Spotting (and even miscarriage) doesn't necessarily mean hospitals and doctors. Even if the situation is turning out for the worse, it can still be a respectful, and empowering experience when you stay in control of it rather than handing over the reigns to a doctor. Stay calm as best you can and rest. Perhaps the midwife you are meeting with would be kind enough to council you through this process, whether it ends up being nothing, or a loss. She could likely order you a stat ultrasound (or listen with a doppler if far enough in), do repeat hcg blood work, or you can just wait and see what happens (and ask yourself, deep down if you know what is happening already). Most people with bleeding in early pregnancy go on to have a full term baby. It is an awful place to be, I went through a loss in February. I've also been with other women during losses, as a student midwife. Let us know if we can be of any help. Praying for you and baby <3
I want to thank you Margo Nelson for your words especially because you really gave me courage to stay home and follow my instincts. (You can read more about that in another post I wrote).
Now I just have to figure out how to deal with the depression and devastation. I miss my baby . ... It hurts so bad I can't breathe sometimes.
Thank you for all your care and concern and support. Please continue to pray for my healing, if you can. I hope you all have healthy, beautiful pregnancies and a peaceful journey with your little blessings inside your wombs.
That really does mean so much to me, that I helped in any small way. It makes me feel like my own loss was not in vain because it taught me so much that I can share now. I only hope that you feel the same someday <3
In the meantime, rest, eat well even though you may not want to, and cry as much as you need to. Don't put on a brave face for anyone just to make them comfortable - you can feel however you need to feel! The baby blues blend from Wish Garden really really really helped me I think - http://www.radiantbelly.com/bablti.html I took it every day for almost 2 months I think. You might be able to something similar from another company locally too. I also think writing your story down is important, and so is honoring this baby however you want to or need to. We did a little burial and a blessing, and a few months later I did another goodbye/releasing ceremony by myself once I felt like I was ready.
If anyone asks how they can help, tell them to bring you nutritious food, or have it delivered. This article was helpful to me, and our family - http://www.thebirthingsite.com/postpartum-health/item/647-after-miscarriage-postpartum-care-for-mothers-experiencing-loss.html. I'll be thinking of you and hoping that this time goes as smoothly as it can for you. Sending love. Feel free to PM me any time!!!