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Are you a Midwife? PLEASE HELP!!

post #1 of 14
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I am almost 7 weeks pregnant and I woke up about 3 hours and started light bleeding. About 90 mins ago it became moderate so I'm wearing a pad but I have not soaked it. (I know that's a common question). I do not have a health practitioner yet! I was supposed to have my first consultation with the midwife tonight. We recently moved to this city and are not well accustomed with things. I already called and texted the said midwife 2 hours ago and haven't heard anything.

I'm writing this in a desperate attempt to get advice because I DO NOT WANT TO SEE AN OB/GYN OR GO TO THE HOSPITAL. With my first pregnancy I went to the ER and it was the worst experience of my life! Losing the baby was horrible, of course, but the mean and insenitive doctors made it 100 times more traumatic for me! It has taken me two years and im still not healed. Plus, they made multiple mistakes and performed a horrible d&c which left me a lot of complications.

Anyway, if I am miscarrying (which I know is most likely) I would like to do it in the comfort and peace of my home. My husband is here if there was any sort of emergency. I guess I am writing just to specifically know if that should be ok and what to look for. I know severe cramping can be a dangerous sign but other than that can I just wait and see??? I'll keep trying to get a hold of this midwife. Thank you in advance!
post #2 of 14

Not a midwife, but have been in your shoes. stillheart.gif

 

I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks and went to the ER. I hated the way they treated me, and in the end, I would have been just as good without that experience.

 

The only reason I might suggest going to a medical practitioner is that they gave me vicodin, and I found myself in a lot of pain, and very, VERY happy to have it.

 

I don't know if physical pain relief is worth the emotional pain of reliving your prior experience, but keep in mind that at 7 weeks, intervention is not likely, and a D&C would be very unusual to do. 

 

Either way, much love and well-wishes your way. I hope your experience is as peaceful and respectful as possible. 

 

:HUGS:

post #3 of 14

Bleeding can occur for other reasons in pregnancy, so it is not necessarily a miscarriage. I think the best thing for you to do right now is lay down and rest and be sure you are getting plenty of fluids. Then as soon as you are in contact with the midwife she can guide you through whatever may be going on.

 

If you find you are soaking a pad within an hour or less, a trip to the er is probably warranted.

 

My 2nd miscarriage was in late first trimester and it took about three days of off and on labor before everything came out and then I bled lighter for another week or so. I stayed at home with no problems and only had to consult after a few months when my hormones kinda went whack.

post #4 of 14
Any signs of fainting or blacking out because of blood loss should warrant an immediate trip to the ER as well.
post #5 of 14

I am sorry you had bad experience . Not all hospital are the same. Please go to ER. Bleeding can lead to many issues

post #6 of 14
If it were me, I would not go to the ER. Like a PP said, I would just lie down and drink lots of fluids. Wait for the midwife to call you. Eat some comfort food and be very kind to yourself. Unless you have crazy bleeding, start to feel dizzy or have a fever, there is really not much they can do for you at the ER. And it may also not even be a miscarriage. I had some bleeding early in this pregnancy and things are still going strong at 22 weeks.

I went to the ER at 5 and 1/2 weeks last year and had a miscarriage. Ugh. The doc was awful. The nurses were awesome. But if I had it to do over again I would have stayed home.
post #7 of 14

How are you doing? Did you get in touch with your midwife?

post #8 of 14
I would go to the ER if they could do an ultrasound. Giving them a call beforehand is helpful.

Also, there are many reasons why women bleed, especially in the first trimester: http://www.squidoo.com/firsttrimesterbleeding

I hope the bleeding has stopped! hug.gif
post #9 of 14
Thread Starter 
I did end up having a natural miscarriage at home and am very glad that I went with that route. I talked to that midwife and she said I could stay home and I would "know in my body if something was wrong." She was very comforting and helped me feel grounded and to trust myself. I called athe highest rated ob/gyn practice here and they were trying to scare me to death "you should go to the ER. It is going to get a lot worse! You don't know what is about to happen!" Really incredible. .. the contrast between the midwife and doctor. Especially since I didn't have any dangerous signs like fever, fainting, ect.
Obviously I am devastated that we lost the baby, but someone in another post gave me courage by saying that it can happen naturally and isn't aomething that has to be handed over to the doctors. I just want to offer that to any woman who reads this in the future- to know that if you want to go that route... you can and in a way, it was a very healing experience for me and I feel more connected to my body now. Which is the opposite of how I felt after my d&c and like I had been pressured and made scared to believe that my body couldn't handle it and the almighty doctors had to do it for me. (I'm not speaking against anyone who had a d&c for their own reasons. That is fine. But my personal experience was obviously not good and while miscarriage is never good greensad.gif and I'm still crying throughout the day... this one was a lot better in that I was able to surrender to my body (not docs) just like I did in my dd's birth.

Thank you all for your care and concern and advice and prayers. I wish you all the best!
post #10 of 14
My thoughts are with you.
post #11 of 14

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post #12 of 14
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Originally Posted by Philothea View Post

I did end up having a natural miscarriage at home and am very glad that I went with that route. I talked to that midwife and she said I could stay home and I would "know in my body if something was wrong." She was very comforting and helped me feel grounded and to trust myself. I called athe highest rated ob/gyn practice here and they were trying to scare me to death "you should go to the ER. It is going to get a lot worse! You don't know what is about to happen!" Really incredible. .. the contrast between the midwife and doctor. Especially since I didn't have any dangerous signs like fever, fainting, ect.
Obviously I am devastated that we lost the baby, but someone in another post gave me courage by saying that it can happen naturally and isn't aomething that has to be handed over to the doctors. I just want to offer that to any woman who reads this in the future- to know that if you want to go that route... you can and in a way, it was a very healing experience for me and I feel more connected to my body now. Which is the opposite of how I felt after my d&c and like I had been pressured and made scared to believe that my body couldn't handle it and the almighty doctors had to do it for me. (I'm not speaking against anyone who had a d&c for their own reasons. That is fine. But my personal experience was obviously not good and while miscarriage is never good greensad.gif and I'm still crying throughout the day... this one was a lot better in that I was able to surrender to my body (not docs) just like I did in my dd's birth.

Thank you all for your care and concern and advice and prayers. I wish you all the best!

 

I am sending lots of empathy and healing wishes your way today. I am sorry you had to go through this, but glad that you found the opportunity to connect with your body in a new way, and to make it an experience to heal your prior trauma. I wish you all the best with your recovery, and I am so glad you had a compassionate caregiver you could call for reassurance. Thanks for sharing the outcome of your experience with the countless people who will surely find this thread when asking themselves the same questions. 

post #13 of 14
Hug. <3 Sorry for your loss.
post #14 of 14
Lots of love and sympathy to you, philothea hug.gif I wish you well during this difficult time and i'm happy this was on your terms.
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