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Doing the Deed.

post #1 of 20
Thread Starter 
Ladies. Sadly it's been two weeks since my fiancé and DTD until this morning. We had sex, I got up and made the family waffles while contracting horribly. Vacuumed , put away dishes, laundry etc. I know I should have sat down but people were coming over and things needed to get done! Now I'm in bed and having terrible contractions. Anyone else have to avoid sex because of intense contractions?
post #2 of 20
Oh no! I actually only get mild cramping right after I orgasm. But, I think it is harder to get there. And, due to belly size, dtd has become so much work.... I miss it really. It's just too tiring most of the time, and I know dh is tryining to avoid it because he is worried about hurting the baby.
post #3 of 20
I had a similar experience after having sex one evening and again the next morning. I couldn't tell if they were contractions so much as a sensitive uterus. It just felt tender to the touch a bit. Went away after a night's sleep.

Are you feeling any better with time?
post #4 of 20

I hope the contrax settled by now.. :( 

For us, it usually sends me into some intense B/H contrax for an hour or so after. From my reading and experience, that seems pretty normal. 
If you are set in to actual, painful contractions, it might be wise to ask your care provider. :)

post #5 of 20
Thread Starter 
No relief today. I'm starting to worry. It's been going on all day. I have a backyard full of people. Not really relaxing. Sheesh. Need to get my rowdy two year old down and then maybe I can lay down. Usually post sex they go away after an hour or so. Dtd is getting to be too much work. I miss crazy regular size sex.
post #6 of 20
I'd be willing to bet they haven't stopped because you have been 'on' for most of the day. I went for a walk and had a ton and had to lay down after a shower to get things to settle. Can't imaging what dtd and then on my feet all day would cause.
I will not miss this awkward, goofy, sore before we even start sex. Hope I have a libido after the baby is born.
post #7 of 20
Thread Starter 
Yeah Wrenmoon. It's hard to relax chasing round a 2 year old boy then having a house full of people. Cooking out everyone's drinking good wine & beer except me of course. I'm in bed now. Midwife said take cramp bark every ten min for the next hour in hopes they subside.
post #8 of 20
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Originally Posted by wrenmoon View Post

 Hope I have a libido after the baby is born.

can i get personal and ask you if you have in the past? with my last pregnancy it was crazy painful--and after the baby came i didn't have any libido--i'd say it's still not back to normal...but it at least got more enjoyable after 1 yr postpartum...

 

this pregnancy i haven't had much libido--but it hasn't been painful either. so much better than last pregnancy. i would love to have some libido postpartum!!! i honestly really miss it and feel it hasn't at all been the same since we were pregnant with my LO. 

 

sorry to derail the thread just a little ;) monkey pants--maybe a glass of wine would help when you are resting! :)

post #9 of 20

I have a libido but I simply cannot have an orgasm since about 28 weeks (im 33 now). It is so frustrating. This is my first pregnancy; have any of you ever had this problem in any pregnancies?  

post #10 of 20
Thread Starter 
During my second trimester orgasms were easy. Now it's nearly impossible at 33 weeks. Same with last pregnancy. I think it's normal. My libido returned very slowly. I was still nursing until a week ago. I think extended nursing keeps thinks slowed done too. It's also like the Sahara desert down there after having a baby so that really doesn't help.
post #11 of 20

Usually one of my fave things about pregnancy is the sex...not this pregnancy and being on bed rest its a no-go even if I *could* NO WAY I'd even attempt that right now.

 

I'm looking forward to getting my tubes tied or DH getting snipped. I'm at the stage I want sex when I want it with no fear of another baby...no THAT to me is the best thing for a dragging sex drive winky.gif
 

post #12 of 20
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Originally Posted by caiesmommy View Post

Usually one of my fave things about pregnancy is the sex...not this pregnancy and being on bed rest its a no-go even if I *could* NO WAY I'd even attempt that right now.

