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He pees Soooooo much at night

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I have been ECing with my 15 month old since he was 10 months. And he has been diaper free during naps and at night since he turned 1. 

It seems to me that as time goes by, he is peeing more and more at night. 

When we first started at night (at 10 months), he seemed to hold on to his pee more and he would squirm a whole lot before peeing. So I would wake up, bring him to the bathtub (easier to aim for a boy than in a toilet)) and cue him. Over time, he also got into the habit of nursing as i would cue him at night.

 

So now, my issue is 2 sided:

1. (Still at night only) When I bring him to the bathtub and cue him, if I dont also give him the breast, he doesnt pee. And he fusses and cries. Until either I give him the bood, or I go back to bed with him and he pees in bed instants later.

 

and

 

2. He pees like 5-6 times throughout the night. Thats a lot more then when we first started ECing. I am personally exhausted. I havent had more than a 3 hours un-interupted sleep in months. When your baby is a newborn, it is expected... BUt ive been highly sleep deprived for the last 15 months (and more if you count the end of pregnancy) And it is now affecting my patience level in the daytime, when I deal with my son.

 

I need any advice you can give me. 

I put a diaper on him last night. And then fell asleep with him while I was putting him down. So I got 8 hours of sleep. Somewhat non-interupted. He still nursed a few times, but I didnt have to get up to pee him.

 

This temporary solution was great for my beauty sleep, but I fear it will put us back on our Elimination Communication Bond.

 

 

So, what do you have to say, Ladies... Im all ears.

post #2 of 4

I'm a fan of sleep. If he was dry overnight 3 months ago, I would probably diaper him and assume he's only going so much because the offer is there. If he asks to pee in the night, I would take him.

 

We have a 13 month old who has never been dry at night. He pees 4-6 times a night in his diaper (potty refusal counts as communication in my book). Our 19 month old has been dry most nights for several months after he began refusing the potty around 6 months, so I know they dry up even if you don't take them at night.

post #3 of 4

You can do EC only during the day. It will still work. And you will be able to bond better if you're not completely drained from lack of sleep.

post #4 of 4
Been there, experienced that. What I did was diaper him at night for 2 whole weeks, no nighttime EC, and then he asked less and less at night. From then on out I did use a diaper backup at night, one that he wasn't as likely to pee in, but in the undies or naked he'd just pee if I ignored his squirms. We had only 1 miss per month at night, diapered in cloth (hemp insert and wool cover), from month 15-24 with this method. Furthermore, I taught him to hold it by not pottying him all night long, and by putting him in a back-up. This didn't break our EC bond…it actually strengthened it.
 
YOU need sleep, sister, and so does your LO. Nighttime dryness WILL follow daytime, in time. For now, you need to get your sleep. I'd stop pottying at night for 2 weeks, use a diaper as a TOOL, a back-up, something to keep you both in balance, and then re-assess.
 
For me, after that 2 weeks of blissful night sleep, I only offered once in the night and only when he strongly insisted.
 
As for nursing to pee at night, if you are okay with it, it's kind of usual for this age baby. If you're not okay with it, just don't do it. :)
 
There's more information on my forum with folks I've been helping with sleep and EC, but this personal example of mine seems most helpful.
 
Permission given to take a nighttime EC break! And seriously, you CAN NOT screw up EC because you want to get your needs met and choose to do it only in the daytime, if even temporarily. Your child will never forget everything he's learned.
 
Good luck!
xx Andrea
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