DS is 5.5. He is relentless in his requests: movies, activities, treats, play dates. He asks for something more all day. He will not entertain himself. He has a trapeze, a bike, an acre and a half at his disposal, a dog, mountains of books, an activity table in the living room with legos, kinnex, building blocks, figurines, a craft cupboard with everything from play doh to coloring books. All he wants to do is follow me around and ask for things, or ask me to do things for him.
What's worse, when i say no, or even when i say "how about you do x for y minutes and then you can/i will" he will whine and complain and even get all dramatic about hownI just won't do anything with/for him, or cry that he can't, or just some general frustrating nonsense.
He will not listen when i ask him to do something for me. Getting dressed takes him so long. Eating takes forever. Keeping his hands to himself (see other post about this issue) lasts 30 seconds. A little job request is met with so much whining and eye rolling and attitude that i give up.
But then when i get frustrated (which is pretty quickly these days) he's so sensitive to correction. he blows up, storms off, wails and cries when we lose patience or when a consequence happens. Makes super snotty, overly dramatic statements about how he'll have to run away, or how he never gets to do what he wants.
I'm at my wits end. I want to run away and hide from him. He seems so unhappy at his core that i want to give up. I try all day to be as engaged as i can while still giving attention to the other things that need it (ds2 is 5.5 months). I constantly redirect, point out interesting things, answer his questions, listen to his stories, explain what were doing and why, and even so he seems unsatisfied. And on top of all this, he won't follow the rules (no hitting, bedtime routine, etc).
I yell way more than i ever thought i would. Today both boys and i were in the bath (i didn't know what else to do that would entertain the fussy baby and the energetic 5yowhen i was so physically and mentally exhausted). Ds1 asked of he.could splash us, i say please no. A mine later he did. I remind him that i didn't want him to splash and asked him not to do it again. He did it again in a few minutes. Again, calm mama said please stop. A few minutes later he splashed again. Now I'm getting out of the tub yelling, begging to know why he won't just listen to me. He's crying because I'm yelling, the baby is crying, I'm shaking I'm so mad. I'm mad that he won't listen, I'm mad that i lost my temper over a little water, I'm mad that o just cannot seen to get the hang of this parenthood gig. And then we were all crying on the bathroom floor, naked, and I'm sure that he's now even more messed up than before.