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newborn behavior

post #1 of 22
Thread Starter 

anyone want to weigh in..... i feel like Cline spends a lot of time crying and nursing and well napping, but not much else. Pretty sure we are within the normal range but it is nice to hear what others days are like.  He so far hates all wraps i have put him in. He is too big to put in a newborn hold but not ready for something else (cant hold his head up). And now is crying full bore again.  Straight from happy or asleep to screaming. ugg.

hope everyone is well.

post #2 of 22
Yeah sounds normal! My newborn is pretty great, but my two year old is struggling. She is a real mamas girl, and this transition has been super tough on her. The baby wants to nurse non stop which is not unusual. I wish I could explain to my daughter that she did the same thing as an infant! Tried to make dinner tonight. Ended up with a smoking kitchen and two screaming children. Someone tell me that someday ill be able to make dinner again? Please? Right now it seems like things will never be normal again!
post #3 of 22
I'm struggling a bit too. My DH has been on holidays and he's been helping a lot when he's home, but he's been gone some evenings and when I am alone with the 2 kids I get pretty overwhelmed. My newborn seems to just cry for no reason. She roots and wants to nurse, so I nurse her, but she cries at the breast and doesn't want to nurse longer than 2 min. Then I get her to burp, thinking its gas. Then I'll change her diaper if it needs to be done then bounce her on the exercise ball and she'll still root so I nurse her but she cries and then the cycle starts over.. Tonight it went on for 2.5 hours while my poor son was having to occupy himself. I couldn't put my DD down or even have her be calm enough to do something with him. I feel like I'm just doing something wrong. Im not looking forward to my DH going back to work. It's even more frustrating when this happens in the middle of the night. I hope I get use to this soon. I'm horrible at multitasking kids by myself.. :/ sry for the vent.. It's still fresh in my mind so feeling a bit overwhelmed right now!
post #4 of 22
Malcolm is great...when I'm holding him. He hardly lets anyone else hold him at all. This really bothers my husband. greensad.gif He loves babies and wants to be able to cuddle with Malcolm, but feels like the baby doesn't "like" him. He understands that Malcolm is very little, heard my voice all the time in utero, feels most comfortable with me where he can smell the milk, etc, but it's still frustrating. For both of us actually, because I'd like a break once in a while, too, where I can eat with two hands! My mother in law was particularly irritating about it when she came to stay with us for a few days. She would try to turn away from me or scuttle off when I would move to take the (crying) baby back from her. :/ She either doesn't have a clue about reading baby hunger cues (rooting) or purposefully ignored them. Even when I'd say "The baby wants to nurse" she'd pretend not to hear me. Obviously, I did not let any of that nonsense fly. She also made comments about how much the baby nursed. "I don't remember Maddox nursing that much." Funny, I do and since I was the one doing the nursing, I'm probably in a better position to recall it accurately. When I reminded her that she saw Maddox when he was between 2-4 weeks and Malcolm was almost 7 weeks she said "Well, Malcolm came 4 weeks early, so they're basically the same age." It doesn't work that way... She also asked if the baby was actually getting milk when he nursed. Nope, and he's just making poop appear out of thin air... *Sigh* vent over. wink1.gif Malcolm also hates having his diaper changed. Not sure why it is so upsetting. He had a bad rash (yeast) weeks ago, so I thought that was it, but the crying continues, even though it's been cleared up for quite a while now. He does go straight from content to screaming without much in between. He is instantly infuriated if he's put down 9 times out of 10. I'm hoping that gets better as he gets a little older. We'll see.
Edited by PhilsBabyMama - 6/10/13 at 9:29pm
post #5 of 22
I just found this link and it makes me feel better about the fussiness my little girl is experiencing. Who knew that babies have a "normal" fussiness period! And she's right on with a growth spurt. That explains a lot!

http://kellymom.com/parenting/parenting-faq/fussybaby/

Hope that link works!
post #6 of 22
Great link! I'm going to keep it handy on my phone for when baby fusses.
post #7 of 22

Megan will fuss at the breast in the evenings too. We find gripe water helps when she won't burp after feeding. DS2 did the same thing and he outgrew it by 12 weeks, so we're hoping the same for Megan. She also loves to sleep on me, but then as soon as I put her down she'll wake up. The wrap sling has been saving my back and arms, but as she still doesn't have much control of her head I do have to still put her down to change DS2's diapers etc. And cooking isn't happening much. I'm just glad we enjoy eating cold foods so much in this house.

post #8 of 22
Our first few weeks baby girl was pretty much either eating or sleeping. We nursed all. the. time. bfinfant.gif

Now that we're a month in, shes having more awake time when she's not hungry (won't latch). And honestly I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing with her. I sing her a song or read her a book, but I don't know what else I should be doing to engage with her...
post #9 of 22
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Originally Posted by TwilightJoy View Post

Now that we're a month in, shes having more awake time when she's not hungry (won't latch). And honestly I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing with her. I sing her a song or read her a book, but I don't know what else I should be doing to engage with her...