I'm looking forward to getting my tubes tied or DH getting snipped. I'm at the stage I want sex when I want it with no fear of another baby...no THAT to me is the best thing for a dragging sex drive winky.gif

I'm on the same page with the snip snip. I want the ability to get it while the gettin's good without worrying about an unplanned addition. DH is a little hesitant but the alternative means less action so we'll see. My libido recovered around 18 months PP last time and wouldn't you know it: one act of spontaneity when I was convinced I wasn't fertile and BAM! Here I am lol. So I'm not indulging DH again without protection anytime soon after baby.
post #13 of 20
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post #14 of 20
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Originally Posted by Actiasluna View Post

I have a libido but I simply cannot have an orgasm since about 28 weeks (im 33 now). It is so frustrating. This is my first pregnancy; have any of you ever had this problem in any pregnancies?  
I did at first, and I realized it was that I was kind of afraid of it. I was scared of contractions, scared of making myself sore, scare of hurting the baby, etc. etc. Also, it did NOT help that I was exhausted and nauseous-- but even after that went away I found I was being really cautious and inhibited.

To jump on the "crazy personal" bandwagon, I'll share that for me, it took some solo experimenting to be confident that it wasn't going to hurt or be bad for the baby.

Only then was I able to bring DH back into the real fun smile.gif
post #15 of 20
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Originally Posted by skycheattraffic View Post


I'm on the same page with the snip snip. I want the ability to get it while the gettin's good without worrying about an unplanned addition. DH is a little hesitant but the alternative means less action so we'll see. My libido recovered around 18 months PP last time and wouldn't you know it: one act of spontaneity when I was convinced I wasn't fertile and BAM! Here I am lol. So I'm not indulging DH again without protection anytime soon after baby.


YES!!!! Seriously when I told DH I was pretty sure I was pregnant he said "Who'd you have sex with?" eyesroll.gif We literally had NO idea when I got pregnant b-c we had such little sex. I hadn't even gotten my period back from dd and had NO sign of ovulation. Once we found out my EDD we went back and realized it was when my family took the older 2 kids away, youngest DD just went to bed and we were waiting for a frozen pizza to cook. I got knocked up playing "beat the pizza timer" HORRIBLE. NEVER AGAIN.

post #16 of 20
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Originally Posted by caiesmommy View Post


YES!!!! Seriously when I told DH I was pretty sure I was pregnant he said "Who'd you have sex with?" eyesroll.gif We literally had NO idea when I got pregnant b-c we had such little sex. I hadn't even gotten my period back from dd and had NO sign of ovulation. Once we found out my EDD we went back and realized it was when my family took the older 2 kids away, youngest DD just went to bed and we were waiting for a frozen pizza to cook. I got knocked up playing "beat the pizza timer" HORRIBLE. NEVER AGAIN.

Oh god, you made me laugh!! Not at you but thinking "I know exactly how she feels!" For us it was "well it IS his birthday...", toddler was napping and I was expecting my period in a couple of days. I second your NEVER AGAIN!! hug.gif
post #17 of 20

My libido kinda disappeared in the first trimster, and it came back in the second like a storm! When I want it, I want it all day, lol. (since everyone is sharing!) We did a two week trip back home, and the hardest part was not having sex in other people's houses. 

post #18 of 20
Thread Starter 
Hilarious 'beat the pizza timer!' Lol! I actually planned this pregnancy! I'm 38 and told parnter if he wanted a sibling for our two year old he better get with it! Took us just a few tries. Pretty sure it was a angry makeup sex that did it this time. Eye roll. I'm really happy a out it but by now tired and may not want sex again until my 40th birthday. Especially with ebf, working, pumping, sleepless nights. Last baby didn't sleep through the night until he was 18mos when I night weened!!! Can't do that again. I need a sleepy baby.
post #19 of 20
We still have regular sex but its more for the intimacy than the sexual satisfaction for me. Every single time I'm about to orgasm I get a huge, awful hip cramp. Bye bye orgasm. Then I'm too mad to get back into it. So yeah. Good times! Lol

I get tender uterus but haven't had any increase in BH after sex.
post #20 of 20

Its all in the hips. When we do actually have sex it is short and sweet and I guess I should be thankful I always have and orgasm. Then my uterus tightens up for like 5 minutes and my hips hurt for hours. If we do it in the evening then I usually sleep terribly with alot of hip pain. I will usually be sore in my hips for part of the next day. At least we are counting down the weeks ladies till we start the next journey of hopefully getting "that" body back.
 

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