Maybe this should go in health.
I'm really at the end of my rope. every time my daughter (5.5) gets sick (which thankfully isn't often), she is completely and utterly impossible. She refuses to drink any fluids, even hot water with just honey (which is just super sweet and she likes), will not take any medicines (herbs, teas, throat lozenges etc) anything that will make her better. she often refuses to eat. If i try massaging her or asking her if i can give her anything she kicks and screams at me.
And then she just stays sick for a long time. and the whole time she is sick she will scream and kick me unless i am actively cuddling her 100% of the time, which obviously i can't do as i'm a single working-from-home mama.
She is a generally very spirited child and we have worked to help her work with her anger, but when she's sick none of those strategies work. I have tried empathy (i know you don't like being sick, this will help you get better/i know you're scared the medicine will hurt etc), bribery, doing non-invasive things like putting on a humidifier, patience and stay generally super calm and compassionate the entire time.
Every time I try something she screams, even if it's not directly on her body. I don't know how to help her and i can't just have a super sick and velcro child for weeks because she is too stubborn. I feel like a horrible mother and it's so hard to see my child sick and there's nothing i can seemingly do...
any recommendations would be helpful!