I sat on a soft ice pack after each birth. This helped swelling in the lady parts and my sore bottom from all the pressure. I never had hemmys so I have no advice for the little bastards. (Sorry RaeRae!) I pretty much live on Arnica for the first week after birthing. Both for soreness and for the after pains. Just rest seemed to help immensely though. Just. Rest.
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Post Partum Chat Thread - Page 4post #62 of 2487/1/13 at 5:47pmRaeRae, my midwife gave me a sachet of comphrey and lavender which I steeped in boiling water. I used it in a peri bottle every time I went to the bathroom and also used it in a sitz bath, which was awesome! I also took between 400 and 800 mg of ibuprofen for a few days. I had multiple stitches and a 2nd degree perineal tear. I also had an incredibly bruised tailbone due to delivering on a birthing stool. I'm now 3 weeks post partum and feeling great.
Pokey, I know exactly how you feel. I expected to be emotional but it's much harder than I thought. Even my placenta capsules aren't helping much. I feel like i spent so much time preparing for the birth and very little for the post partum scenarios. The best advice I can give is to trust in yourself, the process, and the baby....... all will be fine. You can totally do this and it will get better every day. It takes a little time to get to know your little one but each week is betterpost #63 of 2487/1/13 at 5:50pmpost #64 of 2487/1/13 at 6:22pmpost #65 of 2487/1/13 at 7:24pmSo I'm barely bleeding now but it's very thick and mucous like but blood. It's weird consistency but not a dripping bleeding. I am having to wear a pad to keep clean. Also cramping a bit more today. After reading the stop/start seems normal or common. If I'm still having this discomfort I will go in. I think the problem is I will need to see my OB and not an urgent care doc because I will probably need an ultrasound to confirm or deny my uterine contents. UGH!!!post #66 of 2487/1/13 at 8:32pm
Arnica!! Of course, why haven't I been taking any?! Starting right NOW.
Helenh, awesome advice! I had some pads sprayed with witch hazel, aloe, and lavender, then frozen. They were nice, but didn't seem to really do much. Sometimes they were a little too intense, which I think is due to the witch hazel. I sometimes spray it on after I urinate and while it's awesome at points, sometimes it makes things burn-y. I might try this comfrey lavender sitz/spray. My sitz bath mix is witch hazel leaves, comfrey, calendula, chamomile, and something else that I can't remember right now. I have just been too lazy to actually make one up more than a couple times since birth! Gotta get on top of that.
Tenk- hoping the best for your bleeding! Take it easy, rest lots, and hopefully it'll pass in a day or two.post #67 of 2487/2/13 at 6:46am
Tenk, still sounds like what I am experiencing too (and have in the past.)
Pokey, If you're still swollen, eating watermelon can help and taking about a tsp/day of REAL salt with plenty of water helps too. BTW for people with low milk supply, the salt can help that too. Unfortunately, people think salt is bad (and processed salt and salt from processed food is bad) but real salt (Himilayan sea salt or salt that is pink and speckled with minerals) is nutritious and helps keep you hydrated.post #68 of 2487/2/13 at 5:28pm
for those of you (us) with the emotional overload I will again recommend Motherwort tincture. I lived of that stuff along with arnica for pain for the first couple weeks. I still take the motherwort on days when its just too much. It will also help your uterus "recover" for those of you still in the first week or two PP.
I had one sitz bath and it was cause my mom was around to prepare and take the children while I sat. So instead I did the perry bottle deal and used it every time I peed. I used comfrey and uva ursi.
I don't have hemorrhoids (I don't think) but I do have a fissure. I haven't had anyone check it out so it's totally self diagnosed :) I had the same thing for over a year after my first birth. I have found that witch hazel and aloe pads are Amazing, also comfrey salve and or manuka honey. I'm also using the honey on the tear and I've been feeling loads better in that area.
