My first child, DD, is 4.5 and my DS is 16 months, and I'm tandem nursing.
I have been committed to the idea of CLW, especially since my DD is very sensitive and VERY attached to bf.
However, after DS was born I let DD nurse whenever she wanted but quickly became exhausted, and so after a few months I limited her to only before bed and she made that transition easily.
I'm now having second thoughts about CLW:
I don't know anyone IRL who is bf a 4.5 year old. TBH, I don't want anyone to know we are still bf her, and she is at the age where of course she can tell people. SHe does talk about it sometimes but uses the word "mia" so people don't really know what she is talking about. I even told my family that we stopped because they clearly didn't approve and about a year ago we moved really far away, so I figured they would never know. Now we are going to visit in July and I m concerned she will talk about mia and they know what that means. DH also feels like it is getting rediculous because she is getting so old. He won't pressure me to stop or anything, and he has been supportive, but it's clear he thinks it's time to stop.
I don't think she will stop without prompting, but I think she has reached an age now where she could make the transition pretty easily because she is getting less and less attached, and does occasionally sleep without it
I guess I have several questions:
first, anyone out there still bf a 4.5 year old or older? I really feel like a freak sometimes.....
have you ever second guessed CLW? What made you continue, or what made you decide to stop, and how did you stop?
what did you do when your child talked about bf? did you hide the fact that you were bf or were you very open about it? I don't want to tell DD not to talk about it becasue I don't want her to feel it is shameful, but at the same time I don't want her to talk about it
I used to be part of LLL and it was so encouraging, but now I live in a country where there are no branches....maybe once DS gets a little older I'll become a leader and start one!!