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Introduce yourself!

post #1 of 90
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The Roll Call thread is sort of brief, so let's write a little bit more about ourselves here as we settle in. 

 

I'm a 30-year-old midwesterner, part-time pharmacist, married to my awesome husband since 2007. He is a writing teacher. We met online and I am a big fan of all things online (including my awesome DDC from the first time around, which is still quite active on Facebook), but prefer not to use my first name on the Internet if I can help it. Our daughter was born in June 2011 and is talking up a storm. I rate myself as medium-crunchy, though my perspective on medicine tends to land me somewhere between crunchy and "normal" (it's a wide "somewhere", I bet a lot of us are here). I had a non-medicated hospital birth attended by a CNM, and hope for another one. We breastfed up until just recently (I weaned because I don't want to tandem-nurse, but she didn't seem too fussed about it so I think she was more or less ready) and use cloth diapers, and I try to keep our diet relatively free of processed foods, but I'm not too much of a purist about it.

 

My big parenting sticking point is that I feel my own mother was super-critical and I don't want my children to grow up feeling like their parents don't love them and they can never do anything right. My daughter is still young, so I am still exploring various strategies and she is probably too young for many of them, but I try to communicate with her as far as possible and show respect for her perspective and wishes, and also to tell her about a million times a day that I love her and am glad I have her. I have no clue from example how to do this, but so far I think it's going okay. 

 

Can't wait to meet all of you!

post #2 of 90

Hi!  I'm a 34 year old mom of a 4.5 son and we just found out we're expecting number 2!  I am a social worker and work in the world of early childhood right now but we're moving to another state in 3 weeks and there'll I'll be getting certified as a lactation consultant and doula, which is what I really want to do!  I've been working with families for the better part of my life and am committed to helping this country become more family-friendly while helping one mom and dad at a time to feel fulfilled in their role as parents.  Because my children will be so far apart, I am concerned about how that plays out in these childhood years and am thinking a lot about whether they'll play together?  Like each other?  Being pregnant so long after my first, it feels like the first time again.  I am just as excited and everything is new again!  I decided to join a digital community this time around to see what it was like and to interact with other women who are going through the same thing I am.  Looking forward to getting to know you women!

post #3 of 90

I'm a 27 year old stay at home mom of one little 2 year old boy. Super excited for #2, we've been trying for 15 months and found out I had low progesterone. First month on progesterone cream we got pregnant!

We're pretty crunchy. Have a small homestead in the suburbs and eat all whole, organic, and mostly local foods. We've been eating paleo/wapf for over a year as well and love it. But no worries, not judgey- to each their own! smile.gif

We did a home birth with #1 and had the BEST experience. Planning another home birth with the same midwife for this one. Excited to have some women to do pregnancy with!

post #4 of 90

Hey ladies!

 

I'm 24, and this is our first little one! My husband, Sam, and I have been married for 2.5 years.

 

I have a background in social work (hey, Mama TT!) but am currently working at a small web development company. Sam and I also swing dance together (which is how we met) and are part of a performance group in town. I also am a member of a cabaret/burlesque group in town, though I'm not sure what my participation in that will look like when it starts back in August. There is another member who is pregnant so maybe we'll do a pregnant-lady duet number for our show in October! =P

 

We're pretty crunchy for where we live (Georgia), but are actually probably in the lightly crunchy zone. We eat organic when we can, but that's only about half the time. We are planning a homebirth (so excited!), and I'm currently figuring out how to explain that to some judgey folks we will inevitably come across. My parents have known for a while that homebirth was our plan, and are beginning to come around. His mom doesn't know about our homebirth plans yet, and I have no idea how she'll react. She's pretty conservative, but also grew up on a farm in Arkansas, so maybe people there did things a little more naturally? Who knows. Time will tell.

 

We don't have any close friends with kids, so we're the first. I am strongly relying on an online community of mamas to help me through!

post #5 of 90
Hi Everyone,

I'm 34 years old and am also a social worker. I'm currently working on finishing up my master's. I did my bachelor's, in part, while pregnant with my first. My daughter was born in Sept 2011. She's been attending a Montessori school a few days a week while I've been doing my field placement. She's extremely chatty and loves to sing songs. I've been with my partner for close to 8 years. We live in Canada where we share a house with his father (who had a stroke a number of years back). We also have two cats.

We are currently cloth diapering, but have been working on potty learning. We still breastfeed, cosleep, and babywear. We try to eat well, but we're far from perfect. We had our daughter at home in a birth tub supported by midwives and a doula and hope to do the same again. Many of my partner's friends have kids, but we have few friends as crunchy as us. I'm excited to be pregnant again because I'm looking forward to adding to our family and because I really liked being pregnant last time. It'll be interesting to see what pregnancy with a toddler in tow will be like.

