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post #21 of 26

I was 13 when I had mine done and that may seem old but my parents believed that a girl should have a mile stone to mark the begining of being a woman. So I only used clip ons until then.

I have decided to do the same with my daughters for several reasons.: first I like the idea that kids should be kids and I think we are in such a hurry to make them like little adults,second I like the idea of them feeling special as they start to change into young woman,the third reason is for health reasons as my daughters wouldn't I feel remember to clean and take care to prevent infection and a friend of mine has a mutalated ear from combing her hair and catching her earing when she was little(lets face it kids are not as carful as we would like)

post #22 of 26
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Originally Posted by mom2threegrls View Post

I was 13 when I had mine done and that may seem old but my parents believed that a girl should have a mile stone to mark the begining of being a woman. So I only used clip ons until then.
I have decided to do the same with my daughters for several reasons.: first I like the idea that kids should be kids and I think we are in such a hurry to make them like little adults,second I like the idea of them feeling special as they start to change into young woman,the third reason is for health reasons as my daughters wouldn't I feel remember to clean and take care to prevent infection and a friend of mine has a mutalated ear from combing her hair and catching her earing when she was little(lets face it kids are not as carful as we would like)

That's really interesting. I never thought of piercings as womanly rather than girly. I definitely wore more and crazier earrings as a girl than I do now!

However, I love the idea of a ritual to mark womanhood, and this is a good one.
post #23 of 26
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Originally Posted by phathui5 View Post

You could ask your pediatrician. Some docs are willing to do it and it's better than getting it done with a piercing gun (which can damage the tissue). Or you could call a professional piercer (who doesn't use a gun).

My nine year old daughter is planning to get hers' done for her tenth birthday; we have a friend who used to work as a piercer who is going to do it.

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Originally Posted by mom2threegrls View Post

I was 13 when I had mine done and that may seem old but my parents believed that a girl should have a mile stone to mark the begining of being a woman. So I only used clip ons until then.
I have decided to do the same with my daughters for several reasons.: first I like the idea that kids should be kids and I think we are in such a hurry to make them like little adults,second I like the idea of them feeling special as they start to change into young woman,the third reason is for health reasons as my daughters wouldn't I feel remember to clean and take care to prevent infection and a friend of mine has a mutalated ear from combing her hair and catching her earing when she was little(lets face it kids are not as carful as we would like)

I was very much of the same belief as momto3 on waiting until my dds were women to allow them to get their ears pierced. There has always been something odd to me about piercing little girls ears, it's like putting little girls in two piece bathing suits, if that makes sense. I wanted them to make decisions about their own bodies when it came to piercing. And having some familiarity with body modification, I wanted them to have their ears pierced with a needle by a pro AND I wanted to make sure that they were able to understand the pain and care that would be involved.

So fast forward to last fall when dd1 (8ys) was for the millionth time asking me to allow her to get her ears pierced. I had explained that it would be painful, take a long time to heal, and require a lot of care. I had also explained that I thought she was too young. Over and over. And then I started to think about it. Teaching my kids that they have autonomy over their own bodies has always been really important to me, and i think that my intentions were good in making her wait. But I started to wonder what kind message I was sending her by telling her no over and over. She really wanted it, she knew what it involved, and this was a decision she was making about her body. Here i was, telling her what she couldn't do with her own body. I realized I might not be sending the right message.

So we called a good peircing shop in our area and spoke with them. They actually don't like to pierce anyone's ears under 12, but they will make exceptions. She had to go down to the shop and talk to the piercer, where he explained pretty much the same things I had been saying to her and he wanted to make sure she was mature enough to understand that she was changing her body forever. Then she had to think about it and come back in a week. In the end, he very impressed with my daughter (who would like to think of herself as mature!) and felt that she was ready, and she still wanted to after the week was over. So she went in and got them done. She said it did hurt, but was glad to have them, even while healing.

And a side note- the standard of care for piercing care has changed radically since I was around it. More modern practice basically has you do nothing more than wash the area that's pierced as you normally would in the shower. No solutions, no turning, no touching it. You leave all that crusty stuff that forms and allow your body to heal it without interference and just keep the area around it clean. Her ears healed amazingly well, and faster then any of the peircings I so lovingly cleaned, and rotated, and treated with stuff. But there goes all that care and responsibity I was hoping the piercing would teach as an extra bonus XD
post #24 of 26
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Originally Posted by JudiAU View Post

Respectfully, a child should have their ears pierced when they can consent to modifying their body and take care of any physical challenges associated with it. Anything else is an assault on their person.

I agree. I wouldn't tattoo or circumcise a baby either.
post #25 of 26

My L just got her done last year at almost 5...She asked and begged and pleaded...I finally made a fun day..took her to Claires and got it done...She has done just fine with them...she turns them and cleans her ears...We haven't taken them out..But she only has the earrings that she is wearing...For her 6th birthday she is getting a jewlrey box and some jewlrey(including some earrings) from my mom so we will  probably start changing them..L's Biomom bugged me for years to get her ears done but I told her no...I wanted it to be her choice..I always felt that hey what if she gets older and says what the Heck!!! I don't want holes in my ears....So I waited till she asked and I made sure she knew(I took her and let her watch ears being pierced) what would happen...

 

 

She loves her ears being pierced though :)

post #26 of 26

My dd is 16.  I've asked her several times if she'd like to get her ears pierced, and the answer is always no.  I'm so glad I didn't take that choice away from her and get them pierced as a baby.

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