I'm still bleeding a bit 4.5 weeks PP. My body still hurts a lot, though now it's more from carrying the baby around and sleeping in terrible positions while nursing (keep passing out and waking up sore hours later). Feeling annoyed that I'm still not myself yet. I have limited energy (inspite of the placenta), I am still easily overwhelmed to the point of crying or loosing it. I am frustrated with my appearance (really its just my hair, I desperately want to chop it all off, but will regret it when I recover my ability to think clearly) oh yes and I smell strong! I know it could be worse, but I needed to get that out :)
I feel taking care of the baby is loads easier this time. First off I'm not in a panic 24/7 thinking he is going to stop breathing if I don't do everything perfectly. He sleeps (my first did the 4-5 hours awake but didn't sleep more than 2 hours which I now think is cause I was always wound up). I discovered Happiest baby on the block so I now know how to soothe a cranky baby (or again I'm just too busy/tired to panic and baby can tell). All that said THIS IS HARD!!!!!!!!! I am pretty much living in "what were we thinking" land, just hoping to get through another day. Now mamas remind me when do the babies start sitting, and generally being more chill/less needing to be carried??? Oh and how did/do you talk to your toddlers to help them understand that babies are fragile (not the best word, but brain shutting down....need sleep)post #69 of 2487/2/13 at 8:16pm
I have finally managed to sit down and write some in this post.
I'm finding this pp period has been the hardest of all three. I'm very emotional, I get tired and I get bored really easily. I can not get out, we are in the three digits, so it would be insane for me and for baby to go out. We went grocery shopping this past weekend, and were back by 10am, but it was terribly hot already. DH is taking summer classes, and summer camp for the two older girls hasn't started yet.
So after that little vent, I'm also finding that this has been the most intense babymoon I had, I love the little one to pieces, and everytime I feel like I'm going to loose it, I just need to sit down with him and stare at his peaceful face. Isn't that amazing, that's just how our bodies work, to keep us sane.post #70 of 2487/3/13 at 3:49pmI have never had any kind of pp blues, but am really mentally struggling with the fact this is my last baby. While I was in active labor I even remember thinking 'this is your last one- you'll never be pregnant again'... I almost feel like I'm mourning the fact that I will never experience another pregnancy, another labor, or another baby. I am okay with the decision to be done with our family, just sad that this stage in my life is over.
Sending all you mamas happy healing (both physically and mentally) thoughts and lets all remember to take care of ourselves.post #71 of 2487/3/13 at 7:39pmQuote:Originally Posted by shanna-cat
I have never had any kind of pp blues, but am really mentally struggling with the fact this is my last baby. While I was in active labor I even remember thinking 'this is your last one- you'll never be pregnant again'... I almost feel like I'm mourning the fact that I will never experience another pregnancy, another labor, or another baby. I am okay with the decision to be done with our family, just sad that this stage in my life is over.
Shanna this is me exactly. Especially thinking it through labor and now the mourning feeling afterword.
My mom has been a huge support while I work through my emotions as she felt the same when she was done having children. Her situation was much harder as she was rendered unable to have more children after an iud re-located causing scar tissue. My brother was already 3 when she found out she couldn't have any more so her arms were empty so to speak.
At least in my situation I've got a baby in my arms for a long time to come.
's shanna. I'm there with you.post #72 of 2487/4/13 at 8:41am
Hugs to all of you postpartum mamas!
Here I am nearly a week out, and things are going so well that I'm almost afraid to talk about it lest I jinx it. Amelia is SO much easier than Ela was, even this early on. My first had her days and nights confused, and had a really fussy period from 2-4AM. She also had a lot of reflux issues and we had lots of latch issues. I remember breaking down one night because I was convinced that she hated me! Ela was a very active, alert, physically precocious child. She was holding her head up within the first few weeks, crawling by 5 months, walking by 8.5 months. I think her desire to be mobile also made her harder to parent, she was always on the go! She was a surprise pregnancy, so I also think I took a while after her birth to really come to terms with everything, and I felt somewhat disconnected from her for the first few weeks. I absolutely loved her to bits, but at the same time I think I felt some resentment towards her. It's hard not to have some negative feelings toward someone who spends a good 3/4ths of the time screaming at you!