Auchencook - my parents were initially sceptical about our home birth plans, but after attending our daughter's birth, they are very big supporters of home birth and midwives.
post #6 of 90
Hi everyone!

I live in California and consider my family and I to be fairly crunchy. We eat organically, locally as much as possible, no vaccines, attachment parenting, and gentle discipline, just to name a few.

I am a 37 year old stay at home mama to a 7 yr old ds and a 4 yr old dd. This will be our third baby! I have homeschooled them from the beginning and it's been such a fitting lifestyle choice for our family. I feel like I have set a very strong foundation for my son, and my daughter is right on his heels. Not sure how I will manage homeschooling once this baby arrives. I have our options on the table, time will tell!

I've been married for 9 years to a great, supportive, and patient man.

If all goes well I plan to birth at home. I am so grateful to experience pregnancy, birth, new born, all of it again! Oh, and I'm a little scared, too!!

I'm so glad to be here!
post #7 of 90

Hello!

 

I'm a 31 year old part-time work at home mama.  I am an intellectual property technical consultant, which basically means I write patent applications.  My husband and I met in grad school and have been married since 2008.  We welcomed our little man in January of 2012.  I had an unmedicated hospital birth and am hoping for the same with baby #2.  I'm proud to say I'm still nursing my son, as the first year was a tough one... I eliminated a ridiculous amount from my diet because of possible food allergies/intolerances, and now we've got everything back in except tree nuts, which I'll be trying to add back in soon.  Not sure how I'm going to feel about nursing in a few weeks, but I'm hoping I can continue breastfeeding for at least a few months of this pregnancy.  I have a love-hate relationship with cloth diapers (right now I love them).

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Edited by Philothea - 7/28/13 at 10:02pm
post #9 of 90

Hi all, 
I am 25 years old and this is my first preg. 

I am so glad to be pregnant after TTC for over a year. I am a lawyer and doing my masters degree in Intellectual Property Law and I love the field (jaxz: glad to know you are in the same field as well). Other than the masters, I am not working. Just do some online writing at my leisure basically.

 

I enjoy time out with family and friends, watching movies with my husband, reading interesting novels and writing.

 

I hope to have a great time bonding with this DDC.

post #10 of 90

xyz0145 we're twins!  Well, sort of.  I'm a lawyer getting my LLM in IPIL (intellectual property & information law).  Where are you?  I'm in Dallas, but did my coursework at the University of Houston.  I have one paper left, that I procrastinated on due to a crazy heavy briefing schedule.  I should finish before the baby, or it'll never happen!  I handle our appeals (small family firm, we do lots of litigation, and our own appeals...) and several lawsuits.  I'm actually going to a CLE in Austin today for appellate stuff.

 

My hubby is getting his PhD in psychology.  I have three others (kids not husbands), and I've been working from home/part-time for the last two years.  Going back to work full time has been challenging.  I'm trying to get to work really early (leave between 5 and 6 am) so I can be home at a reasonable hour (4-5ish).  So far I'm wearing myself out.  I'm not sure it's sustainable, and my husband is getting the short end of the stick.

 

I'm still nursing my two year old (she'll be three in November), but I don't cloth diaper.  We try and eat pretty healthy (no processed food at home except yogurt...is that processed?) and I don't buy/cook gluten stuff in the house (for husband and DD1) but I will eat it out...

 

Also 31.  And refusing to give up my coffee.  That is all. 

 

Keep introducing ladies!  Love reading about everybody.

post #11 of 90
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Originally Posted by alexisfaye View Post

xyz0145 we're twins!  Well, sort of.  I'm a lawyer getting my LLM in IPIL (intellectual property & information law).  Where are you?  I'm in Dallas, but did my coursework at the University of Houston.  I have one paper left, that I procrastinated on due to a crazy heavy briefing schedule.  I should finish before the baby, or it'll never happen!  I handle our appeals (small family firm, we do lots of litigation, and our own appeals...) and several lawsuits.  I'm actually going to a CLE in Austin today for appellate stuff.

 

My hubby is getting his PhD in psychology.  I have three others (kids not husbands), and I've been working from home/part-time for the last two years.  Going back to work full time has been challenging.  I'm trying to get to work really early (leave between 5 and 6 am) so I can be home at a reasonable hour (4-5ish).  So far I'm wearing myself out.  I'm not sure it's sustainable, and my husband is getting the short end of the stick.

 

I'm still nursing my two year old (she'll be three in November), but I don't cloth diaper.  We try and eat pretty healthy (no processed food at home except yogurt...is that processed?) and I don't buy/cook gluten stuff in the house (for husband and DD1) but I will eat it out...

 

Also 31.  And refusing to give up my coffee.  That is all. 

 

Keep introducing ladies!  Love reading about everybody.

