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post #1 of 73
Thread Starter 

Hi everyone. That last thread was getting so looong I started a new one. 

 

1) How are you feeling physically and emotionally?

 

2) How are your partners settling into their support roles?

 

3) What development milestones are happening?

 

4) Do you have a question for other mammas?

post #2 of 73

Ok, I will go!  (Where is everyone????  Enjoying the warmer weather hopefully.)

 

1) How are you feeling physically and emotionally?

I feel completely back to normal now.  DS nurses quite a bit at night, but since we co-sleep, I feel pretty good in the morning.  He doesn't ever really wake up, I just roll over and nurse him and we all continue to sleep.  I have been nursing at night for almost 5 years straight, so lack of sleep isn't a new thing for me.  DD1 is turning 5 on the 18 and I am feeling so sad about that.  She is getting so big.  I also think I have a little bit of the baby blues.... Not too sad, but maybe more emotionally unsteady.  I need to figure out how to have more patience with the girls (they are fighting non stop and whining and crying al the time.... driving me batty).  DS is a joy to be around.  He is so content all the time and I think it is because I nurse him right away when he is showing hunger signs, change his diapers lots and wear him constantly.  He gets fussy if he is down on the ground at all, or in a bounce seat or anything else.  I am glad I figured it out though, or else we would all be pretty cranky all the time.  DD1 liked to play around on the ground all day (even at 2,3,4 months old), DD2 wanted to be held all the time and I thought there was something wrong with her.... I had pretty bad PPD with her and I didn't hold her enough.... I feel sad about it now... especially seeing that DS is so content being worn and held.  Anyways, just wanted to share my realization as a 3rd time mom.

 

2) How are your partners settling into their support roles?

DH is always such a rock star.  He holds DS when I put the girls to bed, he makes dinner, cleans up, snuggles, reads books.... He is really such a great dad and partner.  His bio father (did not raise him at all) passed away in the middle of May, so he has traveled to San Diego 2 times for a few days without us and it has been HARD.  3 days and nights each time.  It killed me and I saw how much he really does.  Putting to bed 3 kids at the same time with no help was hard.  We co-sleep with the 2 little ones and DD1 still lays with me to fall asleep, so, it was pretty rough.

 

3) What development milestones are happening?

DS is changing all the time!  He is starting to pull his feet to his mouth, so cute!  He has been rolling from back to front for almost a month now.... and front to back for longer than that.  He is babbling and blowing bubbles and cooing.  He holds his head up really well now and tries to pull himself up into a sit up when laying on my belly with his back.  He is just a cutie!  He loves talking with his sisters, but he doesnt like them to hold him.... He ends up crying and fussing.  

 

4) Do you have a question for other mammas?

not really.... I am still trying to come to terms with not having any more kids.... anyone dealing with sad feelings?  

post #3 of 73
Thread Starter 

The (decaf) coffee is on, the babe is asleep and I'm going to sit down and write. Ahhhhh. Now that's what I call excitement. ;)

 

 

1) How are you feeling physically and emotionally?

 

This is a complex one for me now. I've been pretty energetic and up-beat since I got my hemoglobin levels up two weeks post birth. I decided that meant I was emotionally doing great. I got really really good at compartmentalizing and taking thoughts I didn't want and stuffing them somewhere deeper. Now I think it's time to unpack. I'm having flash-backs of the hemorrhage and we still haven't DTD 12 weeks post-birth because I'm mentally in a bad place with that whole area of my body. Hubby is also traumatized from that post-birth scene and is not even tempted. Now that we're settled and are coming up to the 30 day waiting period mark when we can use our new health insurance I think it's time to tackle this issue. The first step... finding a birth trauma counsellor and a good Dr for me. I'm looking forward to the result of this work but not the process but I really can't procrastinate any longer. 

 

2) How are your partners settling into their support roles?

 

DH is amazing. He's still getting up at night to do diapers and is ready to jump into baby time the minute he wakes and the minute he arrives home. His parents are here and he's been able to guide them into ways they can help out so I don't have to feel awkward directing them. He brings the baby to them every morning before he leaves for work and they do a morning bottle of expressed milk and play with their grandson while I sleep a bit more. 

 

3) What development milestones are happening?