So I'm feeling really guilty about this, but I feel so much more connected to Amelia than I did to Ela when she was a newborn. Amelia is such an easy baby (knock on wood!) She nurses like a champ, needs very little help latching--even in the side-lying position which is the one I favor. She is a GREAT sleeper and has one good 4-5 hour stretch right away at night and then wakes every 2 hours or so. She nurses almost constantly during the day, but I have a lot of help around the house so I'm kind of enjoying the excuse to just lounge around in bed and nurse and snooze all day. She hasn't lost any weight since birth, or if she did she has regained it and then some within this first week. I'm thinking of wrapping her in the Moby around the house, as I start to recover more and want to be up and about. She LOVES to be worn, which wasn't the case with Ela,
Luckily Ela is still nursing, because I'm having some massive oversupply issues and she is a wonderful help at relieving the painful engorgement. Also, she is not generally a snuggly girl, so nursing is my chance to hold her close and reconnect. Tandem nursing has been going really well so far. Ela likes to nurse while her little sister is nursing, but we had a talk about how mama can't nurse two babies while lying down, and she is very understanding. So I usually give her first billing at night, and when I'm lucky she falls asleep before the baby demands to be nursed. If not, Ela usually tells me to count to a certain number of her choosing and then she lets her sister nurse. Sometimes she falls asleep while waiting, and sometimes she just waits and nurses to sleep afterwards. It's really cute, whenever Amelia cries Ela tells me "Mama! Your baby needs to Nur-Nur!" and she likes to help by putting my nipple into Amelia's mouth. I'm so so happy that tandem nursing has been working out so far. I was worried that I'd have to wean Ela before she was ready, or that it would just be too physically taxing on my body (it IS very taxing, but not more than I can handle so far.)
As for me, I'm constantly hungry! I'm pretty sure I eat 2,500-3,000 calories a day. DH tells me I seem more pregnant NOW than I did when I was actually pregnant, on account of how much I'm eating. (Current favorites--brussels sprouts and ice cream. Not together!) My mom is staying with us for the next month, which has been a godsend. She has been amazing at keeping me fed and keeping my waterbottle full. She is the Burp Master and usually takes baby once I've finished nursing, and returns her freshly burped and with a dry diaper. I'm so blessed to have her around to help during this transition. Other than that I'm recovering nicely, but slowly. I didn't have any tears, but pushing out such a big baby has definitely left me feeling weak and bulgey down there. I'm fine when I spend most of the day in bed, but the last two days have involved pediatrician visits so I had to be up and about and I think I overdid it both days. On Tuesday I walked a total of a mile to and from the ped. office. Turns out they won't be accepting baby's insurance so we had to make ANOTHER appointment somewhere else for yesterday. Drove that time, but then stopped by the market afterwards which took a lot out of me too. So I'll be spending today taking it very easy.
Wow, I didn't realize I had so much to say! DH goes back to work tomorrow, and he works overnight, so it will be interesting to see how things go without his help. Hopefully we can settle into a routine that works for us.post #73 of 2487/4/13 at 9:40am
Shanna and Bumkins, I identify with you too. I plan for this to be my last baby, but I do feel sad about it. My head says it's time to be done...I'm 40; we have 5 children; I've had 5 C-sections (not by choice) and don't want to fight to try to have a natural birth again and feel terrible if it doesn't work out again; I want to travel abroad as a family and it's easier without babies and toddlers... So why do I feel sad? Will it go away? If not, I may end up TTC again in a year or so. I suppose I could technically sneak in one more baby, but then will I lose that feeling? Probably not.post #74 of 2487/4/13 at 10:16am
's Jr'smom. You are one strong mama to continue fighting for a natural birth but don't beat yourself up over the c-sections. The most important outcome is a healthy babe and you got 5 of them... As for having more, don't let anybody make that decision for you, only you know what's best for your body and your family.
kitteh, will you rest already! You're making me feel tired just reading your post. Sounds like Amelia and Ela will be the best of sisters. So sweet. Trillium is also a very laid back easy babe! Let's hope it last for another say...20 years
Cuau, I can't imagine weather so hot! We're in the upper 80's and I'm miserable! ( So thankfully not preggo anymore) Plus Trilly gets heat rashes somethin' awful so she's naked most of the time to stay cool. We take cool showers with her as well and she just lays on my shoulder happily. Funny though after 4 fall/winter babes it's hard to remember how to care for a babe in HOT weather! She sure LOVES to be outside..
littlegreenlady I second the motherwort, it rocks!
Yesterday we had an early arrival. Waaaaaaaay out in the lower pasture our 1st time mama cow had her little baby girl. She was already on her feet and nursing before we found her. We had to haul her up in the wheel barrow ( babies are not safe out in the field over night) Kiddos were helping me hold Trilly while I helped my husband get mama and baby situated in their 'private stall' in the barn. She was 5 days early and it was completely unexpected. Exciting news for us. I guess I'm not the only one having fast labors.
