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post #41 of 48

dakipode, thanks for that link!

we are "in the extended Bay Area", so the only birth center close to us on that list would still be about.. a 2 1/2hr drive away from us. 

how far do you all travel to get to your birth center? it doesn't sound quite feasible if it's too far away, i assume you wouldn't check into a BC unless your water already broke etc just like with a hospital birth, right ? 

 

i'd also need to do some research into what this accreditation really means.. aka if it's necessary that they are credited, or if there might be good BCs out there too who are just not accredited. 

post #42 of 48

vc2013 - Not to shoot down dakipode's list (and I hope this is taken with positive intention), but only one birth center in all of Florida is on that list, and we have a lot of stellar ones, statewide.  I am sure that the accreditation is nice, but I wouldn't hold yourself to that list alone.  From looking at the website, it is about $5000 for a birth center to do this voluntary process, which is a bit out of reach for many CPM/LMs, especially when they pay licensure fees to the state.  Most states (California included) regulate their birth center via state licensure boards and those are pretty rigorous normally (in Florida they're very rigorous, and having grown-up in lawsuit-happy SoCal, I imagine California is pretty rigorous as well)

 

As far as commute time to a birth center, I'd stick with less than 90 minutes, in regular (not crazy) traffic. If you're a FTM, you're not likely to have a precipitous labor, but all the same, you'll be laboring in a car which is the pits.  I'd stick with around 90 minutes, or less if you're able.

post #43 of 48

i wouldn't want to travel more than an hour, especially if you have to go in for any pre-birth appointments or orientations. the hospital we're going to is 30 minutes in perfect traffic, but could be hours in bad traffic, so i just have to hope that labor starts at a low-time for traffic. 

 

there are zero birth centers on that accreditation list in the whole state of Washington, and our state has one of the highest (maybe the highest? i can't remember) rates of out-of-hospital births in the country. we have a lot of home birthers here, but it seems like a lot more people are turning to birth centers (both people who have home birthed in the past, and people who would probably never choose a home birth!) it seems like birth centers here are regulated by the state midwife association and they maintain a list: http://www.washingtonmidwives.org/for-consumers/birth-centers-wa.html 

 

p.s. 

there are also websites like this http://www.birthcenters.org/birth-center-locator in case you haven't stumbled across it yet. if you are worried about the reputation or quality of a birth center, ask around the community. i have found that people's reservations and feelings are not 100% correct, but they often reflect whether you should be asking more questions of yourself, your care provider, etc. 

post #44 of 48

I'm planning a homebirth at my parents' house in Texas.  We will be traveling there around 32 weeks.  I'll have a couple Skype appts with my midwife before-hand and then once we arrive there will be about 4-6 in-person visits.  We might try to find a class to take once we arrive, but we might just rely on the midwife to prepare us.  I'm not sure about a birthing pool/tub yet, I want to talk more with the midwife about that possibility.

 

I'm planning on having my midwife and my partner around to support me during labor and birth.  My mom will also be there, but we talked about kinda playing by ear how much support she gives - could be anything from preparing food and warming up towels to actually being more active in supporting me through labor.  I think it will depend on how my partner is doing and my mom is totally flexible with it and won't be offended if in the end all I want from her is to hang out in the other room and bring me popsicles every once in a while.

 

The only catch to all of this is we are still working out immigration stuff so my partner can travel with me, and if it doesn't go through the whole plan could fall apart at the last minute.  It is really important for me to have a natural birth and for the baby to not be taken away from me after it is born.  Unfortunately, it would be very had for me to get what I want at a hospital in this country - they are very intervention- and C-section-happy in the hospitals here.  Midwives aren't trained or regulated and homebirth was recently prohibited (though many poor women in rural areas still deliver at home).  It's a double-edged sword cause they have greatly reduced the maternal mortality rate in recent years, but a lot of what they have done to accomplish that has taken away a lot of the mother's autonomy in making decisions around the birth process.

 

All that said, I have done some research and it seems that a neighboring country has more options for qualified midwife care at birth centers.  So that could be an option if the immigration stuff doesn't work out and we can't travel to the States for the birth.

 

I hate that this is all up in the air until the last minute, but I'm trying to just stay positive that my home birth in Texas plan will work out and if it doesn't I will cross that bridge when I get there.

post #45 of 48
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Originally Posted by haurelia View Post

onematchfire, it's never too late to switch gears! Many midwives will take transfers quite late into pregnancy, so if you really want to give birth at home, it's worth checking out your local midwives. 

