Originally Posted by Munchkin08
Question: Our LO sleeps through the night (6-7 hours) from 9-10pm to 430-6am, nurses and then goes back to sleep. She does not cry when she wakes up - she is in the co-sleeper next to me and I know that she is awake and so I bring her in bed to nurse. Does this mean she is not learning to self-soothe? Is she too young to learn that skill?
I'm trying to work on self-soothing, 11 weeks here. I don't know that there's a right age to start, it's just a matter of starting out slow. If she's awake but not crying, try leaving her for a minute, then slowly increase the time and see if she'll eventually fall back asleep without getting upset. Little ones this young still need to feed overnight, so stick with her 430 feeding still, but for other times try to see if she'll go back to sleep. sometimes I notice my lo is up at night, but just quietly hanging out in her crib. If it's not her usual nighttime feeding time and she's not fussy or restless, then I leave her be. she falls back to sleep as I do too. I try not to rely on nursing every time she stirs. With ds 2, he became heavily dependent on nursing to sleep through his toddler years and it became a big burden, and now that he's weaned he really struggles to fall asleep. it's so much easier to lay them down drowsy and have them fall asleep by their own self soothing (not crying of course). I even had to transition him from crib to a toddler bed at one year because the act of laying him down into the crib would wake him and I'd have to nurse all over again.