Hugs pp mamas! Enjoy your snuggles!post #75 of 2487/4/13 at 1:56pmThanks for all the support and pp chat. With a DH who doesn't really 'get' what I'm going through right now it's nice to have a community to talk to.
I'm feeling pretty off today, really not up for doing anything but lay in bed with my baby. However my kids are running around the house with a box of fire works hoping it gets dark soon so we can set them off. So I I guess I will have to get up. I found this article on line and am going to see if I can do a little 'pick me up' this afternoon in the form of a geranium oil neck rub and nettle tea. Hope it helps.
http://www.susunweed.com/An_Article_Fear_AW1.htmpost #76 of 2487/5/13 at 7:02am
It really does help to hear how everyone else is feeling. After two days of more running around and driving than I've done lately, I was so achy and exhausted last night. I told DH that I need a day of sitting and doing nothing but cuddling and nursing the baby today. Hopefully he and the kids can keep the house clean enough that I don't freak out (we're hosting a birthday party for my 7 yr old/ welcome baby party on Sunday.) And DH will do some yard work to make me happy while I relax.post #77 of 2487/8/13 at 12:33pm
Ugh... going downhill rapidly. The good news is I did a mighty fine job hosting my 7yr old's belated birthday party/ meet the baby party yesterday. The bad news is that I spiked a fever in the middle of the night and the UTI (urinary tract infection) that I could feel coming on for days got much worse affecting my kidneys now too and giving me terrible abdominal pain. I think even my C-section scar is slightly infected. I opted to have my DH take me to Urgent Care today (having to cancel haircuts we had made for the entire family that we really need!) The doc said I have acute sinusitis too... I didn't even tell him about my sore throat, earache, and coughing up mucus because it was the least of my problems. So pretty much I'm a mess up and down. I HATE antibiotics, but alas here I am really needing one and hoping it starts helping fast. I feel lousy but am in too much pain to rest even when the baby is sleeping. I'm bummed that we have to find time to get haircuts again, and that the trip to our family vacation cabin that we planned tomorrow has to be postponed until I'm feeling better. Okay, thanks for letting me complain! Hope everyone else is doing well!post #78 of 2487/8/13 at 2:38pmpost #79 of 2487/8/13 at 3:08pmpost #80 of 2487/9/13 at 10:30am
Aww, Jr's Mom, I hope those antibiotics kick in and that you're feeling better soon! That is a LOT to have to deal with on top of the usual post-partum recovery stuff! Take care of yourself, mama!
AFM--Although I'm only 11 days postpartum and still healing up, I'm pretty sure I have pelvic prolapse, specifically rectocele. I actually think I had a mild case of it after my first (she wasn't a particularly big baby at 7lbs12oz, but was a posterior presentation and I spend 2.5 hours "purple pushing" in a semi-reclined position.) At the time I had no idea that pelvic prolapse was even a thing. I just know that since having her 3.5 yrs ago I sometimes found myself placing a wad of toilet paper slightly inside my vagina and pushing back toward my rectal wall while having a BM (sorry if that's way TMI!) I didn't need to do it every time, but when I did I noticed that it really helped me void completely. There was no pain and my sex life didn't suffer at all, so I never mentioned anything to my gyn. So now after pushing out a 9 and a half pound baby, I'm pretty sure I've made it worse. Thankfully I didn't tear at all, because I've read that can make it much much worse, but I did STREETCH an awful lot, obviously. Nothing is protruding from the vagina, but it is definitely swollen into (what used to be) my vaginal canal. When I'm coughing or laughing, or after standing for extended periods of time, I tend to feel a bit "bulgey" down there and my entire pelvic area gets achey. I also get mild lower-back aches from too much walking or standing (not that I do very much standing or walking at all. I DO spend a good majority of the time relaxing on the couch or in bed!)
Any other mamas--especially mamas of many--experience this? I'm hoping that it's just something that takes a few weeks to improve on its own and won't necessarily need treatment. I plan to bring it up with my MW next week at my first post-partum checkup, but any advice or similar experiences would be appreciated!
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