 

So we're a little behind all of you at 11 and a half weeks. We've got a lot of butt wiggle but not quite rolling over. Hands are firmly shoved into the mouth during every waking hour unless he's grabbing at his toys. It's so cool to see him experiencing different textures and making faces. He's letting me put him in the Ergo carrier for short walks but is still Mr Stroller. He's also anti swaddle. We do sleep sacks at night time and he tends to like sleeping in the baby bjorn bouncer which we put on on the bed between us so we can rock him to sleep. 

 

4) Do you have a question for other mammas?

 

My little guy has gone from his week of feeding constantly to now having 4-5 hour breaks at night again. All of a sudden I'm noticing some hormonal acne on my skin and mood changes. Related? 

post #4 of 73
Thread Starter 

 

4) Do you have a question for other mammas?

not really.... I am still trying to come to terms with not having any more kids.... anyone dealing with sad feelings?  

 

I'm reduced to tears whenever I take clothes that are now too small and pack them away. I'm not sure why those tiny clothes are such a trigger for me but that's my moment of "oh my god my baby is growing up." I understand now why we have the desire for more kids once we've done this once... the idea of newborns moving on is very emotional. Hugs mama!

post #5 of 73

1) How are you feeling physically and emotionally?

 

I'm honestly missing the slower pace of winter and the excuse of pregnancy to take it easy...  I'm pretty full-out w/ kids and hubby and don't have a lot of energy for friends and other relationships right now.  my introverted side is trying to take over.  and chores are dreadful to me.... but that said, my body feels great (except i stopped losing weight, put on a few lbs, and my body is trying to ovulate) but i can exercise, have energy, and don't feel like i just had a baby.  my breasts are settled into their nursing size (until around 9 months when they shrink again) and i ordered myself a two-piece in my bra size so i can be more comfortable and confident in this heat.  we're back to a settled schedule of charting and DTD which is nice b/c we can plan the evening around that.  i would love to NOT stabilize at this weight, but i'm pretty okay knowing it's only for a season and then i will go back down.  same w/ stress and seasons- i keep reminding myself it's also the shift into summer w/ 5 kids and that is always HARD.  

 

2) How are your partners settling into their support roles?

 

it's been on and off.  since i've had the baby, hubby has made 2 trips to california, one to DC, and for example, next weekend we're hosting our new housemate (for the summer) for her birthday party and having 2 friends come out to visit from Boston, and husband is working on Sat and we're hoping to do a farm walk (me and kids and guests) to learn about wild edibles.  that's pretty standard for us these days.....  so it seems pretty go go go, but i'm not crashing yet.  the baby is 90% my responsibility, but that's okay w/ me as he is a great baby.  we sleep well (co-sleeping wonder), and are always revisiting what's working and what is not so things are pretty mellow.  but it has gotten hard and we've had to have serious talks in order to keep things in order.  baseball in the evening in our saving grace!  we can chill out and watch it w/ our oldest and our youngest and relax.

 

3) What development milestones are happening?

 

he spent most of the last 2 days trying to roll over from back to belly, he's done it before, but seems to have forgotten it.  he can roll from belly to back as well, but more interested in grabbing and shoving things (hands, hair, clothes, slings, rings on slings) into his mouth.  hubby held a sour dill pickle to his mouth for chewing and he was mad when we didn't let him actually eat it....  he loved the cold salty flavor and texture.  

 

4) Do you have a question for other mammas?

 

anyone else facing a little weight gain?  hormones have been crazy since birth, but suddenly packing on a few pounds, hair starting to shed a little more (cut off a few inches), and feeling more hormonal.  
 

I'm feeling a little sad about this probably being our last one.  sad, and also very very relieved.  my last birth wasn't easy, and i don't ever want to do that again, but it's also sad.  we're not taking drastic steps, but have at this point come to agreement that this family size is really ideal for us especially w/ travel and wanting to be able to do more w/ the older kids.  i love newborns, but being limited by potty-training and nursing does shift me from doing so many adventurous things i want to do w/ my older kids.  finally got a library card and visit today to our local library.  but crossing the street carrying almost 4 month old and having my 7, 5, 3, and 2 year old holding hands and walking w/ me is a bit intense.....  2 year old walking is a hazard!!!  i also have been sad going through all my tiny baby girl clothes (and passing them on) and all my baby boy clothes (already passing on boy clothes under 9 months size) and it's hard!!!  i think he's going to sleep w/ me until he's way too old if i have no more.  i love this snuggling little man phase so much.

post #6 of 73

DH took the baby out for a walk to give me some me time, so I'm going to (hopefully) squeeze out a post while I still can... assuming I don't accidentally erase it with this stupid computer (something that has happened a few times recently).

