I am fairly sure my daughter is gifted although I have not had an IQ test done, but I've researched the topic extensively. She will be four in August and I've had several behavioral issues with her. She is highly manipulative and an extremely good negotiator, she is also highly critical of others and herself. At preschool she has already seemed to be having issues with other girls. This particular girl at school is maybe a year older than her does not like her, calls her a baby, etc. I feel like I'm talking to a much older girl, I remember having similar issues in 3rd or 4th grade and can not believe these types of issues have already begun with her not fitting in. It breaks my heart.
In addition she has already began to say hurtful things to me and my husband. Here is the emotionally manipulative part, I really feel as though she is trying to hurt our feelings - she says things like I hate you. Other times she can be very sweet and loving. At these times I feel like I am talking to a teenager and not an almost 4 year old. It is hard for me to recognize that although she is very smart, she is not as emotionally, socially mature. The asynchronous development is very difficult for me to remember. I want to treat her like a much older girl, but again she is not even 4 yet. Any helpful advice or suggestions? I'm considering a counselor for her, for us, but found it difficult to find someone who specializes in gifted children.