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post #201 of 265
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Yikes, I hope everyone feels better soon, tenk!!

 

saw this recently, so thought i would share it.  makes me smile :)

 

http://naturalparentsnetwork.com/a-dads-opinion-on-breastfeeding/

post #202 of 265

baby smurf - that was great, thank you for sharing

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B is well enough to return to school as of yesterday!! He had a fever for 11 days as high as 104.7 but was as low as 102 but typically somewhere in between. He was SO SICK!! DH was ill minus the fever and so was my mom. All 3 are coughing still but seem to feel significantly better. No one else has come down with it (((KNOCK ON WOOD)))
post #204 of 265
Glad you hear you guys are on the mend....being sick sucks!

Emily had her fist shots yesterday (DTaP and Rotovirus). We held off on shots but since we have air travel planned to visit family in a few weeks, we didn't want to risk her getting sick.

She's been super fussy all day and will only eat about 2 oz at a time. She also has a red streak on her leg where the DTaP shot was given. It's very sore to the touch and warm. She is running a low-grade fever and has an upset tummy. Peds office said warm compress and Tylenol.

Anyone else experience these issues with vaccinations?
post #205 of 265
My babe had a REALLY hard time with his shots- temp, fussy, not eating, just not himself for 3 days. DH was so upset that he wants us to sign a waiver and refuse the rest of his shots. I'm nervous about this since he's in a daycare where he could be exposed... Not sure what to do.
post #206 of 265
We delay VAX and B had his first/only MMR and DTaP w/Polio 3 weeks ago (he's 5 years old) he developed the fever 2 days later that lasted for 12 days and turned into the flu and coughing fits that cause puking. I signed the waiver for him already but wanted to catch him up. No more!! Not sure when we'll start Camden's shots. Not anytime soon!!
post #207 of 265
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Emily had her fist shots yesterday (DTaP and Rotovirus). We held off on shots but since we have air travel planned to visit family in a few weeks, we didn't want to risk her getting sick.

She's been super fussy all day and will only eat about 2 oz at a time. She also has a red streak on her leg where the DTaP shot was given. It's very sore to the touch and warm. She is running a low-grade fever and has an upset tummy. Peds office said warm compress and Tylenol.

Anyone else experience these issues with vaccinations?

 

We had the same thing with baby's last DTaP shot. I made little sock rice bags and heated them in the microwave. Right after he got home from the vaccine I put them on his legs where he was given the shots for about 20 minutes. The redness was almost gone after that. He also went that day and the next without hardly eating anything and really had me worried. I didnt connect it with the shots though, but since you mentioned it perhaps that is what it was. I finally ended up giving him a bottle of anise tea to help his tummy (his very first time to drink from a bottle). Then later I gave him some milk that I had pumped, which seemed to whet his appetite and induce him to breastfeed. I was so worried the second day he was not eating well, so I called the LLL breastfeeding hotline for advice - they gave me some tips, and one of them - feeding him while I was walking worked. Thankfully by the third day he was almost back to normal. I thought the eating strike was due to stomach ache, but it's good to know for next time that it was probably a result of the vaccinations.

post #208 of 265
I saw a pelvic floor specialist last week for my prolapse and it was AMAZING. After only 1 visit my prolapse (bladder) is almost completely gone! I had been putting off going because I had to pay out of pocket but that was $120 I would definitely pay again.

How are the other prolapse ladies doing? Kitteh? Crystal Marie? Are you noticing changes with what you're doing?

Mine was pretty mild and I still can't excercise yet, going back in two more times to follow up still but I'm super excited about my bladder NOT hanging out of my vagina any more!
post #209 of 265

I'm getting acupuncture for my prolapse and it has made a big difference. I want to see a pelvic floor specialist as well, but haven't found one in the area yet.

 

What a wild ride! This time last year I had just confirmed that I was pregnant. Now here we are a year later with a big 19 week baby to love, and a healing body.

