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post #21 of 23

Our approach has evolved over time... When DD was still very young (under 2), we did the "gentle touches, please" approach that others have mentioned. Around 24 months (maybe a little later) we began introducing responses like: "in our family we use gentle touches," and "we don't hit in our family." This change, to responding in a way that is inclusive of our entire family and its values, has been important for ME during those times when I'm at my wit's end from being tantrumed at all day!

 

With this toddler discipline stuff, I have to constantly to remind myself that it is my job to keep my family safe and healthy, even if they don't always like my choices.

post #22 of 23
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Originally Posted by Grover View Post

My kid is going through a bit of a hitting phase at the moment. But it seems to be more about somehow getting closer to me - or maybe provoking a reaction. She doesn't really do it when she's angry. She's also trying to poke me with sharp things all the time! I try not to let her have sharp things...but still she manages to get her hands on them, and then rushes over to poke me with them. It's a little tricky to know how to react! Some of the tips above are great.

 

Yesterday, she bit me in the thigh! She was nuzzling into me, sort of between my legs (I was standing up), and just latched on and bit down - I was wearing so many layers I didn't notice until I felt the pain, and I semi-screamed. She got SUCH a fright (poor thing) - that it took me about 15 minutes to calm her down and stop the sobs. 

This has nothing to do with the OP's post - but sometimes I get the feeling she actually just wants to EAT me or something? Or she hits me as a way of expressing affection somehow. Or tries to 'scrunch' at my eyes. She's even said a few times that she wanted to take my head off and take it to bed with her. LOL.

She's very verbal...so I don't think it's a communication thing per se. And just lately she's been giving out actual hugs and kisses spontaneously, which have never happened before - so maybe she is just experimenting with different ways of 'touching' so to speak.

 

The things kids do and say though....!?

It's such a weird universe they seem to live in.

 

Hahaha!! She loves you SO much!

post #23 of 23

Modeling gentle touches by touching DD softly then having her touch us softly is working for my 15 month old! She gets excited and rambunctious with Dad and tends to scratch his face up, so we modeled gentle touches and then she gently pat dada on the head. It was pretty cute. 

Thanks for that advice, I got it from this thread!

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