Feeling a little defeated...
Oh gosh, that's awful!! First of all, don't worry about being the first patient in four years who needs meds for morning sickness, that is not even a big deal. Four years is not even a long time in a medical career, honestly, don't even think about that part.
I think you deserve to give yourself tons of credit for researching and taking charge of your own health. This way, you know that it's nothing you did or didn't do, it's just how your body is reacting to pregnancy. Like if you hadn't taken charge of your health, you might be wondering what's so off balance or whatever. But it sounds like you are really on top of things!
I have a friend who eats really healthy, cooks from scratch at home, etc, and has two boys, all natural births. She rocks. And she had severe hyperemesis pretty much her entire pregnancy BOTH times. It was terrible, and she definitely needed medication to control it. It happens to people, you're not alone. And it's great you're as healthy as you are. I'm sorry you've struggled with being underweight, that can't be easy. I've always had the opposite problem, and any time you feel you're not at a good weight for yourself is kind of a hard thing. But we are all doing the best we can, and that absolutely includes you, so just do what you need to do to be healthy, don't beat yourself up, take care of yourself and try to relax. Deep breaths. :) And let the medication work for you. I hope it does, and hope you get some relief soon!
Don't blame yourself!!! You were trying! I don't think morning sickness has anything to do with what YOU do. I think it just depends on the baby. With my first I really wasn't sick at all, but with this new one I am sick all day. I haven't been throwing up or anything so I haven't really been losing weight but just feel like I am going to throw up all the time. I didn't change anything from that pregnancy to this one. If anything I had been trying to be healthier with this one! So I think it just depends on the baby. My one friend is super healthy, doesn't eat anything processed or any type of sugar and everything and she was so sick, throwing up all the time with her first. So don't beat yourself up. Just make sure you do what you need to do now to keep that baby healthy and if that means meds, then do it! I know it stinks, I have to be on Progesterone and folic acid to try to keep this baby. I was trying to change things and try natural ways to boost my hormones so I wouldn't have to be on a prescription, but I still did.
Side note, my doctor told me that taking Unisom Doxylamine 25mg with Vitamin B6 25mg once every 6 hours is supposed to really help with nausea. I never ended up trying it because I wasn't losing weight and I'm a SAHM of a 2 year old and was afraid it would knock me out all the time. Maybe this could be an alternative?? Good luck and feel better soon!
I know how you feel. With my first I had HG and I chalked it up to a crappy diet and just coming off BC, I was on medication the entire pregnancy. This time around it got pretty bad really fast, I got the prescription for diclectin (Our version of Unisom and b6, just patented and 3 time more expensive) I was wrapping my head around having to take it again. I haven't yet because in my mind I don't need it, but if this nausea and vomitting goes on much longer I will be taking it. 6 weeks with barely being able to leave my house is enough. I have lost weight but not enough to what I consider to be dangerous yet, or at a speed that is. I would suggest trying to use the Unisom and b6 combo first, motherisk has a really good chart to have you and your care provider choose the best option for you
Feel better soon x
You have to do what you have to do, there is no defeat in that.
Well done for looking after yourself and noticing it was time to get some advice and meds; your midwife sounds like she knows when the are needed, and that's what the meds are for after all.
I have certainly loss weight during the first trimester with sickness and not being able to eat much; it seems all "healthy" food my body rejects at the moment and I'm only managing to eat salty crackers or jelly sweets, yoghurt and peanut butter. That's been my diet for about two weeks now, and I'm usually a heathy eater.
Sending love and hoping you are feeling good very soon x
I went into my last pregnancy by about 15 pounds the thinnest I've ever been, I think I was on the line of being underweight for my height/frame, and it was by far the sickest of all my pregnancies. In addition to being in poor shape physically I was under a tremendous amount of stress. This time I've stopped eating wheat, went in 15 pounds heavier, and have had a slightly easier time. I think the most important factor for me is stress, they days I've been the sickest were days where I'm stressed out for some reason or other. If I keep my days as simple as possible I seem to do better.
Also, if you have made it to 9 weeks without meds, you are doing pretty well, you may well be able to go off them before too long. I hope it eases up for you soon. Did your sickness with your first get better at any point?
I just wanted to share that I experienced extreme sickness all through my first two pregnancies. The second one I had hoped would be better as I had been a lot stronger up until then and able to take better care of myself. Sadly, that was not to be. I was so sick again & had to be medicated. Both times I worried, but I am so thankful and happy to report that I had two healthy babies who have continued to grow & thrive. Sometimes all I could eat was a little bit of instant ramen noodles, maybe with a little cheese. How nutritious is that? It certainly beat the days when I could keep not a drop of water or food down & was throwing up bile until I cried. The medication probably saved my babies, and certainly saved me as I was getting so weak I could barely talk or think. This time is milder, but I am still feeling lousy 24/7 and sometimes I have to eat what my tummy will accept. (Banana and peanut butter smoothies anyone?) We are also really low on funds at the moment, so sometimes I have to try to just eat what we have, which doesn't always work but sometimes at least it does.
I really sympathise with feeling that somehow "I've failed", but I want to encourage you that it is plain you are doing the very best for you and your baby, and doing what you have to in order to feed you both is the absolute best you can do. Good luck! I really hope you are feeling a little better, or start to soon.
It's such a secret in society how many women suffer horribly with pregnancy! I too have been very ill up through mine, and I'm at 7.5 months. I tried all the natural remedies then had to go with meds. I became depressed from being so ill and started seeing a therapist as well. Highly recommended! I started with zofran, got relief for a few days, then not. Tried Reglan for a few days and felt WORSE. It was just a gross feeling with that drug. Then I started the unisom + b6 (bendectin) with some success. Now I switch back and forth from unisom/b6 to zofran (maybe 5-6 days of each) because our bodies build a tolerance.
I didn't want it to be this way but some women have no choice. No need to feel guilty, we should feel proud for crawling our way through this. I think it's better to get some relief and try to feel good during the pregnancy than feel horrible the entire time, which can spawn a lot of negativity.