June 2013 Chit Chat - Page 10
I would recommend trying a few different approaches to see what works. Try putting him on the potty after every diaper change- this associates the potty with elimination even if he doesn't go in it at the time. Another approach is to offer at known elimination times like directly after nap and first thing in the morning and increase offering from there as the connection is made. Also, take him to the bathroom with you and have him sit on the potty while you sit on the toilet. You can also try sitting him on the toilet when you're done and see what happens. Some kids do much better out and about. You can experiment with public bathrooms and see if he goes. Then move on to other techniques as you feel he is ready. Boot camp: diaper free time with regular potty offering (like every 30 minutes). Entice him to sit on the potty with books, snacks, music, etc. As soon as he does something in the potty, the connection starts to be made. Another approach is to offer regularly without diaper free time until he gets more comfortable with the potty and then move up to diaper free time. Instead of offering at intervals another boot camp method is diaper free, following him around with the potty and as soon as something starts to come out you put him on the potty.
These are all solutions to keep the diaper off. Because my main concern would be "ahhaaahhh!! Poop everywhere!!!" But I'm home much less to work with him, so totally different perspective.
Am I just abnormally put off by the idea of a child peeing/pooping all over my fabric/carpet surfaces in the house, or are others of you paranoid too? I guess I'm just picturing messes that will leave permanent stains and smells... like a cat. It freaks me out. Sora has had verrrry little diaper-free time as a result. I hope I'm wrong because I don't know how we'll potty train without the diaper-free boot camp method since I work 5 days/week!
I am so with you on this, since we live in a carpeted apartment ... *sigh*
On a side note, I am celebrating my birthday today, and it has been super fabulous! My hubby bought me a pair of beautiful earrings... We went out to braekfast with Eli ... It's just been great all around . DH Is off to work soon, supper is in the slow cooker... Eli and I will be going for a walk when dh leaves, and when he naps I am hoping to have a nap too... I haven't been sleeping well... I could use some sleep. Eli has been super cranky, running temp etc, canines coming in...
I sorta feel like this is something you get over as part of your parental training. Certainly you don't have to do the diaper free method of potty training. There are many, many parents that simply wait until their child tells them they are ready and they just stop using diapers and start using the toilet. Usually this happens sometime between 3 and 4 years of age. I just personally don't want to wait that long. I prefer to deal with some accidents than deal with the diapers- from a work perspective, an environmental perspective, and a personal moral perspective that urges me to not have my child in diapers any longer than they have to be. So I go for the boot camp and I deal with the consequences of a young toddler that is not in diapers. With ECing from such an early age, though, accidents have been quite rare so far. We had our first out and about accident yesterday and I blame dh for not pottying him when I asked him to. LOL.
I will leave you with this story, though... When we were doing potty boot camp with Avalon, she really had no idea what the potty was for and her temperament didn't allow for her sitting on the potty at regular intervals. So, I was doing the diaper free, follow her around with a potty technique. A few days into boot camp a friend of mine came over for a playdate. Avalon was running around (she was 19 months old) and I was talking with my friend. Out of the corner of my eye I saw Avalon start to poop- like it was coming out of her, but hadn't fallen to the carpet yet. I didn't even miss a beat in the conversation, thrust my hands out and caught that poop before it hit the floor. I didn't even think about it. Afterward, as I was holding a pile of sh*t in my hand a mere 3 feet from my friend, I had to laugh. That's parenthood. She laughed with me and we have remained good friends despite the poop in hand incident! And since then I have caught vomit in a similar manner, several times. You do what you have to do!
Would it help if maybe you were more logical about it? I mean...from a non-emotional place, and a place of reason, see his side? Even if you dont like it :P Its really a choice to be made by both parties. One of those "all or none" decisions.
Funny poop story Jaimee!!!
B is pretty much potty trained now. She still has accidents when she is with other people, I think because she is pretty non-verbal and they dont know what she is trying to communicate like I do. We dont do diapers during naps, and she is dry 50/50 at night.
I guess the trade off is that she still loses her mind when me and DH leave without her. She cried for over an hour last night for my MIL, while we were gone watching ODD's dance recital
Nicole, I am so sorry. I hope that she recovers quickly!
Joanie, well, I'm totally a planner, so I get your DH's POV. One thing that I did when I wanted to have a baby, but we weren't quite ready for it (house renovation!), was to get my body prepared. Lots of good nutrition and prenatal vitamins, exercise, etc. Mostly focused on nutrition. At least, that way I felt like I was working toward the goal of a second baby!
Jaimee, congratulations on the house sale. Send me some of that good luck! The owner of the home we wanted in Massachusetts accepted our offer, and the contracts will be signed tomorrow. At least that is off my shoulders!
RE: Potty training. So B was using the potty after waking and naps for two weeks, but now won't go at all. How should I get him to start peeing in it again? I'm starting to wonder if I should wait until we move out of our house and get settled in our new house in August. Thoughts?
Sorry about your mil again, Nicole.
Yay on the house, Zippy!
I have never gotten used to the idea of anyone or thing peeing and pooping on my carpet! Lol. Unfortunately, almost every room in our house is carpeted. And we have Berber in the living room, which has been super hard to clean. I just hate carpet period, though. It always seems gross.
Joanie, I feel you on the babies. I have never made a logical choice when it comes to babies. Not once. All of my kids were poorly timed. If I would have waited for a good time, I wouldn't have any kids. Hormones and the desire to have a baby just possessed me every time. Well, maybe just the hormones with dd1! The other two were planned- PLANNED - at bad times. I guess I'm very convincing. Anyway, I feel your pain. Or did. I have no baby desire now!