Okay, so the thread will start late this week. Whoops! So, anyone nesting yet? For those of you with older children, did you nest with previous children? If nesting, what have you gotten done so far?
Weekly Thread 6/10-6/16
My version of nesting for this child will be trying to get alot of home renovations done before he/she comes. We've been a bit stalled in the process for quite a while due to finances but DH just started a much better job that he is really happy with and is actaully in his field so It looks like we can get moving again. I'm really excited about this. Our house has basically been a glorified tent for the past 2 years. We put everything we had into making the structure strong again and fixing the roof so we've just been dealing with the crumbling plaster, unfinished plumbing, extension cords to everywhere...
Anyway, this job is a big relief and though we're going to be in upheaval all summer while working on the house I don't care. I can do the "real" nesting with a baby in my arms.
As for crafting, I'm still making things for other babies. I'm about midway through a quilt for my niece and I'm aiming to get it done before her baby shower in early July.
Not nesting yet, but the urge is finally starting to hit a little. My house is a disaster and I must get it in order! So I'm either nesting or since my nausea is easing up I am finally realizing what a mess I let my house become and wanting to get back on track!!
My plan in the upcoming weeks is to start decluttering closets and also switch my kids rooms. They'll be going to my moms house next week since they will be out of school and summer camp hasn't started yet. I hope to get them switched while they are gone. DS's room is bigger than DD's room. Since baby is a girl we'll move the girls to the bigger room.
I still feel that "what if something goes wrong" feeling a lot. And I worry about getting everything too set up until we're closer to baby time. I actually hate to switch my kids rooms now, and feel like I would rather wait until the end of the summer. But its just so much easier to be able to do it while they aren't home for the week.
I want to start getting ready but we're working 7 days a week til the shop closes at the end of July so all we're doing is making it messier at the moment!
At the end of the shop we're taking a week off and getting away before DH starts his new job and mum has offered to paint the whole house while we're gone!!! Then I'll be at home all day til the baby comes, so I should have tons of time to get the house into some kind of "show home" order :) It's really just so cluttered with crap, and the poor nursery is still part junk room, so all that junk needs to find a home too (probably a dumpster lol)
Working hard over here! Our "boys" that we work with leave for vacation on the 19th and then we head to NY for vacation for almost 4 weeks! When we get back, we have 2 weeks of training, followed by a week where our boys are pretty much home with us all day (=nothing gets done). By then I'll be almost 34 weeks pregnant AND starting homeschool with my daughter . . . so this next week and a half are MAJOR crunch time for me! Painted the "girls'" room this week, need to do some sewing, preparing homeschool stuff, etc. Things are finally coming together . .. I'm a "nester" by nature, but pregnancy gives me whole new lists to accomplish!
In other news, this has been one of THOSE weeks. Found out that the place I got my ultrasound done has been flagging EVERY baby with a "shadow on the heart," which usually ends up meaning nothing . . . but to have a birth center/midwife birth, I need to get a level 2 ultrasound done to clear the "high risk" flagging. The birth center was even ticked by it, since it's happening to EVERY mom . . . I wouldn't mind having another ultrasound and seeing baby again, but it's going to end up being FOUR hours from the time I have to "check in," meet with a "genetic counselor" (gag me) and then wait for my ultrasound. I'm okay with it now, but raged and ranted for a day about it earlier this week. I hate things that waste my time (especially when we're SO busy with our boys this time of year!). (We are houseparents at a children's home and our 8 boys are finishing up their year and getting ready for a 6 week home visit).
THEN I get a call from the birth center, letting me know (oh so cheerfully) that I have to sign up for a TWO hour "birth center orientation class." Basically people are stupid, so all the paperwork that I READ with my previous two babies (like packing lists, what to expect from a midwife/birth center birth, what happens in event of a transfer) they now have to TELL you at a class . . . and you do all your birth paperwork instead of being able to just do it at home and turn it in. I know lots of people need help, but I managed to deliver two babies with them previously, with no problems. I'm a book-learner and practically have every natural birth book memorized (I could probably teach the class) . . . and goodness, how hard is it to follow directions and do paperwork!?!??!?! Sorry . . . just a little irritated by yet another time-waster.
I've worked through my emotions about it and have just resigned myself to getting these things done, but goodness! What a week! HA!
not really nesting.... I'm suspecting we're going to be moving around the end of August into a different place so the only "nesting" i'm doing is getting rid of stuff (mostly my husbands) that we don't need, simplifying, going through drawers, etc. We really want to live in a free standing cottage/house with no shared walls and a backyard. I can't see myself having a homebirth here and I wouldn't want to be cooped up in here with a newborn!
Sorry to be a Debbie downer, but I'm just having the most frustrating time with friends right now. Last week a friend had organised a big group of us to meet at the local museum there were going to be about 5 mums and all our children, we set a meeting time and place and then they just never showed, I stayed for two hours waiting, trying to call, text etc and to no reply. Only to find out they'd changed the meeting place/time and forgotten about me.
Today a friend is supposed to be coming around, she said she'd be here at 10:30am and its currently 11:45am and they are still not here. I just don't understand why some people are so late and rude about it. It's rude to leave someone waiting around, especially when I said I would only be home until 1:30pm as I have to be at ds's school not long after that.
I feel grumpy now. To the point I'd prefer not to have visitors especially ones who will more than likely ruin my other plans. On top of that trash my house too :-(
Aw, Danielle, that is a huge disappointment being flaked on by people. I'm so sorry this has been happening to you :( I've had similar things happen to me in the past (being forgotten, etc) and it's so hurtful! Big hugs to you, lady. I don't blame you for feeling like you'd rather just not have any visitors, but try to keep your chin up! xo
That's super annoying Danielle. I would be very hurt and annoyed too.
