My 7 year old is well on his way to being a fluent reader. He loves to read and spends a good bit of time reading everyday. He hasn't been that interested in writing and so we don't do much there unless he decides to write himself. Part of the problem is, he gets upset when he spells words wrong. I explained a million times that, at his age he is just supposed to write using "invented" spelling -- the way the word sounds to him -- and I can read it. BUT after I read his writing, he always asks "Are the words written the right way?" and I tell him again about how at his age... blah blah.
THEN he insists on knowing which words are not right and goes on to get pretty upset about the fact that he didn't spell them right. The other day, he huge meltdown and repeatedly asked how I learned to spell and how he could too. He just doesn't get that it is something he will slowly learn. His immediate expectation of perfection does really get in the way! Another problem is, his vocabulary is fairly large so he is not using words like cat, dog his writing. He wants to write the way he thinks -- big words and all. Yikes! I really don't think he needs to worry much about writing but here we are.
So Mamas, how did your kids learn to spell? Did you teach them directly? When did it click? Also, when did your kids get into writing? I don't remember how I learned to spell/write and I am a heavy spell check user! I might be wrong but I honestly don't think he needs to write in any serious manner at his age (7)? Is it wrong for me to think it will come later through the tons of reading he is doing?