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Mamarhu, I love your story and it sounds great. I feel that I am just having trouble trusting that this will work. A friend said to me the other day as we were discussing her deschooling her 8 year old, " I think one of the hardest things is deschooling ourselves." And she is so right! I have the this idea ingrained in me that things need to go "this" way, that certain things need to be drilled into children: it's normal, everyone is doing it. It IS normal and almost everyone is doing it, but I know that it's not BEST. I know from experience, my own experience, that it is not best, at least not for everyone. I am toying with what is the right balance for us, I guess.

By the way, I bought FIAR, as I previously mentioned, and we did it on Monday and Tuesday, and we liked it. But it has been SOOOO nice outside that we haven't done it since! How can I drag her inside when she is playing in the garden? Honestly, I have drug her in a bit, but I also can't take this weather for granted.

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How do you trust?  With a 6yo you just give it a bit of time.  Keep track of your day, what she does do, milestones, books read together, awesome questions she is asking.  Start thinking in terms of observation instead of thinking of what "needs" to happen, and you will start to see things move along, I can almost guarantee it (almost orngtongue.gif).  Then, you can trust a bit more, and a bit more....

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Mamarhu, I love your story and it sounds great. I feel that I am just having trouble trusting that this will work. A friend said to me the other day as we were discussing her deschooling her 8 year old, " I think one of the hardest things is deschooling ourselves." And she is so right! I have the this idea ingrained in me that things need to go "this" way, that certain things need to be drilled into children: it's normal, everyone is doing it. It IS normal and almost everyone is doing it, but I know that it's not BEST. I know from experience, my own experience, that it is not best, at least not for everyone. I am toying with what is the right balance for us, I guess.

By the way, I bought FIAR, as I previously mentioned, and we did it on Monday and Tuesday, and we liked it. But it has been SOOOO nice outside that we haven't done it since! How can I drag her inside when she is playing in the garden? Honestly, I have drug her in a bit, but I also can't take this weather for granted.

Would it help to remember that you didn't set out to teach your children to walk & talk?  What else might they pick up along the way?

 

Don't underestimate the power of the masses to keep you thinking that your children *have* to be taught this, that & the other thing.  If they didn't, then all those people are wasting a bunch of time, energy, money...oh, my, then what?

 

What if you just take your stuff outside to do?  Why does it *have* to be done inside?  (I don't need the answers; the questions are for you. winky.gif)

 

Lastly, on the parenting front - I've given up trying to be everything to everyone because the situation in which most of us trying to educate our children through life are living, is not the situation we were meant to live in!  We were not meant to be all things to little children all day long as the only adult for miles & miles.  WEll, maybe not miles & miles, but some times being a SAHM is so isolating, it might as well be miles & miles.  Maybe not everyone feels this way, but whether you do or don't, we're social beings & until relatively recently in human history, we weren't doing so much of this alone.  If  what I'm saying resonatnes w/ you, then I'd say to start now trying to build a village.  Here's something I read about it: http://www.mothering.com/community/a/finding-your-tribe And, I've heard of a meetup group who, according to their description, takes it even further by having many moms & rotating homes.  I would LOVE to do this.  Having some trouble finding my village though. greensad.gif

 

Best wishes to you & your children on this journey,

Sus

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