But i worry about its breathability.
I'm putting this thread on hold for now. I was going to wait until I had more time but I want to get it rolling..
I used the MEOS through 3 kids and then passed them on to another family. We never had any issues with them and they were considered the "workhorse" of our (very limited) diaper stash. I haven't decided what we're using on the new baby yet, but I still have a little time for that. We generally use prefolds and covers for the NB period. I found we get a better fit that way.
Here we are, first, congratulations! Second, take a deep breath! You're going to make a great decision!
It sounds to me like you're psyching yourself out by thinking of the poly content as a "poly net". There is polyester in the non organic motherease diapers, but the material that is exposed is cotton terry. it feels exactly like a bath towel on the inside and the outside. The colored diapers have bleached inner fabric. For a diaper to become so worn that the poly "net" is exposed would take YEARS of INTENSE washing. We're talking about diapers that have been around the block, diapering every butt born over a period of years.
I have unbleached cotton and a couple of dyed ones. One is an XS Sandys, and the rest are one size. Both of my babies were average weight (around 7.5 lbs) at birth but gained very quickly. If I had money to burn, I might buy a full stash of XS Sandys. But probably not. On a similar note, my babies both wore size medium air flow covers almost from birth. The legs gape open a little, which is only a problem if the diaper is not snug enough. While I do love the material the motherease covers are made from, I don't know that it's my favorite cover. Do keep in mind that you can use just about any full-coverage cover over a sandy's or one size diaper. If you're really bothered by synthetics on your baby, you may want to look into wool covers. My opinion is that your choice of cover will affect breathability much more than the nominal amount of polyester in the diaper itself.
These are all truly amazing diapers, but if you are concerned about longevity, I would encourage you to go for the one size simply because the elastic in the Sandys is probably the first thing to go in a diaper. (Of course this depends partially on your wash routine...)
I'm hearing you say that you really don't want synthetic materials against your baby's skin. I don't think you should second guess your gut feeling on this. Just get the organic one size diapers and never look back. You will not regret it! But if you're open to using wool covers, I do suggest this as a natural fiber alternative to the polyurethaine coating on most covers. Disana, Lana, and Ruskovilla are 3 of the most popular brands. Nicki's and Imse Vimse also make wool wraps with velcro closures, which will be less bulky under clothing. If you or someone you know if crafty, you can also knit or crochet amazingly cute shorts or pants that double as diaper covers.
As for the number of diapers that you need - this absolutely depends on how often you wash and how often your baby goes to the bathroom. But the average, assuming you wash every 2 or 3 days, is 24 diapers. If you want to wash every day, then 12 diapers should be enough. If you want to wash less frequently, then you'll need more diapers.
I've heard people recommend everything from 3 to 8 diaper covers for a newborn. Honestly, I'd recommend 4, so long as you're doing a load of laundry every couple of days. It doesn't have to be diaper laundry - you can always throw a cover in with whatever you're washing.
Oh, and about the number of soakers that you'll need - you'll probably only use them at night for the first few months. You can always buy more if you need more. I'd say that 12 (for a stash of 24 diapers) would be more than adequate. I'd personally probably only get 4 or 6.
It sounds like you're in a rush to make a decision so that you can ask to be gifted specific items?? Why not ask for gift certificates instead? You could even ask for a gift certificate from a cloth diaper store that sells Motherease products alongside other items (like newborn sized prefolds and wool covers), so that you can purchase items incrementally as you realize what works best for you?
I think you are putting too much weight in the "long lastingness" of the Mother-Ease. I know you want it to be economic for more babies, but most well known, well made cotton diapers are.
Many many of my all cotton organic and not organic one size diapers have lasted through 4 babies and are just now toast for the 5th baby. I think some would definitely still be around if we hadn't used Sanitary cycle on our washer with *every* load, and bleach a few times. Even so, it was the snaps and elastic that were damaged by the Sanitary cycle, not the cotton itself.
If you take care of it correctly, cotton lasts a very long time.
HUGS, try not to stress out. I know it's hard to choose and make that final choice. It feels so "final". I found it hard myself, even though I have used cloth for 10+ years now.
ETA: 12 diapers has never been enough for us with a newborn. I would go off my rocker trying to wash and hoping I would have enough cleaned before I run out, as they literally sometimes go through 1 an hour, or every two. Many people say 24 is barely enough to get through the early days with a newborn. The recommendation I have read time and time again, is 36.
My newborn and up stash consists of:
6 GMD og newborn workhorse fitteds
12 GMD og newborn prefolds
2 Imagine bamboo newborn fitteds *don't like these already*
That's 20, but then I have these to get me through newborn, when needed and up to around 5-6 mos. when I will switch to one size, likely :
12 GMD small og workhorse fitteds
12 GMD small og prefolds
1 Mother-Ease small og Sandy w/insert *which fits my 25 pound, 24 mos old, so not sure about it*
I also have:
1 Mother-ease og one size w/insert
6 Tiny Tush og one size fitteds *I have seen these on their facebook page on a 2 week old, 7.5 pound baby, and the fit looks amazing on the newborn setting*
2 Large GMD workhorse fitteds
I have 6 Tiny Tush one size pocket diapers, too, but I have a hard time using fleece and synthetic fabrics on my babies, etc. so I'll have to see what I think of using them this time around.
I'll probably end up getting more of the Tiny Tush os fitteds after I see what I like best this time around.
So even though I only have 20 true newborn sized diapers, I have the smalls which can be used when needed, and the one size diapers, too.
I agree with LightForest. Don't get any of the synthetic fabric diapers. You will just be unhappy about it because your instincts are clearly telling you to stay away from them and mama instincts are always right. :)