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In Labor or Warming up for Labor Thread... - Page 3post #41 of 4426/19/13 at 4:18amMy labors are the exact same. Weeks of this crap and then boom full on labor. Ds was 2h and that's because the midwife did everything she could to slow it down so another could show up and I was so freaked out("THIS ISN'T HAPPENING!") that I wasn't willing to calm down Dd was 1h of pure hell. PURE FREAKING HELL Dd #2 was induced in hospital b-c my iron was dangerously low and I was strep b positive. They refused to HB b-c of those reasons and knew if I went naturally I'd never make it to the hospital in time. I went in about 1cm got my water broke and an hour later pic and her labor from 1cm-born took 2.5h. DD #1 was hands down the worst. Everyone always says "Oh poor you 1h labors" Unless you've dealt with it you have NO idea how bad they suck. You really have NO rest what so ever. Not even time to breathepost #42 of 4426/19/13 at 6:42amQuote:My son was 38 weeks, daughter was 42. She was riding posterior the whole time though, I think that's why it took for-evah to finally go into labor, her head just wasn't quite in there right.Originally Posted by talldarkeyes
I last checked my cervix last Thursday evening and I could just BARELY reach it but it did feel like it was softening and I could also feel the baby's head. How many weeks gestation was your daughter born, Wrenmoon, compared to your son? That is exactly the type of labor I am hoping to avoid, too!Quote:Originally Posted by caiesmommy
My labors are the exact same. Weeks of this crap and then boom full on labor. Ds was 2h and that's because the midwife did everything she could to slow it down so another could show up and I was so freaked out("THIS ISN'T HAPPENING!") that I wasn't willing to calm down Dd was 1h of pure hell. PURE FREAKING HELL Dd #2 was induced in hospital b-c my iron was dangerously low and I was strep b positive. They refused to HB b-c of those reasons and knew if I went naturally I'd never make it to the hospital in time. I went in about 1cm got my water broke and an hour later pic and her labor from 1cm-born took 2.5h. DD #1 was hands down the worst. Everyone always says "Oh poor you 1h labors" Unless you've dealt with it you have NO idea how bad they suck. You really have NO rest what so ever. Not even time to breathe
I say it's like being hit by a train and dragged along. With my fast one I had a total of eight contractions. Eight. I thought I had eight *hours* ahead of me. Last time I had my step mother staying with us for the month, so I wasn't too worried about going into labor without DH there... This time around though, DH is 40 minutes away, midwife is 55 minutes away, birth assistant is 35 minutes away (and out of the country until June 29) I'm so worried about going into labor with just my kids here. We just taught them how to dial the phone and had them memorize their dads numbers...
Never a dull moment.post #43 of 4426/19/13 at 7:48am
I feel very confused and possibly naive at the moment. Is there REALLY a set number of days that a person is "supposed" to be pregnant or does it vary between people? I've read that what's considered "term" varies between 37 and 38 weeks. I think I remember from when my sister was pregnant with her kids 36 was considered OK, and not "preemie" unless there were issues that caused them to be in the NICU... but I've also read that babies can have breathing issues all the way up to 40 weeks??
Also, my sister and SIL were induced right around 40 weeks. I know my SIL had a scheduled induction date of like 4 days post EDD if she didn't go into labor before... but my MW said that they don't even talk about induction until 42 and will let women go 3 weeks or a month past as long as everyone is healthy...
I feel like there is a simple answer to this but my brain isn't working.post #44 of 4426/19/13 at 8:07amInconditus, I think at least part of the answer is that there's a large range of normal and what care providers tell you depends a lot on their philosophy. For instance I think I'll have my work cut out for me getting these MWs to let me go 41 weeks if needed because of my weight where it sounds like your providers wouldn't bat an eye. It's confusing and irritating and everyone looks at different bodies of research or perhaps has local regulations impacting some of their decisions.post #45 of 4426/19/13 at 8:35amInconditus, there is a really big range in what a provider considers a normal period for gestation. The way I think about it is this: in MOST cases if a baby decides to come on its own between 36-39 weeks it is a-okay. The issue appears when Providers are scheduling non medically necessary inductions before 39 weeks which research has shown to be too early for many babies and there are obviously some underdeveloped babies born this way. Also, calculating your EDD based on last menstrual period can also be very inaccurate. I know many women who ovulate a week, sometimes two, after the traditional day 14. Given that ultrasound is also a fairly inaccurate way to determine EDD...really, determining the window is super complicated. Like what skycheattraffic said, most of it comes down to what your provider is comfortable with, not necessarily (as in the case of scheduling inductions around 40 weeks) what is evidence based. I think for many Providers, anything from 37 up to 42 weeks is normal, full term.
ETA: Wrenmoon, how interesting about the difference in gestation between your two! I don't know what position my dd that arrived via induction at 41.4 was but this one is mostly LOA, OA or ROA and has never been posterior. Hoping this means baby will come earlier!!! My hope is some time after June 27th but before July 14th due to my dh's class schedule. That will put me at between 38.5 and 41.2 which seems doable. Now just to convince baby!post #46 of 4426/19/13 at 8:39amThread Starter
inconditus, the research I've done on it leads me to believe if you go into labor naturally at 36 weeks, there's a good chance baby will be fine. And some states still allow midwives to attend homebirths at that gestation age and I guess that was the norm in the past. And I've read that you can go to 43 weeks without issues most of the time and there isn't much of an increased risk until you go into the 43rd week. But, I know a lady at church who was just induced at I think 41 +1 or 2. Everything went fine, but it's stupid. There wasn't a medical reason that I know of. The doctor just didn't feel comfortable with her being pregnant anymore or something... I told her I went naturally to 41 +2 by doctor due date with my third(I believe I was only 41.) She seemed interested in waiting it out, but I think she just didn't know how to stand up to the doctor(s.)