 

1) How are you feeling physically and emotionally?

 

Physically, I'm feeling pretty good. I'm back to running and doing yoga like I was before pregnancy but not quite as often as I would prefer since DD doesn't love the stroller all the time and I don't really like pushing her in it while I'm running so I have to either get up super early or wait until DH has a day off (Sundays and some Saturdays). Baby has also taken to napping for only 30-40 minutes more frequently instead of her previous 1-1.5 hours less often, which doesn't help. On a related note, I haven't been eating terribly well lately and I'm starting to feel the effects of it a bit. I have gotten into this terrible habit of grabbing one of these sort of healthier version of fudgsicles (healthier, not healthy) to hold me over between meals because they're so tasty and fast but then the meals never come and I go to bed having eaten only that. Sigh.

 

Emotionally, I'm not really sure. Mostly fine, I guess? Every few minutes seem to vary so dramatically according to DD's mood. When she's happy, I'm happy, when she's angry, I'm frustrated, etc. I manage to keep my cool, of course, but inside there's a bit of a fire that seems to swell pretty rapidly. I'm also a bit lonely due to being essentially a work widow with DH which results in me essentially shoving DD at him the moment he walks in the door so I can squeeze in 30 minutes to sit silently or do something quiet in the bedroom with the door shut. Is anyone else forgetting what sex is like? We've literally DTD in the past 15 weeks.

 

I'm also starting to freak out about childcare a little bit, since I'm overwhelmed with options but starting to worry that we may not be able to afford it. For the one I want (which isn't even the most expensive one in my area) it's $240/week. Madness. DH wants to be a "kept husband" (his words), but he just isn't that kind of person who can handle that since he doesn't have any organizational skills to speak of and I have little faith that he would remember to do all the things that need to be done around the house every day. When I leave him with Mila for a couple hours, he calls me constantly.

 

2) How are your partners settling into their support roles?

 

I may have answered this question a bit in the previous section, but he's as well as can be expected in the short time he's home every day.

 

3) What development milestones are happening?

 

My little baby is growing up! She can shimmy herself 180 degrees on her belly to reach her toys and has nearly mastered the reach and munch with anything you put in front of her. She had her first real temper tantrum today when she wanted my phone and I wouldn't give it to her, which was eye-opening. Not to say that's she's very quiet about the things she wants in general, but that was a clear and distinct "I WANT THAT NOOOOWWW!" screeching cry that would calm the closer the phone got to her and intensify as it moved away. She's also been really working on her different sounds and laughs all the time, which is adorable.

 

4) Do you have a question for other mammas?

 

I think I sort of included a couple in the content up there, but here are the highlights:

 

Does anyone have a sex life that in any way resembles the one they had pre-baby (especially for you FTMs)?

How is everyone managing child care when maternity leave ends/now?

 

post #7 of 73

i'm going to try to type a little.. got a baby on my arm/chest so we'll see how it goes..

 

i am not sure yet if this is our last, part of me wants it to be, and part of me really relaly really doesn't - recently my dh has said that it is up to me, so i'm trying to talk to myself about 1 more vs no more vs 2 more.. i am leaning toward 1 more.. i just don't know if i'm ever ever EVER going to be able to deal with the sadness of being done - though part of me thinks that that is just a big flashing sign that i'm not suppose to be done..  it feels like so many people are actually done and not sad about it, why can't i be one of those someday?

 

1) How are you feeling physically and emotionally?

great physically, lately i've been tired a lot but i blame my 2.5 yr old waiting up at the crack of dawn ..

 

emotionally, i'm doing better - i was a bit overwhelmed in the first couple months but that is really getting better now..  sometimes i feel like i'm really not as on top of things as i'd like but in reality, things are fine.  the house is clean, everyne is fed, its just that they aren't fed exactly what i would like, and the extra projects are taking extra time..

 

 

2) How are your partners settling into their support roles?

 

this being baby #4, he is far from settling into the support role at this point, but he is doing great ..

 

3) What development milestones are happening?

 

we aren't rolling yet, but i feel like it is coming - my little man is holding his head up really well now, can sit supported, he can scoot a little on his tummy and roll to his side to grab toys..  he is grabbing toys! 3 weeks ago he wasn't grabbing things or putting things in his mouth at all so it seems like it has really happened fast.. its so stinkin cute every single time he tries to grab something.