Always glad to know more people in my field. My masters is in Intellectual Property Law and Knowledge Management. I am not in the US bt in Europe. I don't have specific work experience in the field yet. I picked interest in the course during my undergrad law degree and decided to focus on it and here I am! thumb.gif Hoping to get a job after this or ahead for my phd if I get funds. Still not sure of what lies ahead after this. Quite open minded.

 

You refuse to give up coffee?mischievous.gif Thought that is one thing to stop taking or at least drastically reduce its intake when pregnant. Well, you have a child already so I guess you know what suits you better.smile.gif

 

Nice to meet u!

post #12 of 90

Hi Everyone,

I'm Rachel. I live in the Washington DC metro area. I found out yesterday that I am expecting and am so glad to talk about it here.  I am going to wait until fathers day to tell DH.

 

This is my third pregnancy. My first pregnancy ended at 20 weeks in 2008.  It was heartbreaking, we tried for three years to get pregnant and to have it end in loss tore me up.  We tried for almost three more years and were blessed with our beautiful daughter G. She is 17 months old and so much fun. We have taught her sign language and I love her ability to communicate her needs!

 

I am still breastfeeding a couple of times a day but will probably wean her soon.  

 

I'm not very crunchy. I grew up in a homebirth family (my mom had 8 at home) and rallied for midwifery rights in Minnesota as a child so I feel more at home here than on other message boards. I am a doula and have attended over 100 births both as a home birth assistant and traditional doula. 

 

I recently stopped working full time (in management) which was one of the more difficult decisions I have made in life. I'm still trying to decide if this is the right path for me but I really feel like there is no perfect answer.

 

What else... I didn't post very much in my previous DDC but had a huge group of friends where I was living at the time.  hopefully you will be that huge group for me now.  Looking forward to getting to know you all! 
 

post #13 of 90

Hi Everyone!  I'm 21, living in south-central Canada, and currently work in a local daycare centre. I'm mostly in the office, but occasionally I get to work on the floor with the kids as a sub. 

 

This is my fifth pregnancy - I had my son (drug-free, midwife-attended hospital birth) when I was 17, and placed him for open adoption. I have had 3 miscarriages since then. We put TTC on hold while we waited to be seen by the fertility clinic (only ONE in the entire province), and we had just decided to get back into the swing of TTC when *bam* - we're pregnant! It wasn't even a true TTC cycle, it was more of our 'buffer' cycle, and I thought it was a bust. Crazy!   This pregnancy has held on longer than my previous 3 m/cs, so while I'm still super nervous, I have a good feeling about it :)

 

Our wedding is coming up in July - the saturday after I hit 12 weeks! I'm a little bit worried about fitting into my wedding dress, but it shouldn't be too bad. I hope.

 

We are a moderately crunchy couple - soon-to-be DH is lactose intolerant, so we use mainly raw milk products. We do organic/local/homegrown as much as we can, and try not to sweat the rest. I will nurse this baby until they self-wean, and we plan to co-sleep (if not bedshare), cloth diaper/EC, babywear, etc. We don't do much mainstream medicine, but it looks like I may be stuck with an OB-attended hospital birth this time around. We only have one full-time and one part-time midwife in our area, who cover at least 2 cities, 3 towns, and all the surrounding farms/villages. While I'm first on the "list" b/c of my due date and the fact that I'm a 'repeat customer', I still will not get my homebirth unless we magically get another midwife in the next few months. Which isn't much of a possibility. We are declining any and all doppler/ultrasound use unless medically indicated, which will be a horror story if I get stuck with an OB.

I am honestly terrified of the idea of another hospital birth, whether it's OB or midwife attended. I just *hate* the hospital!  I had an incredibly long second stage of labour with my son (I pushed for 5 hours), and I think that was partly because I was so freaked out by the hospital.

 

I'm glad to have a community of like-minded women here. All the pregnant women and parents we know in real life are very mainstream, and do MOST things the exact opposite of how we plan to do them. 

post #14 of 90
Welcome everyone! Great ladies in this DDC!

Alexisfaye- is that your name by the way? It's so beautiful! I was writing to you to tell you the same thing goes with my coffee. I was dreading-like my whole life- if/when I ever got pregnant that I'd have to give it up. But when I was in my first trimester, I could NOT STAND the smell of coffee. It made me sick. Haha. So I had no problem not drinking it. Other than that, I feel fine drinking it whenever I want to. The most convincing sources say one cup a day is fine, anyway. I'm drinking mine right now. Cheers!
post #15 of 90
Jellopanda- I love raw milk!!!! My husband always suggests it to people who are lactose intolerant. Its crazy how the word hasn't gotten out more. Well at least around here. We just love how good it is for you and oh my gosh does it taste heavenly! Yum
post #16 of 90

Philothea - We LOVE raw milk too! But it's actually illegal here, so it's quite the black-market trade to get hold of it, haha.

post #17 of 90

I used to post on here all the time when I was a new and expecting mom with my now 9 yr old dd and 7 yr old son!

