we have had a really stressful year in DDs first grade. lots of chaos, physical aggression between the children (boys physically attacking each other), and mean girls, with one in particular targeting DD consistently. my already sensitive DD has come away from the school year virtually unable to handle criticism, the slightest teasing, disagreements, etc. from her peers without crying, stating that she "hates" so-and-so, will "never speak to them again", hitting herself in the face, saying she is "stupid" and the like.
it has been heartbreaking to watch this all unfold, and we did our best to try to do damage control during the year, but didn't get much validation from the school about our concerns. she will be going to a new school in the fall, and we want to do the best we can to help DD move through and past this really challenging experience.
how do we rebuild a little girl's self esteem in the most constructive and lasting way? i was a sensitive child, but didn't have the benefit of having a mother who was a sensitive person, so i am kind of at a loss as to how to help my child heal without letting my own feelings spill over into the situation? i want her to realize she is beautiful, intelligent and strong from the inside out, but don't want to send the message in a superficial way. basically, how do we help her heal and promote resilience?
any thoughts would be most appreciated.
blessings to you all.