 

 

4) Do you have a question for other mammas?

see above.  will i ever feel done?
 

post #8 of 73
1) How are you feeling physically and emotionally?
Physically I am doing ok except for one issue. I thought I had started my period last week but it turned out to be some weird extra tissue growing out of where I had my small tear. I don't remember the name of it now but after a very stressful ER visit last week (because omg I had bloody tissue coming out of me) and a dr visit today I think it's in it's way to being resolved. Really freaked me out though. Apparently it can happen anywhere on your body if a wound doesn't close properly. So gross.

Emotionally I am still struggling a bit but I'm sure hormones are to blame. And the fact that I feel like I don't know what I'm doing most of the time still. We got into bad sleeping habits with babe and this week have been trying to fix them and get her used to her crib instead of our chests. It was to the point where we couldn't put her down to sleep at all and all three of us were sleep deprived. She still struggles with naps during the day for some reason but has slept in her crib for the past two nights and done ok. Better than I thought!

Until I get her napping well, the days are rough. What do you do with a constantly tired baby who will only nurse to sleep and then not stay asleep? I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes.

2) How are your partners settling into their support roles?

DH is great. He helps whenever he can but he works long days and is physically tired when he gets home. So he can only help out for a few hours which is during her fussy majorly overtired time so it's hard.

He was doing a night shift with her when she was sleeping on us, which allowed me to sleep but he was getting very tired from it. I love that he wanted to let me sleep but he is the one with the dangerous job (electrician) so we needed to get her in her own space.

3) What development milestones are happening?
Lots of fist chewing and grabbing whatever she can to shove in her mouth. I think her gums are bothering her quite a bit. She can roll on her side but not completely over yet. She has great head control and can sit up very well assisted.

4) Do you have a question for other mammas?
What do you do with a baby who needs constant entertainment? I guess when she naps better things will be easier. I just feel like I don't get a break during the day right now and it's hard!
post #9 of 73
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4) Do you have a question for other mammas?
What do you do with a baby who needs constant entertainment? I guess when she naps better things will be easier. I just feel like I don't get a break during the day right now and it's hard!

Gah, so sorry to hear about your ER visit!! How stressful! I hope things heal up quick for you.

I've not been able to lay down any of my babies (at this age) for naps or night sleep by themselves. As they get older, my babies have done fine nursing to sleep (day or night) and then transferring to the bed. But right now, I literally wear my baby for all her naps. She'll nurse to sleep but won't stay asleep so I'll nurse, burp and then wrap her up in my woven wrap on my back so I can get stuff done.
If I do this faithfully, and don't try to set her down (so she wakes up prematurely) or put off her nap because I don't feel like wearing her... Then we have tough nights.

Ugh, sorry more later. Baby time
post #10 of 73
Oops, that didn't come out right. If I make sure she gets good naps in the wrap, then we have easier nights.

Obviously wearing her around isn't exactly like having a break, but it does make life easier, baby happier, and night time better.

I know several of the FTMamas have mentioned how your babies don't like to be worn at all. I realize this may be totally the case for some, but also just want to mention that mine gives a good solid 10-15 minute fuss in the wrap before falling asleep. If she's very upset I'll take her down and nurse again and get her back up. To get her to sleep in it I have to walk up and down the hallway, patting her rear. Once she's out I can do whatever I need to do.
The thing I love about wearing her for naps is that we never have to be home at nap time, she'll nap anywhere we are as long as I'm wearing her.
She absolutely screams in the ergo, though, so you may want to try out different carriers if baby really hates what you have.

But I do remember what it all felt like with my first one. It was so ridiculously overwhelming that my baby needed me ALL THE TIME. The first baby is SO hard, even if it's an "easy" baby. But it does get better and easier a little at a time. And if it doesn't feel like it's getting better and you're just too overwhelmed, get some help for yourself! Especially if you start to suspect PPD.

So with transitioning her to the crib, is she in another room? Are you having to get out of bed for night nursing? Will she not sleep next to you on the bed (or do you not want her in bed)?
post #11 of 73
Yeah I'm not having a lot of success with wearing her and I know I'm not coordinated enough for a back carry anyways lol! I can't even get a ring sling to work most of the time and she doesn't like it.

