I've got an 8yo, 6yo, 4yo and 1yo. I thought I was done after the 1yo was born, but I'm getting those twinges and feelings again. How do you determine whether or not your feelings about having another child are "legitimate" enough? I can understand if a mama of 1 or 2 wants another, but a mama of 4? Surely I must be mad.
I tell myself to shut up sometimes and be THANKFUL that I have four lovely healthy children.. I mean WHY do I want more? I don't understand. I have 2 older sisters but they are both much older than me and so I grew up like an only child (even though technically I'm not). I always wanted a big family and I thought 4 was the perfect number. Well I've got my lovely 4 now, so what the hell is going on! Isn't four kids enough?? I feel like I'm being greedy (as though I'm taking future children away from people who deserve/need to have them).
Talk me out of this.
DH's opinions on the matter are: Whatever you want. You're going to have to carry it, birth it, breastfeed it.. I just have to do the rocking to sleep and bring home the money.