 

.... now I'm back!

I feel strange being pregnant again. I am 41 and although I love children ( I have 4) and feel I was born to be a mother I didn't think I really would have another... and I didn't think I really could. When I fell madly in love only 6 short months ago I entertained the possibility of having a baby with this wonderful man who told me when we first met that he wanted to have a baby. (in my head I was like... ya... with me... i'll have your baby). :)

 

and then we just decided to go for it... given my age we thought it might take awhile. UMMMMM.... ya... it took 1 cycle!

 

So... here I am. Happy but also cautious. I had implantation bleeding which I have never had in any of my other pregnancies and then just on the weekend I had cramps and some light spotting... so I feel maybe this baby won't stay. I'm just not sure.

Regardless, I am here... for me and for you. <3

 

Also, very nice to have you ladies as I'm keeping this on the hush until I am at least 12 weeks. (which will be hard because of my big mouth!) :)

post #18 of 90

I'm Christi, 34yo SAHomeschoolingMom to R1(ds) 10, R2(dd) 6, and R3(dd) 5.  We live in the Birmingham area but are moving to Pensacola, FL in about a month.  I'm excited to be able to homebirth legally again (my first two were born in FL).  My kids are excited about this baby, ds is praying it's another boy.  I'm due around 2/10

post #19 of 90
Hi there, fellow Febs!
I'm a 36 year old SAHM with an awesome 19 month old son. My hubs is the love of my life, and we've been together for 10 years, married for 3 years. We live in a Maryland suburb of DC (hi, Rachelroo!). I have a background in the arts (I was an actress from the age of 5 up until I got married and had a kid) as well as education (I taught theatre as an adjunct professor and worked with school librarians for a book review service). I made the decision to take a break from the world of theatre to raise my son full time, and it is the most fulfilling decision I've ever made. Seeing the world through his eyes is like having front row seats to the creation of a masterpiece.

My previous pregnancy was fairly typical, but I made a bad choice in OBs. He pressured me into having an induction 2 days after my due date claiming he "didn't like moms to go to 41 weeks", and the induction experience was the classic cascade of interventions that lead to a C-section. I was unable to breastfeed successfully due to latching issues and low milk supply (which I suspect were related to the medicated birth), and suffered from PPD. I'm going into this pregnancy and birth experience with my eyes open: I'll be using a midwife, and will be trying for a VBAC. I'm also planning on attending La Leche League meetings throughout my pregnancy to help prepare for BF-ing and want to do placenta encapsulation to help prevent PPD.

I'm fairly mid-range on the Crunch Scale. We eat healthily, try to fit organics into our budget when we can, cloth diaper, and I baby-wore until DS got too wiggly and mobile to want to be worn. I began as a fan of attachment parenting, and still am, but found that some of the aspects (co-sleeping especially) exhausted me and exacerbated my PPD. I've since discovered the RIE approach to parenting, which encourages parents to interact with their babies respectfully and to allow them to play and discover things on their own without too much direction. It's been wonderful to quietly observe as my son plays and figures things out for himself.

Well, that's where I'm at right now! I look forward to sharing this amazing journey with all of you!
post #20 of 90

Hi, I'm gamitzer, and I'm a 35 y.o. lesbian mom in NJ (near Philly).  My ex-DP gave birth to our son, and after we broke up I wasn't sure if there would be any more kids in my future.  I went into dating with low expectations, thinking I would never find someone who would want to be with a single mom and consider having even more kids.  I totally lucked out and here I am, happily partnered and pregnant!  I haven't been on MDC for a while because life was hectic, but I'm glad to be back.  I enjoyed being part of my son's DDC, so I'm looking forward to chatting with you all too.  I have PCOS and used IUI to get pregnant, so my TTC process has been a bit overwhelming.  I had my first beta on 15dpo, and have since had 3 more.  I also had an ultrasound at 5w2d and saw...a black circle.  Haha.  I'm really looking forward to "graduating" from my RE's office next month!  The biggest change for me is switching roles from non-bio mom to bio mom.  I had never really expected to get pregnant, so it's been interesting to watch my body change ever so slightly, and anticipate actually giving birth myself.  One nice thing is that I can relate to my partner more because I have been in her role, and know what it's like to be patiently awaiting news about someone else's body.  Last week she started a diary with a week-by-week ticker on her phone-adorable!

I'm excited to be pregnant, but we have only told two people so far.  I would prefer to wait until the second trimester to tell people, maybe longer.  My son is going to be so excited, but is also really impatient, so it's easier to keep him in the dark for now.  We are not really crunchy, but MDC has always been really welcoming to queer moms so I feel like I fit in best here.  I hope you all are feeling well!

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