1) How are you feeling physically and emotionally?
Emotionally, I'm so great! Feeling blissed-out and lucky and so in love with my (not-so-)tiny girl. She is my WORLD, and I'm 100% okay with that. She's 14 weeks old and we haven't spent more than an hour away from each other or gone farther than shouting distance (while she's in her papa's or nana's arms). I had the tiniest itch the other day of suffocation, feeling like I needed to just breathe on my own or (gasp) go somewhere without her, just briefly, but it subsided. I'm back to dreading the day I have to actually be away from her.
I've been working for several weeks now, with varying levels of success. I do as much as possible at/from home, and when I do go in to my employer's house I bring Olive -and- my mom, our built-in babysitter. (That way we can still nurse on demand and I can put her to sleep and/or wear her for naps, plus we're usually within talking earshot of each other so we can all have little conversations while I work.) I'm unbelievably lucky to have an employer, mother, and baby that allow me to work that way. Still, I'm putting in a fraction of the hours I need to, since it's been an enormous adjustment for us all and the house is totally chaotic and overstimulating for O and I often just drop everything and attend to her cries. (She doesn't respond that well to my mom, yet.) I'm not complaining - like I said, I know how lucky I am. But it'll feel good when I'm working "like normal" again! (Haha)
Hmm. Physically, I'm fine. Not bad, not great. (I'm talking body image/pants-fitting here; otherwise, no complaints - tons of energy, grateful to have a strong and healthy body, making (too much) time for healthy meals, etc) I think that initial postpartum elation I felt (soo skinny!) fell away as, literally, my organs fell back down into place. Bummer. So now I'm soft and a little rounder than I'd be ideally, but I'll take it. I can wear my prepregnancy clothes just fine, they just look... different. I'm also not doing a lick of exercise (the thought repulses me!) so I can only blame myself.
2) How are your partners settling into their support roles?
He's learning. I'm actually totally impressed with his eagerness as of late. He wants to help; he reaches for her as soon as he comes home (or we come home, as often we get out of work later than he does). Unfortunately, I need to remember to ask if he actually wants to take her or just say hello, as I'll see them happily playing and run off and do a million things and then he gets miserable because he didn't intend to actually watch her... ha. Our communication is improving! And DH and I are - incredibly - in one of the best places we've ever been in, in nearly eight years of life together. No doubt it's due to our mutual love for our baby girl!
He's still hounding me, and I've been able to offer tiny favors/quick dtds lately - I think my arousal is directly correlated to his willingness to help, and he's been super supportive lately! Footrubs, taking Olive for her late afternoon nap, making *dinner*... I think he's on to me, so he's doing whatever he can
to entice me. Makes me giggle.
3) What development milestones are happening?
Sitting up is her favorite thing right now. Not only will she sit on the floor or my lap or the couch, but she'll push herself up from reclining in her bouncy chair and her carseat. She totally prefers to sit and play that way, and watch me with her little bobbing head as I move around the room. She grabs her feet and plays with them, but hasn't intentionally -tasted- them yet. I can't wait.
Initially (a month ago?) she rolled tummy-to-back. Now she forgets how to do that and only rolls back-to-tummy. She now successfully evades new diapers, and burrows into me while sleeping or nursing so that she can flip. Silly goose.
She's super strong and always wants to be standing. If I bounce on the exercise ball with her facing me, she pumps her legs up and down and laughs uproariously. (I may have mentioned that before, sorry.) Her laugh is the.best.thing.ever.
(She also laughs like crazy when we tickle her or zerbert her tummy, but since I have some personal trauma and belly sensitivity from five older siblings constantly zerberting my tummy, I try not to overdo it. This may or may not be crazy...)
4) Do you have a question for other mammas?
Yes. Buko, what are you doing for your diastasis recti? My midwife told me I have a two-inch separation, despite my efforts to prevent it, and I admit I haven't done anything (besides housework and walks, though they aren't targeted to the tummy) to heal it. Have you heard of the Tuppler (?) Technique?
For all (with father figure partners): Are you celebrating Father's Day? Any ideas? DH has ordered himself a shaving kit for his new dual-edged safety razor, with the new holiday as an excuse, but I'd like to do for/give him something from baby and me, too.
Edited by sgsnyder - 6/9/13 at 9:51am