My children, 11 and 13 will be home for the summer tomorrow. Our friend was missing for a week and we spent the whole week scouring the area (we live rurally) for him and finally found him Thursday. My son is very sensitive and we have had so many pet deaths and we also lost my step mom and my previous partner back to back 2 years ago. It was not known right away that my partner overdosed, we all thought it was pneumonia he had been fighting so they don't know he was a suicide. Over all his health was really failing and I have no hard feelings, I would have held him if he told me, but anyway, I'm still recovering from that. I am just so stunned that Luke took his life, he was my previous partner's life long best friend and he was struggling with alcohol but I didn't pick up on any despair. We are all just devastated. My current husband and he had been developing a really great friendship, we did holidays together - 2 couples with 2 kids each, it was really kinda neat.
I kinda know what to say but I am just need to hear from others who have done this, how did you talk to your sensitive child about a family member, because really he's chosen family, committing suicide? He will definitely hear it from someone if I don't tell him it was suicide so we need to tell him. I am saying he because it is my son I am worried about. My daughter is an exceptional kid who is wonderfully skilled at just diving into her feelings, expressing them, and handling life with such grace. That's not to say she doesn't need me just as much, I am just less worried about how to help her.
they will be getting home in the morning, so I am looking forward to your help, I only found info on dealing with teen suicide here. Please tell me about what you said, what they asked, how did it all go?