I haven't been on these forums in a while - I lost two pregnancies in a row and took a break from forums - but I am 21 weeks pregnant right now, and working on my birth plan, and I've got a question.
I met with a doula on Monday to decide whether I wanted to hire her (I do). We got started talking about the hospital where I'll be birthing, and apparently the hospital is great in a lot of ways, and has a very low cesarean rate. That's great! She did caution me, however, that some of the residents are pretty forcep-happy. I am really, really opposed to forcep delivery, unless there's bad fetal distress and there are simply no other options - in which case, obviously I want them to do whatever's necessary. The doula told me that was fine, but to bear in mind that some of them will really pressure you to have the forceps. She said a lot if her mothers feel like I do, and she says the usually put in their birth plan that they do not consent to forcep delivery and would rather have a cesarean birth if there is an emergency situation.
Now to me, this makes a certain amount of sense. I think I'd rather have them cutting into me than risking my infant head injury and my pelvic injury, but otoh, it is a major surgery, so that does make me nervous. Ultimately, which is, in your opinion, more dangerous and/or traumatic for the baby? What about for the mom? Which would you choose? Are there any studies or anything that you've seen ... when I google, it brings up a lot of UK sites (not sure why), mostly just mom forums.