I struggled with PPD this time around. But this last week I felt like I could breath again. I had some "I got this" moments. Like I'm doing a good job and not just staying alive.

 

I really would love more children, but am more convinced everyday that I really can't do this again.

post #210 of 265
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I was just talking to DH about this being right at tbe time we found out about being pregnant.....crazy, right?
post #211 of 265
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Oh, and I just noticed the June 2014 ddc is up
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Baby Smurf, I was just thinking about that, it was about this time last year that I found out that I was pregnant (a year ago this Saturday to be exact).  Makes me kind of wish I was pregnant again...  lol.

Also, I came across this article and found it rather interesting (as a parent who uses a hybrid of AP- mostly because my son is in daycare and I can't be with him 24/7)

 

http://holisticsquid.com/why-we-ditched-attachment-parenting/

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My friend's sister writes that blog!

We went out for dinner last week to celebrate finding out. Can you believe it's been a year? I'd love to hear the stories of how you all found out. I started a thread called June 2014 DDC is up! and we're telling our bfp stories over there smile.gif
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Baby Smurf, I was just thinking about that, it was about this time last year that I found out that I was pregnant (a year ago this Saturday to be exact).  Makes me kind of wish I was pregnant again...  lol.
 

Hahahah, that makes me laugh.  With each passing day I am more and more convinced that we may stick w/ just one baby.  Holly is a happy baby and is pretty easy.  But now I see pregnant women and do not look at them w/ any envy.  Pregnancy was not hard on me, but I am not at all eager to repeat the newborn phase.  Holly is already such a great kid, how can it get any better?! :-P  To all you mamas out there w/ multiple kiddos, and those that strive for more, I bow down to you!!

 

We found out about Holly on 12 DPO, so that was 10/11/12.  http://melchiormunchkin.files.wordpress.com/2013/09/hollybbt.png  We had such a hard time conceiving so I did all the charting and etc.  I am not too eager to repeat that process, either.

post #215 of 265
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My friend's sister writes that blog!
 

Haha! That's so funny! I definitely follow it :)

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Baby Smurf, I was just thinking about that, it was about this time last year that I found out that I was pregnant (a year ago this Saturday to be exact).  Makes me kind of wish I was pregnant again...  lol.

Also, I came across this article and found it rather interesting (as a parent who uses a hybrid of AP- mostly because my son is in daycare and I can't be with him 24/7)

 

http://holisticsquid.com/why-we-ditched-attachment-parenting/

Kind of fun to think back to that, huh?

 

While I actually like that blog a lot, it really irks me when people are so dogmatic about labels.  And that the only two styles of parenting are AP or "mainstream".  Or that CIO is the only alternative to absolute bed sharing. It just doesn't make sense to me.  And I think that is what stems a lot of discouragement in and between moms.  It's funny because to me, being AP has always just meant being in tune with and responding to or being respectful of your baby's needs, and that things like co sleeping and babywearing were more common in the AP group than in mainstream groups, not that YOU MUST DO THIS TO BE AN AP PARENT (AND THEREFORE A GOOD PARENT).  When people do those things because they are following a philosophy instead of their child, I don't think that's really AP at all.  AP didn't ruin her life, being dogmatic about trying to fit within a label did.  I think that AP is great, but that doesn't mean that I follow *every* stinking aspect just so that I can say I'm a "perfect AP parent" - that would make my kids and me miserable!! I consider myself AP because a lot of my kids needs actually do fit within the constructs of common AP practices.  But I think that so many people dismiss AP because people are either dogmatic about the components or misinterpret/misrepresent them.  Like, Jnajla, that you can't be an AP parent because you work and can't be with your son 24/7. Or that following a routine or a schedule isn't good for a baby, ever.  Or that AP babies "never cry".  It's bonkers. I actually think I just really hate what the term "AP" has come to represent.  Okay rant over. :shy

post #216 of 265

BabySmurf, I totally agree with everythig you said about that blog post. I was meaning to come back and comment on it, but haven't been able to til now.

