My parents had these plane tickets that they ended up not using, and the expiration of the tickets was a week after my due date, so they decided to both come then, to see the baby. I actually told them I wanted them here not until 2 weeks after the baby was born. My logic was that in the beginning, I'd have my husband's help....he is taking the first week off, then doing half days the second week. Also, I really just wanted that time to bond with my husband and baby.
My parents can be very overbearing to be around, and sometimes it makes me tense, or managing them is more work than it's worth, because they ask a lot of questions, and don't just jump in and help. That isn't their fault, per se....but they really need to chill out. They know it's a problem, and they always say they will do better, but they honestly never do. Last visit, I warned them it was a bad time to come, and I was exhausted and busy, and they said, "it's okay, we'll stay out of your hair...this is the only time we can come." So I relented and let them come. I also warned them beforehand that they would have to find their own means of entertainment some of the time, which they didn't! They were always looking to me to have something to do with them. They didn't stay out of my hair. And afterwards, they complained that I was grumpy the whole time they were here, and they felt unwelcome. Well, I had warned them!!!!! Honestly, I did my best, but I knew my limits before they even came. Most people would have said it was a nice visit, but they are so high maintenence that they found a way to only see the bad, and they were upset when they weren't treated like royalty.
It's hard, because their heart is in the right place, but I am scarred from their last visit. The problem now is that it looks like the baby will be at least a week overdue, so this is turning into a worst case scenario for me, where they will be here when I bring the baby home, which is NOT what I wanted! I was looking forward to having at least a few days of hubby's time with the new baby, which is actually relaxing for me, before I have to babysit my parents and deal with them in my business all the time.
I was just wondering what you all would have to say. This is my first baby. Am I underestimating the value of having more help? Or am I right.....is having your parents staying with you when you bring baby home, just annoying!!!!?
I don't want to have to get dressed, I want to be left alone. It's been a stressful pregnancy, and I was actually looking forward to not having to get out of bed once the baby arrives, to just nesting and chilling. They will claim to do everything for me, but honestly, just having them here....I will hear them and not be able to sleep. They will make noise, they will ask where things are. They will talk on the phone. Etc. Ground rules will only go so far, when you have to expend your energy enforcing them. :( Help?!?!?