We are getting help from a sleep consultant now. I just need to be consistent and apparently it will fall into place. Daytimes are hard though right now. She is a light sleeper and I have a hard time sleeping as well when she is in bed with me. We have had a few successful nights in her crib the past two nights. It's in a separate room but very close by since our house is small. When she has a good sleep at night she is only up once to nurse so I can handle that.
post #12 of 73

1) How are you feeling physically and emotionally?

 

Physically, great, with two exceptions. 

 

1) Still healing a small diastasis and trying to watch what I eat to get rid of these last few pregnancy pounds around my midsection (I'm guessing on the poundage, as I haven't weighed myself).  I am treading carefully with my history of ED, but it's tough since, even though I am decidedly not thin, I have always had a naturally small waist and relatively (not really, but relatively) "flat" belly.  In the meantime, I may order an old-fashioned girdle, as most shapers-- even the Squeem-- just give me an even tinier waist side-to-side (which I don't "need") but actually make my belly stick out MORE in the front.  Annoying.  I really didn't seem to gain much except in the belly, and lost most of it right away, but have been at my current sticking point since 1 week PP.  I know why, too-- I have been exercising but not watching what I eat at all-- in fact, eating loads of takeout.  Stopped that on Sunday and I already think I can see a difference.

 

2) My SPD from pregnancy is still bugging me, though it seems to slooooowly be going away.  It only bothers me when I sleep on my side-- then my crotch is terribly sore in the morning.  This is tough b/c we bed-share and I nurse on my side, etc.  Right now, I'm working with A) pillows between my legs and knees, and B) basically sleeping on my back next to Miss L most of the night.  I hope it won't be like this for the rest of my life!  I'm banking on my connective tissue getting back to normal by 6 months PP or I will see a PT.   

 

Psychologically okay-ish...  My issue with not getting enough work done always seems to be about my constant feeling of "being behind" rather than the reality of the situation.  That is, whenever I break things down, it's clear that we will meet our goals if I can get 15-20 hours/week work done, and I totally can the way we have things set up (or close to it), and I am not "behind" at all...  but it feels like it.  Probably because, hey, I'd rather be ahead, and I used to have so much more time, etc.  So it's more that I have to work on that feeling than that I need to change my plans or pull some sort of all-nighter to "catch up" or whatever.  I know DH has had to work on the same thing, as it's his impulse to work long hours and prove himself awesome and indispensable at his new job (started January), but with this new and overwhelming family responsibility, he has to let go of that and be okay doing B+ (maybe even B-) work and just garnering moderate praise and keeping his job, YK?

 

I am looking forward to slowly integrating this new responsibility (baby) into my brain and not having it feel like a big chunk of it (my brain) is MIA because I am always preoccupied with her on some level (however subconscious).  YK?  I hear it takes at least a year to be able to juggle things in a way that makes you feel uncrazy, LOL. 

 

2) How are your partners settling into their support roles?

 

I think DH is doing better than I am, though I'm doing better than I expected, too.  We have a thing in this house, though-- we never refer to DH as "helping" or being in a support role or whatever.  We are "co-parenting."  I do more like 60% of the co-parenting, though, and even though he is pretty insistent on doing as much as possible, I can see it slipping a little (hard to fight societal expectations).  And it's partly me, too, who is unconsciously taking on more than my share (I mean more than 60%-- that much is okay d/t differing work expectations).  I am very wary of slipping into what Naomi Wolf talked about in one of her books...  Basically DH doing much less and us "calling it fair" when it's not.  So...

 

3) What development milestones are happening?

 

She is super-obviously working sooooo hard on rolling over (both ways) and getting frustrated, making her pretty cranky in the last week.  She is excellent at swinging her legs over and getting to her side from her front or back, or from her side to her back, but she hasn't figured out that she can't roll all the way over with her hands in her mouth, LOL-- she'll have to put her arm above her head or at least along her side, right?  I do let her get fairly frustrated before I "rescue" her (by picking her up and comforting her-- not by rolling her over myself!), but can now understand how overwhelming the urge can be to "do it for" your kid, even when you know that's wrong (and ineffective!)  I have been pretty surprisingly great about not being impatient for her to get to the "next stage" of development, but when it's sooooo close, I find myself getting antsy about it, so I try to take a deep breath and relax.  She's pretty clearly (?) able-bodied, so I don't think she'll be going off to college without knowing how to roll over, LOL.

