when I had mine done and I think that was a good age for me. My mom waited till I pestered her about it for a while and she felt I could follow the care instructions. Me and two of my girlfriends at the time went to get ours done together, it was a very neat experience, made us feel all grown up. orngbiggrin.gif I think it's a good idea to wait until the child can wait and ask for it (if they do).

 

Also, stay away from piercing guns if you can, getting it done with a needle is much better (sterile and by a professional, of course!).

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