Seriously. You should think about it! My SIL was like 30 weeks when she switched.
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Originally Posted by swissmiss2584 View Post

I laughed when a few people said, "isn't the hospital cleaner?".

Don't you find that funny? So what did you end up saying? Some people seriously cannot be convinced. My sister is driving me nuts. She was birthed at home yet gives me a face when I say I'm doing the same. Ugh!
post #46 of 48

My best friend highly recommends a doula that has had homebirths herself and is who she (bff) herself would choose if she were looking for a doula (but she has 4 kids and is done birthing and has never tried having a doula).  So I'm going to meet her but I sort of already agreed with the volunteer doula that I would use her.  I hope she doesn't mind if I bump her from first place and instead ask her to be my backup doula in case doula #1 is unable to come.

post #47 of 48
Our plans... No clue. lol.gif We just have no idea what we're going to do, where we'll have the baby or who will deliver it. I do know we'll be doing another unmedicated, Hypnobabies assisted birth, wherever we happen to end up. We will have a doula, and my mom will be there as well, mostly to take care of DS. Chances are if we birth in the hospital, DH's sole job will be to keep nurses and doctors right the heck away from me!

I have a call in to the doula we plan to use... I think once we chat with her we'll have a much better plan as to what we're going to do for birth. Am I wierd for looking forward to labour though? Probably! I can't wait. With DS being my first, I was definitely in the place a few of you mentioned - not scared but also thinking that was due to my own naivety. Now that I've been through labour and delivery once, I'm excited to do it again! I found it so empowering.

So, here's my wierd labour memory. I am the type of person who loves to try to find solutions to a problem. So every time I would have a stronger/different/more intense contraction, it was just a new problem to be solved. I kept moving and moving until I found a position that worked for the contractions... then when they changed again, same thing. It kept my mind completely off of the contraction itself and just on finding a new position to get comfortable in again. I also remember my midwife telling me that DS needed to move a lot lower, and that walking as well as doing lunges on stairs would help that. So that's what I did right up until transition when I couldn't any more. Afterwards, my midwife would laugh every time we talked about it. She said she'd never seen anyone who kept WALKING so much! I laughed right back and said she told me to, so I did it!

Anyway, since I can't easily scroll back and respond to everyone individually - I STRONGLY recommend a doula to anyone and everyone! A doula is invaluable no matter where you birth. There are tons of doulas out there who will work for little or no money at all, especially doulas in training who need to get in a certain number of births before they can be certified. So just do a Google search for doulas in your area, you'll probably find someone! And if you're looking for trainee doulas, contact anywhere that doulas can receive training/certification, they should be able to get you in touch with someone.
post #48 of 48
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Originally Posted by lilmamita View Post

I'm planning a homebirth at my parents' house in Texas.  We will be traveling there around 32 weeks.  I'll have a couple Skype appts with my midwife before-hand and then once we arrive there will be about 4-6 in-person visits.  We might try to find a class to take once we arrive, but we might just rely on the midwife to prepare us.  I'm not sure about a birthing pool/tub yet, I want to talk more with the midwife about that possibility.

I'm planning on having my midwife and my partner around to support me during labor and birth.  My mom will also be there, but we talked about kinda playing by ear how much support she gives - could be anything from preparing food and warming up towels to actually being more active in supporting me through labor.  I think it will depend on how my partner is doing and my mom is totally flexible with it and won't be offended if in the end all I want from her is to hang out in the other room and bring me popsicles every once in a while.

The only catch to all of this is we are still working out immigration stuff so my partner can travel with me, and if it doesn't go through the whole plan could fall apart at the last minute.  It is really important for me to have a natural birth and for the baby to not be taken away from me after it is born.  Unfortunately, it would be very had for me to get what I want at a hospital in this country - they are very intervention- and C-section-happy in the hospitals here.  Midwives aren't trained or regulated and homebirth was recently prohibited (though many poor women in rural areas still deliver at home).  It's a double-edged sword cause they have greatly reduced the maternal mortality rate in recent years, but a lot of what they have done to accomplish that has taken away a lot of the mother's autonomy in making decisions around the birth process.

All that said, I have done some research and it seems that a neighboring country has more options for qualified midwife care at birth centers.  So that could be an option if the immigration stuff doesn't work out and we can't travel to the States for the birth.

I hate that this is all up in the air until the last minute, but I'm trying to just stay positive that my home birth in Texas plan will work out and if it doesn't I will cross that bridge when I get there.
Lilmamita, I really hope your DP gets his immigration stuff and that it comes through in time. Fingers crossed!!
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