So, yeah, wide range of normal.post #47 of 4426/19/13 at 11:17am
Well I am 38 weeks today and feel so so crappy today. Constant cramping, no appetite, so tired and just plain yucky. I had my OB apt yesterday (wasen't feeling so bad yesterday lol) and she asked if I wanted an internal exam and I declined. With my previous pregnancies, I've only had them at my 40 week appt with my first and my 39 week appt with my second and I am kinda wishing I had let her because I am curious if/what changes might be going on but just purely out of interest sake. I know finding out being dilated a bit right now doesn't mean baby is coming soon. I am expecting a 40weeker like my other 2 babies but you never know :)post #48 of 4426/20/13 at 6:04am
I've had BH contrations since 18 weeks, this time (this is pregnancy #6/baby #4). With my first, I never had any. Second and third, I had some at the end. This little guy is testing me. lol
I kept thinking he was coming early, but I'm 37.5 weeks now, so not really. Then again, mine don't come early on their own. My first, I was induced at 38 weeks (I believe I was 39.5 weeks, but whatever). My second came the day before her EDD, and my third was born at 42w5d. So, I'm not terribly hopeful that this little guy will be out much before my EDD.
Inonditus - 36 weeks is not term, but here in TX, midwives can do a homebirth then, especially if they feel the baby is more than 5lbs. The big push now is that they are not to do (non medically indicated) inductions before 39 weeks. I think babies set their own little schedule. I've seen healthy babies born at 36 weeks, and babies born with breathing issues when they were induced at 38 weeks. I think each little one has their own timetable.
Mine for example. My second was born the day before her EDD. The placenta already had some calcifications. My son, at 42w5d (we had Biophysical Profiles done) had the most giant, healthy placenta I (or the midwives, at the time) had seen. So, you just never know.post #49 of 4426/20/13 at 6:37am
Yesterday at around 5:30 I started to feel weird for lack of a better term. I got really hot and claustrophobic and I went outside to cry. I got a migraine and was feeling really nauseous. My back hurt on and off and my stomache didn't feel like BH but it didn't feel like what I thought contractions were like either. They started to get more frequent intense but still not what I was expecting. My mom eventually found me and told me to call my MW. LO moved down REALLY low.
I called the main number who connected me to the OB on staff. He said if they started to get painful then to call again and ask to page the MW at home. I stayed at my mom's house until about 8:30 when DH came to pick me up (no car.) She pulled him aside and said that she thought I was in labor considering everything I was describing is EXACTLY how she felt before she had all 5 of us. She also told me that she never thought contractions were painful, per say. She thought they were miserable but also felt kind of good. She would be crying from them (which I also eventually started doing) but for some reason her mind never let it register as "pain" because she viewed pain as being something bad. This made total sense to me at the time lol.She also kept on saying no water no baby. So just hang around and if my water breaks she has shoe laces lol.
When DH picked me up and we got home I immediately ran an epsom salt bath, laid in it till about 11 until I just was too tired and I didn't want to fall asleep in the tub. Contactions woke me up a few times throughout the night... but this morning I feel fine. DH, surprisingly, told me to stay in bed until my appointment on friday.... so I haven't done much today sans go downstairs for some food/drink and potty. lol. My mom's coming over in a little bit to check on me and keeps saying there is NO WAY I am making it to my due date or probably until July. Slightly alarming and I'm not sure if I should take her with a grain of salt but she did have 5 kids herself, studied a lot of MWery books when I got KU and has been delivering dog, cat, horse, goat babies on her farm for years. So idk if that's just something you can tell after a while =/post #50 of 4426/20/13 at 6:53amThread Starter
I don't know about the 36 weeks in TX thing? My midwife said she'd be OK with 36+5 or later for me, but said she is officially supposed to wait until 36+6. I had a bit of a floating due date to work with though. I don't have to worry about it anymore thankfully. But, I agree, each baby cooks at a different rate. :)post #51 of 4426/20/13 at 6:57amThread Starterpost #52 of 4426/20/13 at 7:18ampost #53 of 4426/20/13 at 10:25amThread Starter
I just looked it up for fun and my daughter was born on the day of the full moon. I had no idea. How cool. Maybe it'll happen again? That would be great!
Though, I also looked up my DS2 and he wasn't born until 2 weeks after the full moon, but I had a lot of warm up symptoms with him during that time. And DS1 was born smack dab in the middle of the lunar cycle, but I read the lunar cycle can have less of an effect on first time moms?post #54 of 4426/20/13 at 10:32ampost #55 of 4426/20/13 at 11:16ampost #56 of 4426/20/13 at 11:33ampost #57 of 4426/20/13 at 11:58ampost #58 of 4426/20/13 at 3:37pmI'm in bed right now wondering if this is it! I've been having regular contractions for about two hours. I could just be dehydrated so I'm drinking water. 37 wks tomorrow and planing a home birth just ordered the dang kit today! Crap! This baby needs to stay in for one more week! I really don't want to have another hospital birth. Midwife has been paid already!post #59 of 4426/20/13 at 4:17pmpost #60 of 4426/20/13 at 4:20pmWow monkey pants hope u get a little more time but the kit company should be understanding if baby comes.
I am 35w tomorrow. Mw checked me at 32w and said his head is very low& into vagina. This week I can't sit in chairs w/ o completely spreading my legs!!! And I wear dresses all tge time. Tough. Is everyone at this stage? I'd really like to check myself but should I use gloves in case I'm dilating??? Or just clean hands! My mood changed this week for sure and I'm having those intense shocking pains that stop me in my tracks but mainly when he moves. I'm inducing on July 10 so I feel like that's cheating but after what I've been thru, I deserve it.
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