I'm also feeling lonely and forgotten by friends. I really only have a couple close friends left at this point and they are both a decent drive away. Both seem to have very busy social lives and trying to schedule something with them is disheartening because it has to be like, 2 months in advance. I've never had a social life like that and it makes me feel lame I guess that I'm free whenever and they're all "Oh, I'm so busy, let me get back to you with some dates." Other friends that I tried making in the last year or two seem to have just dropped off the face of the earth. I'm kind of always free since DH works weekend evenings, so it's not like I ever have plans with him or his friends. Now I'm going to have to ask my mom if she will throw a baby shower for me, which feels greedy to have to ask and DH thinks the whole shower thing is greedy to begin with, so he doesn't even want to attend (which I would have wanted him to). It wouldn't even occur to my mom to plan it, but this IS our first baby so I do kind of want a shower. Now I just feel weird about the whole thing. It also doesn't help that I met up with some other local first-time moms through Meetup and several of them are having 2-3 showers because they have spread out family and friends and everyone is clambering to throw them a shower. Ugghhh.
I'm also kind of annoyed because our Bradley instructor had some damage to her house in a storm last week so she emailed me and the other student to say she was trying to find another place to hold the class, but might have to cancel it if she couldn't find a place. So I emailed back offering to host since we're only 15 mins away from her. The other student emailed a little while later also offering her house, but mentioned she had a friendly cat. I'm allergic to cats, but figured I'd wait and see what the instructor said and that we'd probably have it at our house since we offered first. Well the instructor emailed back and agreed to having it at the other couple's house. Now I'm stuck emailing back saying I'd rather not go there since I'm so allergic to cats. So I've gone from feeling helpful about offering my own house, to feeling like a brat about now insisting it be at ours since I don't want to sit in a cat household for 2 hours and end up sneezing and sniffling the whole time. And I'm feeling irrationally emotional and rejected that the instructor chose the other student's house when we offered first and I think we're all equal distance. :: hormonal pregnant lady here ::
All this, too, shall pass I suppose.
Edited by slammerkin - 6/14/13 at 6:23am
Danielle, that has happened to me before and I know how awful it is! Did you let them know that you weren't pleased about it? Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself, and if they are not responsive I would consider finding other friends to hang out with. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it peeves me when people totally disrespect others' time.
Like others, my nesting so far has taken the form of de-cluttering, simplifying, and getting rid of junk. I read a blog called Rowdy Kittens written by a woman who lives in a tiny house, and it recently inspired me to pare down my wardrobe, big time. Here is the article: http://rowdykittens.com/2013/03/edit/
I did this a year ago as well, but somehow things have accumulated, especially now that I'm in full maternity mode
Oh Danielle and slammerkin, I'm sorry you guys are having/had such sucky days. Slammerkin, I know how you feel in the friends department. We live about 2 hours from all our closest friends and it feels so much harder to find friends where we live now. People are nice here and we've found a couple good families to hang out with but we probably only see them like once a month. Otherwise the only adults I hang out with are at play groups and I haven't really found any that I really connect with beyond that. We've moved a bunch in the last 5 years so when we were having DS we were in a new place too with very few friends. Actually more like none. Our good friends, who were then an even farther drive away, wanted to have a shower for us but it was just too hard logistically. Because we kind of needed everything and didn't have a ton of money I did end up asking my mom to host one for me in my hometown with mostly family friends and whoever of my old friends still lived in the city. Anyway, just ask your mom. Or strongly hint if you feel weird straight up asking. I think I strongly hinted to my mom and sisters and they made it happen.
Baby showers are greedy in the same way that birthday parties and wedding registries are. I mean to say, they are greedy in a way that most people don't find offensive so don't worry too much. People love babies and a lot of people love buying gifts for babies. The ones who don't won't.
not really nesting, we've only lived here for 9 months so I feel like things are remarkably well organized for having lived here such a short time! We are working on the outdoors now that it's summer.
I'm sorry your friends were such assholes, Danielle, forgetting to let you know they had changed the time/place of the meeting. I would have written a very snippy SMS and sent it to all 4 mothers in question letting them know that you do NOT appreciate being left waiting around with your kids in public for hours, and if they change the time/place again like that they ought to know that unless they are meticulous about getting the memo out to EVERYONE, it's the height of rudeness.
I'm feeling immense financial pressure to get more hours of freelance work, network, etc, to the point where when the baby is 9 months old or so, I'll be able to have a chance for a full time salaried position. I'm in the position with my ex husband where the situation with my kids is not to my liking and if I pursue the matter in court again, we will end up risking a bucketload of money we don't have to spare laying around.
Sigh, more songwriting. We have a whole album of material at this point, and hopefully soon a demo CD to send out to get some paying gigs so that'll bring in some peanuts of cash whenever I get a stage gig. If we get picked up by a record label of course then it will become a proper paying profession but until then I'm just a wannabe crooner. But it's cheaper than psychotherapy.
Now contract 1 wants to extend. DP says we need the coin (we so don't, I mean it has places to go but really not hurting)
This thought has just exhausted me.
I have been feeling a need for a social life, and it is not happening Most of my friends like to go out dancing, drinking, and just having fun....I miss that. This unplanned pregnancy ( 7 years after my last one) has put a sudden halt to my very fun social life. I'm happy about the pregnancy, and I realize I will not be pregnant or have a newborn forever. I feel guilt about missing my old life.