I think you are doing just perfect. You don't even have to engage them all the time. She might just like laying and kicking and looking at your face or around the room. I remember thinking this with my first babe. Now, by the third one, there is so much activity in the house, I don't really have time to think about it!

post #10 of 22
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Originally Posted by berrymama View Post

I think you are doing just perfect. You don't even have to engage them all the time. She might just like laying and kicking and looking at your face or around the room. I remember thinking this with my first babe. Now, by the third one, there is so much activity in the house, I don't really have time to think about it!

 

I agree, Berrymama.  Elodie enjoys laying on our bed and looking at the windows, or just laying on my lap and kicking her legs.  Yesterday we sat outside in the shade and she was staring at the tree, probably watching the branches blow in the wind.  We do tummy time or she sits in the bouncy and watches me in the kitchen (that is usually short-lived, but I try).  I'm probably going to get an activity mat soon since she seems to enjoy some freedom to just lay there and kick. 

post #11 of 22
Anyone have a Little one who does a lot of grunting/straining? DS has been doing it for a couple weeks and he tends to do it more at night. It seems like he's trying to poop (he poops plenty so I don't think that is really the issue). At night he does it and sleeps through it at first but then eventually wakes from it and cries, continues to strain until he burps or poops or gives in to tiredness. Just curious how common this is as I didn't experience it with my other two. I am free of gluten, dairy, soy, peanut and egg (and working on tree nuts) due to my other son's allergies. Anyone else BTDT?
post #12 of 22
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Originally Posted by dandilion44 View Post

Anyone have a Little one who does a lot of grunting/straining? DS has been doing it for a couple weeks and he tends to do it more at night. It seems like he's trying to poop (he poops plenty so I don't think that is really the issue). At night he does it and sleeps through it at first but then eventually wakes from it and cries, continues to strain until he burps or poops or gives in to tiredness. Just curious how common this is as I didn't experience it with my other two. I am free of gluten, dairy, soy, peanut and egg (and working on tree nuts) due to my other son's allergies. Anyone else BTDT?

All normal newborn behavior per my midwife, and due to an immature digestive system. NAK

post #13 of 22
Thread Starter 

Aww your newborns sound so adorable.

i just needed to hear that others are doing what i am.  It is so frustrating sometimes since there are three others that need/want me.
 

post #14 of 22

Meadow is only almost 3 days old, but she seems to just eat, sleep, and gaze. I think I've been blessed with one of those 'easy babies'. We shall see   ;)

post #15 of 22
Dandilion-my little girl does the grunting and straining too! I remember my son doing it when he was a newborn. I think it continues for a little while. Like Berrymama said, it's because they're digestive systems are still learning how to work!

Jldumm-wow, I have only one other child that needs/wants me and I'm finding it hard when I'm by myself. Hope it gets easier for you. I feel so bad because every night like clockwork, my little girl is fussy for a couple hours and If my DH is gone, my only choice is to put on a movie for him or something. (I know, most horrible Mom of the year award goes to me..) I just can't seem to give any good attention to my son when Lily is crying nonstop. Makes me feel so bad. Especially when he's asking to play with me. I haven't been able to play with him as much since she was born. Hope it gets easier!

OtherMother- I'm glad that your baby's been an easy one! That makes it easier to recover! Hope she stays that way. By the way I love her name!! Beautiful!
post #16 of 22
Ok good to know that it is probably normal newborn stuff. I was paranoid due to family history of food allergies. Good to hear I likely won't need to take anything else out of my diet! smile.gif
post #17 of 22

Megan grunts a lot too. Totally normal for a newborn. She also has reflux issues, so we know its just that her digestive system is still maturing. We had this with DS2 and he outgrew it by 12 weeks. Megan is 5 week today, so only another 7 weeks or so of this to go if she's like her brother.

post #18 of 22

I'm glad to hear that the grunting's normal. Mine does that, too. Do your babies have an "evening fussy time"? What time is it, and how long does it last? Gideon tends to be fussy from 9-10 pm to 1-2 am. Is it normal to be that long and that late?

post #19 of 22
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Originally Posted by GabiCristian View Post

I'm glad to hear that the grunting's normal. Mine does that, too. Do your babies have an "evening fussy time"? What time is it, and how long does it last? Gideon tends to be fussy from 9-10 pm to 1-2 am. Is it normal to be that long and that late?


My little girl is fussy at about 5-6pm til about 8-9pm. Sometimes til 10pm. Then she has a longer sleep, like 4 hours long. What I read in that article is that there usual fussy time is right before their longest stretch of sleep. It seems to be right for us.
post #20 of 22
Yep! That evening fussy Time is killer. I feel like Todd is just done from the Overstimulation of the day and daylight. Plus sister comes home, we eat supper - just a lot more activity than there has been all day. He fusses from about five till eight or so, when he crashes. During a lot of that time it seems like he's trying to go to sleep but just keeps getting jarred awake. Poor guy!
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