 

I wonder if she'll be like me-- it drives me nuts (and especially did when I was a kid) to get the gist of how to do a thing, but to be unable to do so yet, because of physical/developmental limitations or lack of experience.  I always wanted to be able to do X right away, without practice, because I understood, intellectually, how to do X.  But I think that may not have been so much inborn a trait as something I came to because I was always praised for my intellectual/verbal abilities, etc.  Hence why we're concentrating on Unconditional Parenting over here.

 

Other than the rolling-over thing, she laughs some, is super-interactive, and does absolutely everything else you'd expect a 4-6-month-old to do (she's almost 14 weeks), so we're not concerned here.  My MWs have commented on her exceptional trunk and leg control, how much she talks and has "conversations" (pretty awesome), etc.  She will also often concentrate on a book(s) for up to 20 minutes at a time, and is starting to play more independently for longer periods (her Tiny Love play mat/arch is one of her few toys).  My theory is, I'm not going to try to force "independence" in play (and we all interact HEAVILY), but when she's happily playing by herself, why am I going to insert myself into that?  That would just be butting in for no good reason.    

 

4) Do you have a question for other mammas?

 

I just KNOW I do, but I'll have to think about it and get back to this!

post #13 of 73
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What do you do with a baby who needs constant entertainment? I guess when she naps better things will be easier. I just feel like I don't get a break during the day right now and it's hard!

naomi is seemingly getting worse with this. i can't put her down for a minute before she's yelling at me. won't tolerate her swing, bumbo, bouncer, or other people. she goes from quiet to crocodile tear sobbing in anyone else's arms. it's alarming. this is day 3 without a shower. i really want a shower. 

i hope it gets easier soon for you.

 

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Does anyone have a sex life that in any way resembles the one they had pre-baby (especially for you FTMs)?

 

nope. we've managed to dtd 4 times, but it's been rushed and painful and i have honestly no interest in it. every time has been while she's sleeping in the swing, but it's been a few weeks.

 

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 i think he's going to sleep w/ me until he's way too old if i have no more.  i love this snuggling little man phase so much.

 

ditto! i love snuggling with naomi. it is the best feeling ever. 

 

 

 

1) How are you feeling physically and emotionally?

 

i feel like a big sweaty out of shape gross lump, to put it mildly. i haven't worked out in weeks. hubby is always working and naomi won't let me put her down. we take at least a couple walks a day, but that's it. i have about 30 pounds to lose. getting dressed every morning is a near nervous breakdown. i will never 'embrace' this new body. it needs to go away.

emotionally, about equal. i'm mad at hubby for working all of the time and not giving me a break, but if he even attempts to hold her anyway she freaks out, so that's fun. 

i've been baking a lot, but i have to wait for hubby to be able to run the ninja (deafening) for me or put things in a pan or whatever. all one-handed since she also won't be worn in the house. 

the pp hair loss is awful. i'm grateful for it since it's so dang hot here and my hair is so thick, but i am always pulling hair off of me, baby, the bottoms of my feet and sheets. gross.

 

2) How are your partners settling into their support roles?

 

his role is paying the bills. 

 

3) What development milestones are happening?

 

she can roll over both ways, grabs/reaches for things. her hand/eye coordination is great. she started grabbing her feet this week. love it.

 

4) Do you have a question for other mammas?

 

nope. just taking it as it comes.

post #14 of 73
Yes kellybeth, we've had a rough week too with her not wanting to be out down. I just don't know what to do with her sometimes! Maybe it's the start of teething combined with a development leap? Rissa can't roll over yet but she is trying. She can get to her side and can't figure out what to do with her arms.

The crocodile tears kill me. I was in tears last night too just feeling so overwhelmed!

We haven't dtd yet and I'm glad we didn't since I had that weird extra tissue down there that I didn't discover until last week. Now I need to heal from that and hope it stays away!
post #15 of 73

i think it may be a 4 month thing.  DS is very attached to me again... will scream with DH (which usually he will snuggle at night when I am putting the girls to bed).  It will pass.

 

I suggest you try to wear them at least once a day.... they change so quickly and may put up with something they would not before.  DS hated the ring sling and now it is his favorite.  He doesn't like being worn on my back at all, but I am trying it once or so a day to see if he changes his mind.  I also tried laying him down for his nap today and he slept for about 30 minutes on my bed.... ALONE.  I got to clean the bathrooms and do some 'school work' with DD1.  They change so fast, keep trying!

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Originally Posted by kellybeth View Post

i'm mad at hubby for working all of the time and not giving me a break, but if he even attempts to hold her anyway she freaks out, so that's fun.  