 

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 Now, I DO NOT recommend sleep training a one year old if you can avoid it (instead introduce a schedule no later than four months in most cases). Cry It Out is the stuff that makes skin crawl for attachment parenting advocates, and it is simply not pleasant for anyone.

I dislike this part in particular, because it almost looks as if she is advocating CIO for 4 month old babies, and I don't know anyone who would recommend CIO for such a tiny infant. I don't actually think that is what she's recommending, but rather that she thinks introducing a more structured sleep schedule earlier will make it less necessary to CIO later.

 

Also, though she does admit that each child is different and comes with their own individual temperament, I don't think she takes that into consideration really when she claims that they ditched AP and had a much better go of things the second time around. First of all, she says that the second is "hybrid AP" so it's not that she ditched AP altogether, and also her success with baby #2 could have nothing at all to do with her sleep-training method. My first DD is/was very similar to her description of her son--not a great sleeper, doesn't want to be separated from me, often wanted to suckle ALL. NIGHT. LONG. and it was really tough to pop her off and sneak away. That often took numerous attempts before it worked, and the process was time consuming and frustrating. I often had to miss out on get-togethers when people would come visit and stay later, and I had to go lie in bed trying to get Ela to sleep--and STAY asleep--without me right by her. But instead of sleep training we just kind of knuckled down and I reminded myself that our babies are only tiny for a short time, and I was willing to put up with this reality for now. Still, to this day Ela is not a very soound sleeper, and she never naps. She dropped napping early, just like HolisticSquid's son.

 

Now, if I'd given up on co-sleeping and extended nursing in favor of sleep training, I probably would have thought that sleep training was the Holy Grail when baby #2 came along. Amelia sleeps like a dream and has since pretty early on. She naturally follows a schedule and has slept for long stretches at night since pretty early on. Sometimes it's not the method you use at all, but the baby's temperament and natural inclination. Actually, I think that is the most important factor!

post #217 of 265

babysmurf and Kitteh- YES! my feelings exactly. I have the same experience. First boy was a sleep resistor and the second has slept wonderfully and I haven't changed my approach. The AP label reminds me of the vegan and other food related labels. So dogmatic, making it hard for people to make choices that work for them. Also for goodness sake if your back hurts stop baby wearing! It shouldn't take serious injuries (3 times!!) to realize something isn't meant for you. That said, I get that with your first it's so hard to know if your doing it well. It is so hard in so many ways, so maybe convincing yourself that if you just keep at it will work out even if it's just not working..........or your in pain.

post #218 of 265
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babysmurf and Kitteh- YES! my feelings exactly. I have the same experience. First boy was a sleep resistor and the second has slept wonderfully and I haven't changed my approach. The AP label reminds me of the vegan and other food related labels. So dogmatic, making it hard for people to make choices that work for them. Also for goodness sake if your back hurts stop baby wearing! It shouldn't take serious injuries (3 times!!) to realize something isn't meant for you. That said, I get that with your first it's so hard to know if your doing it well. It is so hard in so many ways, so maybe convincing yourself that if you just keep at it will work out even if it's just not working..........or your in pain.
Well and it soundsike the kid didn't enjoy it either!! So the only reason wby she was doing it is because someone else said it would be good...so then she says that the style of parenting ruined her life. Insert eyeroll. I also wonder if she approache'd bedtime the same way - ignoring her and her babys signals to fit into what she thoght was more AP, in which case of course sleep was an issue! I do know kids can be terrible sleepers, but there is a huuuuuuge number of ways that you can try to make things better before doing CIO. People do the whole bedsharing and nursing thing because it gets them more sleep, and if its not working there are plenty of things to try to make sleep easier for everyone without leaving a kid to cry on their own. Foolish. I almost find it hard to believe that this is truth and that she didn't write it this way just to generate page hits anddiscussion.
Anyway.......
post #219 of 265
Anyone else losing their hair?!? Ugghh!!
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Anyone else losing their hair?!? Ugghh!!

 

Yes!  Like crazy for the past month or so.

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