 

^ this. So much this. DH is also terrible at changing her diaper because he takes FOREVER and it pisses her off, so even though I like a break from poo duty, it means I have to listen to her cry.

 

DD is also attached at the hip these days too. She loves strangers and gives them ear to ear grins but only so long as she's being held by me, otherwise the bottom lip juts out the second they reach for/talk to her. I had a friend over today and the whole visit was a bust because Mila kept wriggling and screaming until I laid down with her in the bedroom for a nap (leaving Friend alone in the living room for 20 minutes), then promptly woke up and yelled at me for not being there again. Luckily this friend is very understanding and patient but even she has limits so she left early and I didn't get the chance to talk to an adult about non-baby things :(

 

 She has always nursed to sleep but over the past few days she'll only stay down for a few minutes before crying for me to come back to bed. As I type this (with one hand) she is napping on my lap and has been for a good hour - the longest nap she's had in a while. She's made it crystal clear that a pacifier is not something that's going to happen so I'm hoping this will pass over time, since I can't exactly leave my boobs at daycare with her, but I usually don't mind nursing her to sleep. I just play with my phone.

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Originally Posted by kellybeth View Post

 

 

 

1) How are you feeling physically and emotionally?

 

i feel like a big sweaty out of shape gross lump, to put it mildly. i haven't worked out in weeks. hubby is always working and naomi won't let me put her down. we take at least a couple walks a day, but that's it. i have about 30 pounds to lose. getting dressed every morning is a near nervous breakdown. i will never 'embrace' this new body. it needs to go away.

emotionally, about equal. i'm mad at hubby for working all of the time and not giving me a break, but if he even attempts to hold her anyway she freaks out, so that's fun. 

i've been baking a lot, but i have to wait for hubby to be able to run the ninja (deafening) for me or put things in a pan or whatever. all one-handed since she also won't be worn in the house. 

the pp hair loss is awful. i'm grateful for it since it's so dang hot here and my hair is so thick, but i am always pulling hair off of me, baby, the bottoms of my feet and sheets. gross.

 

 

hug2.gif Sounds really rough. I hope this clingy stage shifts for you soon. A is pulling hair out of my head all the time too. It's crap. I have half a mind to cut it right now.

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I am kind of obsessed with pulling all my own loose hair out so she can't get to it and it's not alllllll over the house.  (For our 15th wedding anniversary last week, DH and I treated ourselves to a thorough housecleaning, and I caught the ladies discussing the "mucho pelo," LOL.  To be fair, some of it belonged to the cat.)

 

Also, something I was grateful to read pre-pregnancy and thought I'd pass along to other FTMs...  It hasn't happened to us (yet), but if your babe suddenly shrieks as if in pain and won't be calmed, check his/her toes and fingers for a hair tightly wound around them, causing pain and cutting off circulation.  I have heard of this happening here and there and it's something you want to catch!

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I am kind of obsessed with pulling all my own loose hair out so she can't get to it and it's not alllllll over the house.  (For our 15th wedding anniversary last week, DH and I treated ourselves to a thorough housecleaning, and I caught the ladies discussing the "mucho pelo," LOL.  To be fair, some of it belonged to the cat.)

 

Also, something I was grateful to read pre-pregnancy and thought I'd pass along to other FTMs...  It hasn't happened to us (yet), but if your babe suddenly shrieks as if in pain and won't be calmed, check his/her toes and fingers for a hair tightly wound around them, causing pain and cutting off circulation.  I have heard of this happening here and there and it's something you want to catch!

I just had this happen! Thanks for the reminder. :) I think that was in the Dr Sears book wasn't it? 

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I am kind of obsessed with pulling all my own loose hair out so she can't get to it and it's not alllllll over the house.  (For our 15th wedding anniversary last week, DH and I treated ourselves to a thorough housecleaning, and I caught the ladies discussing the "mucho pelo," LOL.  To be fair, some of it belonged to the cat.)

 

Also, something I was grateful to read pre-pregnancy and thought I'd pass along to other FTMs...  It hasn't happened to us (yet), but if your babe suddenly shrieks as if in pain and won't be calmed, check his/her toes and fingers for a hair tightly wound around them, causing pain and cutting off circulation.  I have heard of this happening here and there and it's something you want to catch!

I heard this goes particularly for little boys, since they can also have a hair wrapped around their penis. Ouch!

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